Found Porn on hubbys ipad website data

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Hi everyone, i just need your opinion/advice..So I looked on his ipad advanced website data and there are three porn sites on there but he says they are a 'shadow' from looking at it ages ago. The thing is i deleted all the porn from this list so i know its recent (last two weeks) - is it just pop ups? They are quite near the top of the list and there is 12 KB on each - what does this mean? Does anyone else have the ipad and know what im talking about? Has he been back on the porn site and i'm just being naive? where would a porn pop up come from? I am so sick of this, we have this row over and over...

I honestly think the act of snooping on your partner is far more destructive to any relationship than looking at vanilla porn. Snooping is after all a form of control, checking he isn't misbehaving in your opinion, because that's all it is, your opinion. If he was dead against porn he wouldn't watch it, and if he likes it then he'll watch it. In much the same way if a partner wants to cheat on you, there is nothing you can do about it if he or she wants to it will happen. I think most women seem to think it's a form of cheating looking at porn, to most men it's simply a form of maintenance nothing more......

OMG are telling us that your husband is actually enjoying looking at couples having sex? What a sicko, how abnormal, he can't be right in the head surely. That is absolutely disgusting, you need to report this to the Police straight away. They really need to bring back the death penalty for this type of deviant behaviour. Nip it in the bud straight away otherwise next he will be buying books like Fifty Shades of Grey and Mills & Boon. Get a computer expert in and have it forensically examined. He might also be on National Geographic watching documentaries of lions and other animals mating.

Old thread people.

I think you have to either accept that he is going to watch it and turn a blind eye to it or separate to be honest if it is that much of an issue for you. There is no trust in the relationship at present.

This.

He hadn't been straight/honest - he just decided to humour you and hide it (or giving him.thr benefit of the doubt, he planned to stop all use but has slipped back into at times). Seems like hell keep doing it, and you'll keep getting hurt &angry about it.

You either accept he'll use it sometimes and turn a blind eye (his use doesn't sound like it's much/excessive?) or you end the relationship, which I know would be very hard if the rest of it is fine.

He is simultaneously not among the men who never watch porn (and to be honest no think those men are in the minority, though I have certainly dated one who didn't, he said it did next to nothing for him and seemed genuine).

Simply not simultaneously

All guys look at porn whether hey tell you they do or not.

Fuck off. Not true.

Is it really a big issue if he is watching porn himself? If you don't like to see it that is completely up to you but if he is doing it privately I dont see the issue. He is a man at the end of the day!

ZOMBIE THREAD

All men look at it and lie about it and get worse as they get into their 50's and those that say they do not look at it are just lying.

Exactly it's OP checking. Porn is a huge thing on here but I don't hear of it IRL. It's not OK to go snooping around!

Oh spare me
When men stop lying about their porn use in order to maintain relationships where the woman has been clear she doesn’t want to be with a porn user then and only then will women stop looking .
if someone’s lying and you have strong reasons to suspect they are it’s human nature to check
and if ge did use the porn after they agreed not to , HE is the one who’s been violating the trust all along and possibly stealing years of her life

disagree . I wouldn’t want to waste years of my life with a porn user simply because I was too scared to look at an iPad
people without secrets have nothing to hide so it shouldn’t be a big deal …. But SO MANY men lie about porn and women who simply wouldn’t want to be with them waste years by ignoring their instinct

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I love the fact that women think men won't look at porn. If a man doesn't watch porn he doesn't watch porn, but you are never going to stop a man who watched poem from watching it. You are fighting a losing battle in most cases, heck a huge amount of females these days watch it too.

If I was told I couldn't watch it two things would happen

1. I'd watch in secret.
2. I tell you to do one.

For me, it's just another form of control. Where is the line drawn.

I don't like you wearing high heels, don't wear them. Yes I understand it's different but to me it's the same.

It needs to be one of the first things you ask on a date (That's going to go down well) and each can just walk away if they are honest with themselves and each other but the rate of children born will massively drop as nobody would get together 😂

if you want to watch it and support the industry go for your life BUT don’t think it’s ok to get involved with a woman who upfront t says she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with a man who uses porn !

you have zero right to lie ! Zero
some women simply don’t want to be with a man who does ideas it and they have a every right to that boundary

you chooses someone who doesn’t care and you’ll be fine

@Nicestory

I agree. What I'm saying is that most men will just say they will stop and won't. Time and time again you see it here.

I can't tell you UK % of men that watch porn or women but I bet it's high.

All of a sudden you are asking a man to change what probably is a long habit of use / occasional use.

If a woman or man were up front in the beginning then no problem, but at what point does a person ask about porn. Is it 3 years into a relationship when they find history in a browser.

If a person said they don't watch porn and 3 years in you find out they've lied, that's different.

Am I really going to turn round after 1 or 2 years and maybe kids and say okay, it's a dealbreaker I'm off. At some point I am probably going to watch porn even if I said I wouldn't and that goes for most men too.

Just my opinion.

Zombie thread

Zombie thread but no one gets to control what someone thinks about or turns them on when they masturbate.

@tawse57 Why are you here? Your post sounds like something from Incel Reddit Red Pillers.

Zombie thread. Why can't they shut these down???

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Zombie thread!

I am so sick of this, we have this row over and over...

You can only control your own behaviour. Not someone elses.

You don't want your partner to watch porn.
Your partner watches porn.

He's not going to stop so you should take control and end the relationship, instead of having row after row.

His porn use may not affect the OP, but I still don't think it's ok if it's something she's totally anti on and a deal breaker.

A dealbreaker is something that you won't put up with though. If it's a dealbreaker then you leave. You don't keep catching them doing the dealbreaker, row about it, catch them again, row about it and so on.

He's lying, but the OP knows he's lying and she's still staying with him.

I did a mumsnet search for “zombie porn” and ended up here, and tbh I can’t say I’m disappointed!