The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Walking In A Winter Sober Land!

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Hello Brave Babes, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the 'Bus Of Fun' (now you've come of age!)

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, with a view to quitting or not... it's up to you.

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's in your hands. And only you can make it happen.

Whatever your goal, you'll find support here. Always.

There will be talk of drinking and those who fall off the Bus (arse over tit) will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY thread would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers. :)

That said, this Bus is happy to have you no matter what, as long as you can cope with chat of drinking, nights out/in, failures, cyclical drinkers, etc......

Everyone has always been welcome here and shall remain to be.

No-one is ever turned away. EVER.

There are no hard and fast rules, other than the support here is unconditional, it may be in the form of tough love at times, but it's always meant with the very best of intentions.

There are two sayings that we like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

The rest kind of happens as the posts appear.

I hope that's okay with you all.

You'll find the last thread HERE, THAT WILL LEAD TO THREADS BEFORE IT, SOME HISTORY

And the original and real, truly heartfelt reason that we are here in the first place is HERE. A VERY SOBERING READ

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, honest and will help you to achieve what it is that you seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

See you soon. x

Haven't had a drink today. Could of done with one too. But didn't so feel quite good about that. Also haven't had a cigarette so that's good too. My mood has been a bit rubbish though. Have been mainly muttering to myself angrily all day about various injustices in my life I'm going to blame the various withdrawals that my body and mind are going through at the moment. I swear if anyone could see me this week with giving up smoking and booze they'd think I was a complete nut! Really looking forward to feeling a lot better in my body and mind though, when it all starts to clear.

Hope everyone is doing well x

Bloody hell everyday no cigarettes either?! Respect to you :)
Well it's early into day 10 and I am hanging about at work killing time till I finish. The thing with DM has, if anything strengthened my (surprisingly quite considerable) resolve but equally opened my eyes to how much I have let slide over the years
I spent most of my life in the licensed trade and so alcohol has played a big part in my life. I honestly cannot say I don't want to drink again but I don't want to slide back to how I have been. When DJ is over I don't know what I will do. A small part of me says that drinking in moderation would be fine but a bigger part says that total abstinence is better. I just don't think I'm up for total abstinence

Thinking of you Im. Find your voice and speak up for yourself and your children. End that fuckers reign!

Who is she that cometh forth as the morning, fair as the moon, terrible as an army set in battle array? It's Im!!

Stitch Thats not very One-Day-At-A-Timesy!

Dont worry about a sober Valentines Day, until February 14th. Dont worry about a life commitment to sobriety, just today!

Morning Babes. It's Friday and I know that's difficult for some of you - end of the week wind-down etc. Just remember that if you do work Mon-Fri then the weekend is YOUR time, don't give to Saggy Tits, if you don't take the first drink, there is no way you can have a second, or third, or . . .

Its, your dh just needs retraining - you've educated him to offer you wine, he thinks it a kindness - doesn't make it any less annoying. Work wouldn't be any less stressful with a hangover. Well done for staying strong.

Smurfette so if bashing temptations doesn't work at least you'll be able to run away from them! I hope you find the visualisation helps.

Go on ma, double figures, think how good you'll feel, you can do it. And if Gugs has an extra set of pompoms I'll join in (but I want silver ones).

I hope you slept well, Rural, day one is a real achievement - getting through that is hard, treat yourself.

SocFish is okay if I put on a sarong - that bikini body is a bit of a work in progress. You're projecting about those events - I know it's hard not to, my parents live a wine sodden expat life, I am just not thinking about my next visit to them, just not drinking TODAY. By the way, smooth driving last night.

Mouse being so far away from your father at a time like this can't be easy for either of you; I know its not the same, but can he/you skype or facetime? It may not be a useful suggestion, but just a thought.

Argh, need to go and get the boy up, so just time to say Im, don't worry about what the SW will say, think about what you need to say. Stay strong, we will all be thinking of you.

Everyone else, have a good AF day.

Thankyou why
I'm trying to stay focused I messed up and drank far too much last night not proud of myself I needed distance from it, a break

Thanks for your wise words and support it means lots x
I have got things that I can say to her iv done / am doing to help myself

I don't know what to say because I'm scared she will think I'm not protecting my dc or I'm not coaping etc etc they scare me if I say the wrong thing

Im, forgive yourself for drinking last night, and concentrate on today. I know today must be scary, but it's scary because you care - that is important to remember. I don't know enough about your situation to be as helpful as I would like, but I am sure the SW is there to help, but you need to ask for it and trying to hide your fears may be counter productive. Perhaps you should admit that you are afraid of her reactions - to her - she won't see that as not coping, but a perfectly natural reaction, she will be very aware of how her presence is perceived, and how vulnerable she will make people feel.

Thinking of you I'm xx

Sweet talks sense I'm, I am thinking of you too x

Thankyou all x ill update later xx

I'm in Day 3. I am taking a day at a time and am not drinking today. I'm just saying this as a mantra to myself. Writing it down also helps.

why what a beautiful quote, now I have just learned something (google & Wikipedia being great time-wasters when I should be working!)

ma NINE DAYS ! That's magnificent! Do you have any coping strategies in place for when the inevitable clusterfuck occurs (you know, the one that involves your DH, DS's school and a garage mechanic who shakes his head and says "It'll cost you"...) ? I don't want anything to trip you up now!

as part of The New Me I am currently web chatting (well I am waiting around a lot while a very helpful man types sporadically) with a debt advisor in a bid to sort out our woeful finances. It's amazing what being AF drives you to
Hope all goes well for you today I'm I don't know what's happening really but you sound like you need all the support you can get

Im you will be in my thoughts today too x

Hi joey how's the diet? Word of advice - steer clear of avacodos, shocking amount of calories!

Have a good day all

beaches the diet isn't brilliant (there are so many calories in pizza!!) but at least I'm becoming more aware of what I'm eating, I think it's going to be a gradual shedding rather than instant weight loss. Eg. normally I'd have had some chocolate (habit) last night, but after seeing the -3000 in red after the pizza, I didn't eat anything else.

I like avocados! I assumed that fuit, vegetables etc didn't have ANY calories, so I've learned something!

at pizza! Mine is much the same and I am having chocolate, two pieces of a big toblerone bar is 220. A few mouthfuls and 220 . Still, imagine the 3 large glasses that would usually be on top. Off to shop for cottage cheese now, have a good day babe x

afternoon babes

Congratulations on 10 days worth of af to you all

also applies to 9,8,7,6,5 etc etc. WELL DONE!!!!!!!

Loved the quote why though,likejoey i've spent some time googling when I ought to be doing stuff.

Good luck I'm

Hope everything went ok Im
Day 2 here and the WW on my back already. Ho hum !!
In awe of the DJ'S bl88dy fantastic.
See you all later hopefully still AF

Today (as I mentioned earlier) I have been talking to the debt advice people- a draining but actually quite positive experience. I feel almost like a grown up :o
It's also one year to the day that the best dog I have ever (and probably will ever) own was put to sleep. While I don't feel the need to get hysterically drunk and maudlin I am treating myself to a bottle of Becks Blue. Then as VERY early night as I haven't slept today.
Keep strong all and I hope everything went ok today I'm

Evening all. Very, very tired, but very, very sober.

Glad your day had some positives, Crotchstitch. How’s everyone else doing?

Hi sweet, end of a long week?

Well done on sorting through the debt situation Crotch, not an easy subject to attack. I will be joining you with the non-alcoholic beer tonight, I found a Canadian Molson variety and it is chilling in the fridge for later.

Hope old saggy tits isn't driving you mad rural, have this big log to whack her round the chops.

Hope everyone else is ok. How about you Im?