My story, advance warning, it's long, but I know I need outside perspective and advice.
I met Mr Zany on POF, not my usual type at all, but when we met I found myself quite attracted to him. One thing that caught me was his smile, I buckle at the knees for a great smile. We dated a while and then on one date he threw a strop over something so minor I was shocked. We stopped seeing each other on a regular basis but agreed to remain friends. I was more than happy with this. Soon afterwards I met Mr OMG.
From the second I met him the sparks from us both were like thunder bolts. I have never known chemistry like it. His job means he is away quite a bit then has chunks of time at home, but nothing can ever really be planned as he could be called away any time. Second date we DTD it was possibly the most boring sex I have ever had. I still knew the chemistry was huge and wondered if in time things would get better. He suddenly vanished and I was left totally bereft which after two dates was stupid. Soon afterward he reappeared with a very viable excuse, but by then I was wary.
I began to see Mr Zany for a odd coffee and chat, nothing more, purely as friends, however, I found out he was going to be spending Christmas alone and couldn't have that, so he came to ours. My DC are both older and they liked him when they very first met him when we were first dating, so were delighted he was coming over. He arrived Christmas eve with pressies and wine. After a couple few glasses he asked if we could become exclusive. I must point out here, he is solid, reliable, truthful to the point of being brutal, fantastic in bed, and he adores me and my DC. He has a DS he sees every other weekend, and does on occasion have to work away for a few days. All in all he is perfect for me, and I would be lying if I said I had no feelings for him.
My problem is Mr OMG. He has sent me a string of texts begging me to see him again. He said he loves me which of course is ridiculous, but, he makes me absolutely weak at the knees if I hear his voice or look at his photograph. He spoils me and treats me like a Princess when we are together, when we are not he is on POF and only now and again texts me. I was also going back onto POF and decided to try 'treat him mean, keep him keen' it worked too well. Now I am really in a quandary.
My heart is telling me wait for Mr OMG as the electricity between us when together is so intense, my head is telling me stay with Mr Zany who is fun, and will never hurt me. I can't with any conviction say Mr OMG won't hurt me.
What the hell do I do, head or heart?