DH has announced he is bored and lonely... again...

[MalcolmTuckerIsMyHERO]

Hi all,

Ive posted before about my relationship under the name s0fedup. Not sure how to namechane when doing a thread...

Anyway, I dont want to drip feed but tjis time last year I was newly pregnant (unplanned) dh didnt want baby, wanted to leave...

fast forward to baby being 5 weeks old. All ok I tjought, then we had a huge row when he pushed me whilst i was holding the baby.

He has form for making huge swweping statements where he says he doesnt love me blah blah blah

Anyway, baby got the D&V bug on friday night. Dc2 got it yesterday, i got it last night.

I was a wreck and he just got so wound up with the baby not settling. Its because he has never put the baby to bed or done any actual childcare. I have done every night since they were born (6months ago) in fact me and bubs sleep in the nursery together...

Anyway, I ended up settling baby after vomiting but she would only sleep on me. Not a kind work from DH.

Other dc stayed downstairs with dh until je came to bed.

I had to look after baby all night even though I was ill, a d even went into dc when he was sick at 4.

By 7am I had all 3 in thr nursery, i had to go into him at 7:45 to ask him to take 2 of them so me and poorly dc could rest.

He then and hour later cant settle baby, comes up gives her to me and says he needs a shower and is going out.
All grumpy, I ask whats wrong and he anmounces in a pained voice how bored and lonely he is!

Have i not noticed?? errr no,

Bit dramatic sighs, he leaves

WTAF???

He has done this so many times i am really angry, we have family coming today then my Dm for xmas!!!!!

Sorry for marathon rant, not sure how to feel?...

i will be staying in my house and u will be paying

excellent

now, while he is gone, do what TCF said re getting all your finacial ducks in a row

this twat will rue the day he tried to take the piss out of you (if MN has anything to do with it...)

i like the bin bag idea...
I dont want to make him angry though, he xould insist on sleeping in the study...

wooooooop!!!! thanks mn!

Don't be scared of him. He's fucked up not you! You will be ok. All courts care about is supporting the kids, not releasing him from his responsibilities!!

PS now may be the time to go part time at work so you can cope love.

If only you would wake up and realise he is not the boss of you.

i work 3 days at the ment always wanted to do 2 he said no we couldnt afford it :(

Does anyone know...
will he have to pay the mortgage and cs on top?

im going to get all paperwork tonight and go on entitled.

so tired though

Leave it for tonight if you wish

I suggest you go to CAB and/or your family law solicitor on monday, it can all wait until then

if, of course, all internet accounts are locked down

I wouldn't put it past him to drain the lot...is everything ok from that POV ?

Sadly he doesn't have to pay anything except CSA rate child support but hopefully he'll want to avoid bad credit by defaulting on the mortgage. If he does that speak to the mortgage lender to freeze the account until the divorce?

That can't be right. If he is on the mortgage he has to pay.

Only just read this through and have to say ... You might not feel it right now, but I think you're doing really well.
I also think you'll look back on this snog and be so grateful it happened because it was that final push.
He's an arse, a boring, arrogant, abusive arse and you are a lovely, strong, kind, witty woman who deserves a hell of a lot better than his meagre offerings !
Believe me it's better to be divorced and a happy mummy, than one walking on egg shells and upset all the time, I promise you !
I really have nothing to offer in the way of advice - other than I was upset when my parents split up, but now so happy they did .
If you're too tired tonight, look up the financial stuff when he has the kids tomorrow, make your plan then.

the only legal thing he has to pay is child support as per csa guidelines.

he just sent this

I'm really sorry that I have caused you so much upset. I've never wanted to hurt you. You are a fantastic mum and a brilliant person. We have just drifted so far apart over the past year

yes, because of him

bollocks mind games

he told.me.he would move the large sum for the house into.our joint tomorrow.

I am trusting all in order with joint account... I will call tomorrow. All housrhold bills in his name

She, by the way, has deleted her facebook account amd is petrified i will tell her fiance. Stuid little whore

bloody full stops!!!

should be STUPID WHORE

I have not responded

No, he is the whore. She is simply stupid.

Oh u got him out? Well done.
Let the start of a new more peaceful life begin.

No no no to him kipping in the study!

Thatd suit him too well. He'd have the children there, noeffort requirred to see them but could come and go as he pleased.

Agree with anyfucker (as always)

hes at his.mums tonight
he wants to know about whether he can come back...

Remember the cycle? Nice-nasty-nice-nasty...

He will be nice if he thinks he will gain from it. Stay strong, stand up to him and watch him go nasty again.