The Brave Babes Battle Bus - A New Year, A New YOU!

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New Year Resolutions Anyone?

Welcome one and all, I'm Mouse, nice to meet YOU. :)

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, it's all up to you.

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's in YOUR hands.

Whatever your goal, you'll find unconditional support here. Always.

There will be talk of drinking quite often and those who fall off the Bus will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY threads would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers, but EVERYONE IS WELCOME HERE :)

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1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

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Hello lovely's
Was a long meeting yesterday over 3 hrs, and so many people there i was shocked, they put the dc on protection plans, another meeting in two weeks, and me and him have to have phycolicical test anyone know what these show? Will achieve ?
They are going to do two visits a fortnight some unannounced.

It means the children are now on their protection radar and it is time to break out the lawyers. The 3 hour meeting is a child safety conference. It is fo the protection of the children only - not you. Get a lawyer. Do not refuse the psychological assesment, say you are awaiting legal counsel.

Im - Hello. It sounds as though you have been through the wringer in that meeting, PM me if you'd rather not go into detail here but what exactly was said in the 3 hours? Were you both there for that long?

As Why said, GET A SOLICITOR OR LAWYER - you may be able to get one via Legal Aid. DO THAT ASAP!

Can I suggest that you post about what has happened and what was said in the meeting in the Legal section on here and ask for advice? I'm not trying to get rid of you by any means, but we don't have much experience of the kind of legal requirements, processes and what you need and where you'll get it. Especially now the authorities are involved.

We can give you as much emotional support as you need lovely, and I can tell you how I got out of my own personal situation, where you can get help etc but that's where my experience and help has to stop because I can only tell you what I personally went through.

Others have posted suggestions of where to get help and I am sure you've looked into things but this is getting very real and serious now sweetheart.

You need legal representation and you need it NOW.

As Why said, the children are now on the Child Protection Register or close to being on it, which is why some visits will be unannounced.

Make sure that you let them in! And do what else Why suggested, don't refuse the tests now, not at this point, this has all gone too far to turn back and pretend it will be okay if you stay with him etc.

You've said all along that you wanted to get out, he beat you and awful, terrible things that I am not repeating as they were via PM. Do the tests but do what Why suggests, delay them.

From here on in, you have to jump through every hoop, every hurdle, face every meeting with fresh eyes and an open mind. This is not about protecting you, this is for the children.

YOU TOO NEED PROTECTING.

What did he say? How did he react to all of this?

I'm worried about you, that he'll kick off and blame YOU for this happening. Is he in the house?

Please take care of yourself Im and don't stay another minute if he does try anything. Call the police, log everything from here on in! Take photo's of bruises take photos of anything that he does to the house, (damage) and please, please, please, keep letting us know that you are okay. xxx

I wish you'd gotten out before all of this. I wish you had someone to help you. I'm so sorry that you aren't safe. xxx

Im, please follow the advice Mouse is giving - I'm no expert but I think cases involving domestic violence were one of the few areas of Legal Aid to be protected when cuts were made. Make sure you you get legal advice from some one who specialises in Family law and DV.

And keep coming here for all the support we can offer.

Im good to see you post. . I agree with Why, Mouse and Sweet, you really must get some legal advice. Someone with knowledge of the law and the process you are in to help you understand EXACTLY what you have to do and what SS are concerned about.

I/we are all worried for you and your dc Im. Keep posting. Xx

im you really need to get some back up and you mustn't let him in the house, if you get a random visit and he's there bold as brass with his feet up then it will appear that you are allowing a dangerous msn in your home. I totally agree with mouse your in a serious situation and need someone in your corner, I'm so sorry your going through all this, life is so bloody unfair, hugs from me xxx

I'm Babe I haven't got any advice that no-one mentioned already. I just want to give you a big hug xxx and let you know that I'm thinking of you xxx

How is everyone else doing?

Sweet you took the words right out of my mouth! I was about to type the same
How are you Babe? how was your day?

Being sober is feeling very normal now, Spanna, lots of focus at work! starting to drop a pound or two! and only a brief wobble, more like a fleeting "wouldn't it be nice to have" earlier, but then I realised not as nice as I've felt all week. So good, you?

I'm ok Babe not too bad, can't quite believe I'm on Day 14 Focused but really tired, I'm finding it really hard to get to sleep and then wake at stupid o'clock with stuff going through my mind and then just get back to sleep and the alarm goes off I saw a spaniel today and looked at it's ears which reminded me of titty bollocks

Bum, just lost a long post! Something along the lines of . . .

at 'titty bollocks! And about to hit week three, brilliant. But the sleeping, well it wouldn't be any better with wine, I think Jan is just a long stressful month for lots of us, but nights are getting lighter (when it's not raining), I find that helps too

(But longer)! Think I'm looking at an early night tonight!

Hey Babes - how is everyone?

Where is everyone?

:)

D'argh! Lapsing for my birthday has been a disaster. Can't get back into it now. Was supposed to start low carb boot camp and have had most of a bottle of wine and some birthday cake!
I was doing so well and losing weight and now I have completely lost my way.
Keep at it those of you still beating the shit out of the ww

Hi Mouse I've just popped in and not caught up with thread yet. How are you? How was your birthday? Sorry if I missed a post, been thinking of you x

Im what why and others have said, you need a family law solicitor fast. Try to delay psychological assessment until you have one.
Get help ASAP XX

Hour at a time tomorrow Ma

Think I'm going to turn in for the night. Have a good one.

Hi mouse faire and ma
Really hard today the WW has been screaming, shouting, cajoling and have been taking it a minute at a time. Think Im winning now tho, DAY 3 nearly done...

Sleep well sweet well done on hitting week three. I AM IN AWE

Evening all

Hi I'm. Go onto the legal site here on MN, my love, even if it means starting from the beginning. You've had excellent advice, but now's the time to take control, and you need the big boys in to help xxxx

Hope everything ok with you all, being good tonight as I'm out shopping tomorrow. My friend is being induced with her first baby as of a few hours ago, yay, so buying baby stuff, can't wait! And also seeing whats (left) in the sales

My ear is glued to the phone for news ....

Hi Ma sounds like you had a good birthday. Don't worry if you're not straight back into it, it's hard when you still have booze/food hanging around.

Now, either consume it or chuck it out. Which is it to be?

Once that's done, you can get back on it. A few days won't make a difference but a few weeks might.

Why do I have Devil Gate Drive going round in my head?

rural it's nearly done, you have this one in the bag.

Also, ma d'argh isn't a word. It's either d'oh or argh.

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Ma what our wise woman faire said. You know you can do it now.

D'argh is a good word.
I like it almost as much as wankbadger.