The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Walking In A Winter Sober Land!

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Hello Brave Babes, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the 'Bus Of Fun' (now you've come of age!)

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, with a view to quitting or not... it's up to you.

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's in your hands. And only you can make it happen.

Whatever your goal, you'll find support here. Always.

There will be talk of drinking and those who fall off the Bus (arse over tit) will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY thread would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers. :)

That said, this Bus is happy to have you no matter what, as long as you can cope with chat of drinking, nights out/in, failures, cyclical drinkers, etc......

Everyone has always been welcome here and shall remain to be.

No-one is ever turned away. EVER.

There are no hard and fast rules, other than the support here is unconditional, it may be in the form of tough love at times, but it's always meant with the very best of intentions.

There are two sayings that we like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

The rest kind of happens as the posts appear.

I hope that's okay with you all.

You'll find the last thread HERE, THAT WILL LEAD TO THREADS BEFORE IT, SOME HISTORY

And the original and real, truly heartfelt reason that we are here in the first place is HERE. A VERY SOBERING READ

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, honest and will help you to achieve what it is that you seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

See you soon. x

Any update im?

Long, tough, good, Beaches, first week of 'acting up' in a new role with a pretty steep learning curve, but there's no way I could have done it with a permanent hangover, so it's a good sort of tired

Hi babes
Today was a waist of time at 12.50 she called me to say her report wasn't ready in time and she will bring it over Monday, so I have to wait now all weekend to find out her recommendation
And also she said she had been to see him and he has kicked up a fuss about not being invited to the conference, and as he has PR he has a right to be there so I will attend the first half and him the second half I'm gutted and told her I don't know if I can attend the meeting if hes going, she tried to reassure me that I won't see him bit I know I will we are attending the same building FFS.

I feel probably a bit irrational but that she has a plan to take my dc away, she was veuge on the phone and didn't seem to have concern for my safety I told her I was at risk by inviting him to the meeting.

I have cried a tone as I need to know what is happening what she is going to recommend,
He cancelled contact tonight said he was working so could not have the dc,

I felt so supported by you all, reading it all has made me feel a load better and not lonely, not sure how I'd be without all your support.

I have feeling this thing with SS may drag on for quite a while.

isinde your hissing place ??

Im it is so difficult when you have prepared yourself, worried, expected progress etc? Can’t say much more than that, and offer a virtual hug, and continued support.

well done sweet sounds like you have a lot to deal with and staying sober,thanks for the mention
Beaches WW now known as Saggy Tits good one tho is being a real bitch tonight. Think I've foiled her now though. I have done the drill and am now in PJ'S. Take that SPANIEL EAR TITS grin]
IM So sorry at your news, stay sober and stay strong. Really hoping you get him out of your life very soon. Thinking of you xx

Isinde whatever hising/hissing place is !!! Bloody Well Done on hitting back at saggy tits/ww and a sober Friday. You rock my friend

Im is PR parental rights? I am glad he has cancelled tonight - whatever the reason, it keeps him away from you. I hear how nervous you are about the outcome of this meeting and only wish I knew enough to reassure you. Try and focus on keeping a clear head honey and breathe deep. Sending support x

Sweet well done on getting through your week and for doing it hangover free

Isinde great post! We are heading into temperatures of +6 tomorrow - bit of a jump from -14 this morning. Bonkers weather but this should let some of the snow melt. Can't believe Niagra has frozen , it hasn't done that in years! very very unusual.

Rural I think we just generally abuse the WW with any insulting name that fits the mood! Well done on socking it to her tonight!

Evening all Brave Babes

My neighbour came round earlier with a bottle of wine in her hand (usual Friday night that we have drinking at the kitchen table, chatting having a catch etc) As she and the wine entered the house I mentioned that I wasn't drinking. I could tell that she'd already had a few. I got one glass out, she poured the wine and I put the kettle on. We sat there for 2 hours, her getting more pissed, me making more tea . She drank 3 quarters of the bottle and guess what?

I didn't drink ANY I have done Day 9 woooo hoooooo I can't believe I didn't cave in partake

Well done Spanna, that took real strength to stay off the wine with your friend coming round with a bottle! That must be great for your confidence! x

Spanna whoop whoop!! Awesome, well done babe and you isinde, gold stars all round.

Just been woken by millions of alarms to find we have a power cut great!

spanna WW must be shaking in her boots at your strength. Bloody well done.

Yay spanna :o

beaches yes sorry I ment parental responsibility, this will be the longest weekend ever now, I just want to know her recomendations, I want to know if I'm going to lose my dc or not, if they want to take them they need to apply to court right? They carnt just take them?
Anxiety is sky high today.

Well done on all the days clocking up AF for you all your doing fantastic keep going lovely babes x

Entering Day 4 in quite a bad mood. Didn't get to sleep until the early hours and then got rudely awakened by my DD at about 7am so am a bit like a bear with a headache this morning! Hopefully my day/mood will improve. DD going to her Dad's for the weekend so have time alone to do some work and also have booked a massage later as a treat for giving up smoking, so at least I have something to look forward too. Hope everyone is well this morning

Rocking day 9 here!!! I can't post much I dropped my iPhone yesterday and the screen is cracked all over so I can't see what I'm typing, hope it makes sense. Off to ballet with dd2 in pink tutu (9.30 start seemed like a good idea at the time) heating broken so we're baaaaaallllltttttiiiiicccc here xxxxxx

Morning and big hugs to all on the bus

well done spanna, that was impressive

I 've had a little wobble last night unfortunately. Rotten day yesterday, mentioned earlier about low morale and high stress levels at work (departmental closures), well, it was just awful. Just couldn't help myself...

I had 2 glasses of wine. Wasn't too bad considering, and I was proud I stopped myself having more, but in the cold light of day, I feel I've failed.

Looks like this is classed as back to day 1, or is 2 glasses neither here or there? (looking hopeful). Be honest. Yesterday would have been day 6. Was doing so well (cringe).

On the upside, dh had only 2 pints last night, so it seems to be rubbing off there. I told him it would be good to support each other as he drinks a fair amount too, and he has agreed.

I have to be honest with myself and work out whether I need to just cut down rather than cut out completely.

theeveryday-I was crabby on day 4 too

Today is day 11, that's more than a third through
I had one bottle of Becks blue last night. Disappointingly it was bloody awful Now I have always found that Becks is a taste that improves after the first bottle- not the case now I'm afraid :(
Well done on the ballet class babyjane DS has a hockey match tomorrow morning. At least ballet is in the warm :o

Well done crotch, 11 days is fab

Got me thinking there, I've never tasted non-alcoholic drinks, might buy some in.

Anybody recommend any NA wine, (daft question I know)?

I love it, thank you Isinde it is very becoming creation of crab shite made me LOL

Sorry to not NC last night I was so exhausted from concentrating on not grabbing the wine and pouring myself a glass and listening to my neighbour whittling on, repeating herself, you know the usual drunken chat that goes on and on and on.....been there done that so many times and I am of course so interesting........

Right you lovely lot Good Morning All Brave Babes

Dancer Day 4 is a black spot, stick with it I get very grumpy and short tempered Day 4 to 6. Also getting to sleep is shite for a while. Try buying Horlicks or Ovaline maybe? Keep your thoughts on that massage this afternoon, get in some treats for this evening, DVD, your favourite sweets, soft drink etc. Hang in there and whip that WW's arse

Beaches I'm hot on your tail with Day 10 today (Day 10 I can't believe it!!!!) Day 11 for you my darling hope the snow is thawing today. What you up to this weekend?

Baby re heating - what a bugger. I bet DD2 looks so cute in her tutu, hmmm 9.30 is quite an early start for a Saturday but then once your up and out you've then got the whole day ahead to get a load done. Maybe Sunday could be your lie in bed late day? x

It's thanks for the flowers they're lovely x Don't beat yourself up - you stopped at 2 glasses, Well done that is very controlled, if you're anything like me that would have been the whole bottle and out to get more (and probably finish that too) One day at a time. You are in the sidecar lovely one. Make today Day 1 again?

I'm darling I don't know what to say. I am so sorry that yesterday was a waste of time. Why do you think they may take DC? Surely that won't be the case. What grounds would they have, none I'm sure. They want to keep Mothers with their DC. You are a fantastic Mum. They won't hand them to him, that's for sure. Is it worth contacting WA again and seeing if they can shed any light on what is likely to happen with SS. Have they done a report before?
xxx

Rural well done on day 2 lovely - it's great to have you back I've missed your humour x

Hope how are you babe?

Nuff how's it going babe?

Ma I hope the party goes ok tonight

Have a good day all Brave Babes xxx