The Brave Babes Battle Bus - A New Year, A New YOU!

[Mouseface]

New Year Resolutions Anyone?

Welcome one and all, I'm Mouse, nice to meet YOU. :)

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, it's all up to you.

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's in YOUR hands.

Whatever your goal, you'll find unconditional support here. Always.

There will be talk of drinking quite often and those who fall off the Bus will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY threads would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers, but EVERYONE IS WELCOME HERE :)

There are no hard and fast rules, other than the support here is unconditional, it may be in the form of tough love at times, but it's always meant with the very best of intentions.

There are two sayings that we rather like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
     
     
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia
     
     For those of you who'd like some history, here is the very first thread and the reason that we're all here now. FIRST THREAD
     
     And here is the lastest thread, which you can scroll back through to see the other JOURNEYS SO FAR
     
     The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, it is honest and it will help you to achieve what it is that you seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF
     
     See you soon. x

[Slapntickleothewenches]

why that's terrible news, hope you are managing to stay strong
its hope everything went ok for you today?

Everyone else, yay for your good news. It's day 13 here and I have found the courage to stop a weekly commitment that I was no longer enjoying but loathe to stop for fear of letting other people down. Being AF seems to have galvanised me as I have also spent the day searching out volunteering opportunities :)

[theeverydaydancer]

Just come back from a day out with with friend and my DD. Had a nice day but now I am tired and irritable. My DD is really getting on my nerves, I feel really agitated and just want to scream. Tonight would be the type of night where I would happily turn to the wine to calm my nerves down a bit. But I am taking one day at a time and have decided that I am not going to drink today. I think I might just beat the crap out a pillow later instead, see if that helps.

[babyjane1]

onboard welcome onboard, ha I was the first to say it, you will find great babes and advice here, slapday 12 is awesome, I'm hot on your heels on day 11 and your so so right sobriety brings clarity and the strengh of presence to decide how we should spend our time and live our life and that can only be a good thing, well done mrs xxx

[Slapntickleothewenches]

Psssst, it is I, crotch :o

[Anneisnotmyname]

Welcome onboard :)

dancer I totally understand that feeling of wanting a glass of wine after dealing with dc - I have it now, most nights probably, dds constantly fight and I can't seem to deal with them. I know I turn to wine to try and take tge edge of and unwind.

Have half a bottle of red that h left last night. I will not drink any. I'm just going to grind my teeth and remember I'll feel better tomorrow.

How did it go I'm?

[SweetLathyrus]

Welcome Onboard you'll find that lots of us use the same excuses - "it's been a good day", "It's been a rubbish day", "It's cold and raining I'll get comfy with a glass", "Phew it's hot, a cool glass of white is just what I need" I've said all those and more!

I really admire your will power to stay within limits, for me its no units or two many units - not very good at the inbewteen, balance thing!

Also welcome Cat.

So sorry to hear your news Why, just awful.

Crotch/Slap

Boy has my day been busy. Really really REALLY wanted a glass of wine when I got in this evening. DH was less than helpful - and offered to get me one because "You deserve it". But I resisted, and I'm so glad I did. WW has gone off to sulk at being ignored

[theeverydaydancer]

Yes Annie it is the need to take the edge off. Unfortunately I'm not a one glass type of girl more like a 1 bottle (if not more )... Well done for not touching the red from last night. That takes real will power if it is in the house and reachable.

[spanna41]

Evening all you lovely Brave Babes

Still hanging onto Day 12 (by the skin of my teeth) Monday evening (I know) is always a big drinking evening sounds nuts but it was always my reward for coping with DDs for the whole weekend

Baby a whole size smaller that is amaaaazzzzzing You go girl x

Cat welcome to this wonderful bus, stick with us, we will help you

Sweet yellow opal fruits x Another busy day for you, how's your smock looking? x

Crotch you're just trying to confuse us, with me it doesn't take much Day 13 - WELL DONE

Welcome Onboard stick with us babe it will help

I'm I am so sorry to hear about your friend, how awful

Dancer completely understand the grumps, short temper etc it will pass I am living proof of that and am generally a really grumpy person, when I let things get to me, I would reach for a bottle of wine or 2. you will turn a corner and it will be well worth it. Stick with it Babe x

Rural

I'm how are you babe? I've been worried for you all day. Please let us know that you're ok xxx

Anne I can really relate to DDs fighting and numbing my brain with wine to take the edge off the tension in the house. Mine aren't even fighting at the moment and I so want a glass

Beaches how are you my friend?

[dementedma]

spanna brilliant stuff.
beaches we need another list.
I am lapsed and will be until Thursday after my big birthday tomorrow. I think mouse and I should throw a joint bus party ....

[Slapntickleothewenches]

Sorry spanna :o
I actually NC'd as I wanted to ask a question about my dilemma which I was keen not to be rumbled over. Then I got brave and just sorted it myself but forgot to NC back. Actually I quite like it now

[ItsTheOnlyWayToLive]

Good evening, big hugs to all, and welcome to cat and onboard (waves)

So sorry about your friend, why, just awful xxxx

Any news, l'm? xxxx

It was just as bad as normal, slap/crotch. Rotten day.

Our dept is to close in the summer, and to know that being separated afterwards to other depts is upsetting. I appreciate it happens, been here before, but because our dept is closing down, the amount of patients that come through it has trebled, to significantly reduce the waiting lists. So we're run off our feet, and knowing the reason why. Just shattered. Thanks for asking btw xxx

Well done all, old and new, for abstaining, massive pats on backs, you've every reason to be proud. Day 8 and a half here and proud too

[SweetLathyrus]

Still rocking' the smock, Spanna Who deserves it next

[babyjane1]

only love the half day added on, class!!! crotch your a naughty girl tricking us like that, love the new name. spanna your so lovely to give us all a wee comment, I feel very special indeed, thank you. I can't mention every on account of my screen looking like a mosaic after I dropped it but your are all incredible and this bus and you guys make me feel like I'm in an incredible sisterhood so thank you all. I just sent to send special hugs to why im and mouse cos everyone needs a hug sometimes, even a cyber hug. Ironically my healthy eating plan has backfired as my Crohn's is causing me pain and more time in the loo than is fair, I also used wine to help relax and unwind and I'm finding it hard to manage domestic stress and it impacts my Crohn's when I'm stressed so I'm hoping CBT with a councillor might help, just waiting on an app. Anyway onwards and upwards my friends, we're all FABULOUS xx

[spanna41]

Sorry Why I didn't mean I'm in my earlier post x

Sweet I think you need to keep said Smock for a bit Babe, you deserve it It's up to you who you give it to next

It's Day 8 and a Half is brilliant well done Babe sorry to hear about all the changes at work, it sounds like really hard work and very unsettling

Crotch I can't decide whether to call you Slap Tickle or Wenches which would you prefer Babe?

Thanks Ma How's your Birthday eve going? My brother is a sailor and loves a good shanty with a guitar, sounded like a really good crack on Saturday

[ItsTheOnlyWayToLive]

Babyjane-it would have been 9 days if I hadn't had a bit of a wobble on Friday night xxx

[FortyDoorsToNowhere]

Hi I heard of this thread today.

Decided in the new year that I need to control my drinking.

Even though I drink once a week, when I do I can't stop. To a point that on a Saturday I am that hung over that my DH has to take over the house and children. I would say Sunday I am a bit iffy to but can function.

How do I limit the amount I drink.

[spanna41]

Welcome Forty. Well done for posting When you're drinking on a Friday is it 'out' or at home? Is it just once a week?

[venusandmars]

forty it starts with the first glass.... say no to that one, choose something else non alcoholic to drink, and for five minutes, or half an hour, or for the rest of the evening enjoy the feeling of being in control.

Then try it again for the next drink.

I know from plenty of experience that it IS possible to do this for the first drink. I also know from plenty of experience that if I try to have 'just one' drink and then stop, then once I've had that single drink it takes away my control and I'm off on my usual track.

If you don;t want to drink at all at home, then the best thing is to resolutely not buy anything that you like to drink, and instead buy some fizzy water, or juice or hot chocolate - whatever floats your boat. It can feel impossible to resist a bottle of wine that is already sitting chilled in the fridge. So don't do it.

I know it sounds simple, and I know if feels so hard, but come and post here and loads of people will support and help and cheer you on.

[PurpleSmurfette]

Evening my lovelies xx

Why I'm so sorry hon, huge hugs xx
I hope everything has gone ok today I'm?

I don't have the brain power to NC the rest of you clever WW bashing ladies - I've just run 3km and simultaneously impressed with myself and wondering how the hell I run 6 times that distance in 3 months time!

Now in my PJ's with a cat and a hot choc. that's me done for the evening!

S

[FortyDoorsToNowhere]

It was at my parents.

I have stopped going up there in the evening and stay at home.

[dementedma]

Well done on the 3k smurfette
I do the c25k every year but am just one week 1.
Well, in a few hours I will be 50! Hard to believe really. Time to take stock, make changes,start being who I want to be, not who everyone else wants me to be.
I wonder what this year will bring...for sure the death of my father, which I think is imminent and will be for the best for him. For me and "d" h ? Well, we shall see.
Thanks for being here Babes

[ItsTheOnlyWayToLive]

Forty-do not, and I repeat, do not buy alcohol free wine. It's disgusting. Take it from someone who knows from (very bitter ) experience just how awful it is

I'm going to try AF koppaberg, and some of the posters on here seem to like Becks Blue
Welcome, by the way xxx

[ItsTheOnlyWayToLive]

Well done, purple, thats quite an achievement x
Ma, you're going in the right direction if you be want you want to be. Sorry to hear about your father, and hope you and dh come to the right decision for both of you in the long term xx

[Imdoingthis]

Not read back tonight just got the report through my door tonight, not herd from SW her plan doesn't seem to safeguard us, it says to make house safe etc it says to re home my rabbits, and for me to have a phycolicical assessment wtf???? I am confused hes killed my pets smashed my car window and gave me black eyes as she says in report but nothing to stop him I'm a bit well not sure how I'm feeling

[Imdoingthis]

Maybe I am going mad confused tonight and scared