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Tell me your success stories of meeting a partner over 40

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AnuvvaMuvva · 30/12/2013 19:34

I mean when you were over 40. :)

It feels to me that the media spreads a lot of scary stories about women over 40 never being able to find a new partner. And of 40+ men living in a world of endless young fanjo and joy. Which could lead to women aged 40 or above staying in miserable relationships out of fear it's their last chance.

So... Let's redress the balance of the folklore! Did you meet your partner over 40? Tell us everything. :)

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AnuvvaMuvva · 30/12/2013 20:31
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AnuvvaMuvva · 30/12/2013 20:33

Sorry to hear that, Pan. Brew

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LineRunner · 30/12/2013 20:38

I am a fairly unusual case in that my OH is a full-time lone parent, as am I. Between us we have six teenagers full-time.

Six.

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AnuvvaMuvva · 30/12/2013 20:38

Six!

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NotNewButNameChanged · 30/12/2013 20:46

I bloody hope so. I'm a man, turning 40 in 2014, been single 4 years, haven't had a date in 3. Done online dating, new clubs, salsa dancing, the lot. Hideous.

Pan · 30/12/2013 20:47

Annuva - we aren't complaining. I was being supportive of you. But ta for the tea.Smile

Edamame · 30/12/2013 20:55

I met my DP 16 months ago at the age of 40 (me) and 45 (him). We're expecting a baby in March :)

PaulaFletch14 · 30/12/2013 21:00

Met my fiancé at 38 18 months ago he was 42. Buying a house together and getting married in August

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AnuvvaMuvva · 30/12/2013 21:04

Pan :)

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AnuvvaMuvva · 30/12/2013 21:07

NotNew - salsa dancing? I admire your commitment to the cause of True Love. You deserve a Purple Heart for that.

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AnuvvaMuvva · 30/12/2013 21:07

Edamame - congratulations! That's so lovely. :) :)

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AnuvvaMuvva · 30/12/2013 21:09

This thread is cheering me up immensely! I started it feeling really quite despondent and cynical, but I feel brilliant now. I hope everyone else feels positive too.

Here's to a love-filled 2014!

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Triumphoveradversity · 30/12/2013 21:16

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EllieInTheRoom · 30/12/2013 21:21

My aunt finally dumped her loser boyfriend of 20 years when she was 40 and was convinced she'd missed the boat. A year later she had hooked up with a bloke she met down the local was pregnant and getting married. Her son is 4 now and has a two year old brother. They're all happy as pigs.

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AnuvvaMuvva · 30/12/2013 21:24

Sniff!

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EllieInTheRoom · 30/12/2013 21:27

[hanky]

MarlboroughMillie · 30/12/2013 21:31

I got divorced aged 40, ten years ago now (yikes!). Since then have had two 3 year relationships, which were fun but didn't work out in the end. Then spent a year having a ball OD, until I met my now DP 2 years ago. He moved in earlier this year, and it looks like it's for keeps.

We both have kids - I have 3 teenagers, his two are older and don't live with us. All easy and relaxed - the most stress free relationship I have ever known.

Age is totally irrelevant, I reckon. Plenty of men out there who are not just interested in 20 year old bimbos. I made some good friends along the way.

Go for it and have fun!

Pigsmummy · 30/12/2013 21:41

Our friends met at 42, got married and now are 49, very very happy and have a lovely dog. They met through mutual friends at a leaving drinks party

Blossomflowers · 30/12/2013 21:46

This is also making me feel good. There is hope yet. Also would like to add my DM remarried 3 years ago. she will be 70 this year and hubby 73, I gained a new dad Smile

stargirl04 · 30/12/2013 21:49

Here's another story to cheer you up, but both have grown up kids and neither wants more, I'm afraid.

My friend met her DP when she was 52, and he 56. Six years on they adore each other and are the most compatible couple I know: they have so much in common they are like two peas in a pod except that she is tidy and he is messy. I think, given the kind of issues that could possibly rear their ugly head, a messy fella is a godsend!

As for me, I'm now 48, had a few flings from 40-41, then a 2 year relationship, then a four year one, and happily single!

stargirl04 · 30/12/2013 21:52

PS. The Daily Mail enjoys bashing women over 40 because they're annoyed at us for being career women, ie. taking jobs from men and /or not giving birth. The Mail wants us all to be lonely and miserable!

Montane50 · 30/12/2013 21:55

Met DP 8 months ago OL, im 45 hes 46. We both went into the relationship knowing what we did and didn't want, but also what matters and what really doesn't. I was married for 19 years and DP understands me more than exh ever did-i told him recently that ive finally become the me i always should have been. He was worth the wait!

Blossomflowers · 30/12/2013 21:58

aah montane how lovely Smile

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AnuvvaMuvva · 30/12/2013 22:13

God, my screen is getting rather misted-up reading these...

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Blossomflowers · 30/12/2013 22:15

too many glasses of vino anuvv Smile