Have you ever cheated on DP?

[MamaPingu]

I hope this is ok to ask, I end up wondering about things to myself then end up quizzing MNers about it

So if it's ok..
How did it happen?
Did you know the person you cheated with?
Does DP know?

Not on my current D.P as I have no need to but I did in the past because my needs were not bring satisfied by then partner we were together for 2 months and he never even touched me no a kiss or anything, honest! Therefore I went out and slept with someone else and it was the best sex I've ever had. I felt no guilt at all. Why should I? had he treated me properly and made me feel loved and desired I wouldn't have gone looking elsewhere. It's as simple as that. I would cheat again if I had to, and I make no alologies for that. xx

I haven't, I work with a load of old men haha!

No. Never. Like to think I never would.

But as you say, according to MN and the relationship boards, there are lots and lots of cheating, lots of OW out there. so statistically, clearly obviously lots of people do cheat.

I did after many years of being faithful. He was an abusive, controlling bully. I still don't feel guilty. We split up shortly afterwards.

Our paths sometimes cross because we share grown up children and it's amazing how much nicer someone is once you're not actually married to them any more.

Not with current DP, the thought would never cross my mind. I did as a teenager when I was young and stupid. We were engaged and he was abusing me and I had no idea how to get out of the relationship. My best friend at the time was amazing (or at least I naively thought at the time) and instead of leaving my ex I cheated on him my best friend (best friend at the time was cheating on his fiancee with me). Not my proudest of moments. That ex also cheated on me with his previous girlfriend.

Ime women cheat with someone they know whereas men cheat with someone they don't know.

I've been on the pastoral support network for three of my previous employers which meant that I supported colleagues with work related issues or issues affecting work including affairs between colleagues. I ended up dealing with a lot of affairs particularly with the two bigger employers as it was the type of mediation that wouldn't be on the HR file (even though the HR files are confidential people get rather cagey about sex).

IME women cheat far far far more in the workplace than men. The office 'bikes' were usually single men and problems arose when women discovered their special affair wasn't so special. Surprisingly there were very few stereotypical predatory older man in position of authority scenarios but that could be because those issues went through HR rather than the pastoral network.

Zombie

No, never. Have been cheated on myself and wouldn't do it to somebody. It's damaged me for life.

ZOMBIE THREAD

Never cheated, not even on the ex who raped me and emotionally abused me. He probably would have been one of the most deserved men to cheat on too, but I still never did.

Why? I have self respect. Just because someone hurts me doesn't give me equal right to hurt them. Besides I'm the bigger person to not do so. Maybe he cheated on me, I don't know. I doubt it given what he was like but you never know. Don't care either way, he is in the past.

I do not like women or men who do not care about ruining a relationship by helping someone cheat. Yes the person in the relationship shouldn't cheat and they get the biggest backlash, rightly so. But the person helping the cheating spouse could make the choice to not hurt another person by sleeping with their partner. It's not difficult. There's been people I've fancied, but they've been in relationships so it's kept as friendship only and I get over it. To be honest once I get to know them better I lose the feelings quickly as I don't actually like them haha. I just don't know why people thinks it's fine to have an affair with someone married, maybe it's low self esteem or whatever but it's weird behaviour.

Barbaro can you get those judgey pants any further up your arse? The resulting wedgey must be bloody awful!

Yes. Married 20 years and yes I've cheated, several times.
Not sure if it's something in build, my parents were constantly having affairs. Not sure if it's because I'm unhappy in my marriage, not sure if it's the sheer excitement after living a fairly mundane life.
I just don't know why but I have and probably will again.

* holds hands up ready to be shot

Hi yes I did been married 11 years 2 dc he constantly called me a stupid fat ffing cow I told him when I lost my weight I would leave never believed it but when I lost the weight he changed got clingy etc but the damage was done I had an affair I guess to boost my own confidence I left within 2 months he wanted me back but too late x don't have an affair for revenge it isn't worth it!

I am happy now but feel guilty a lot women do do it whether they admit or not there is a bit more to the story but that's the basics

Hope you're ok