Women watching porn

[OhGodAmITheOnlyOne]

I've name changed and also posted about this in chat, but thought I might get better response here. This is 100% genuine. I occasionally look at porn or read erotic stories because it gets me in the mood. I don't know if DH knows, but I was wondering if it's common, if many women do? Or am I an awful person?

[Thedaughter123]

thats gross

[StickEmUpBigStyle]

sazgirl post sounds like she is 12

[Dianeyorks]

Thanks sazgirl...lovely message ..my DH loves to watch with me...its a fab turn-on x

[hell4heather]

There is real evidence to suggest regular use by a partner in place of their wife/girlfriend/love/husband causes actual changes to the brain, changing (and indeed limitting) the ways in which a user is able to feel aroused. Occasional and shared use I would say is very healthy, but look out because it can so easily get out of control. There is so much of it around these days and it is so simple to access, it is becoming an issue and causing break-ups, pain and suffering to many, many people.
I'm no prude, but it is very easy to make light of the subject when it is becoming increasingly problematic in society. Take care with it, is all I'm saying. I wrote a book about a woman who has suffered as a result of her husband's addiction and had to do a lot of research on the matter. It makes you view it in a whole, new light.

[NecklessMumster]

Years ago I read erotic books because that's all I could access (I am old). Then I started to look at tumblr sites. I found the change from reading to visual erotica made orgasms quicker but somehow less satisfying ..and I felt ill over some stuff I clicked on. I personally don't want to see anal sex and bj.After reading these posts and worrying about womens exploitation I went on the literotica website for stories. It seems to me that the visual stuff gave me a hollow...male type of orgasm rather than the fantasy in my head frpm reading, and it felt damaging. Sorry tired and rambling

[newnamesamegame]

I don't have any problem with people watching it if they want and certainly don't think its anything for women to be ashamed or embarrassed about. Fill your boots if its what you like.

It leaves me totally cold though... I find porn about as erotic as accountancy. Leaving aside the ethical stuff, which does trouble me, I find it reductive, two-dimensional and depressing. And also depressingly suburban.

[Passthedamnhamplease]

Has anyone ever seen cindy gallop's TED talk on this topic?
m.youtube.com/watch?v=FV8n_E_6Tpc

[NecklessMumster]

I will have a look at that once I'm not at work.

[Passthedamnhamplease]

I thought it was good necklessmumster. She just says she loves sex but hates the whole porn thing as it is today - and the whole expectation created by the porn industry. Fine if you like someone coming on your face, but in porn, every girl does and that's not reality and it is skewing the expectations of young men.

She has launched a site called make love not porn - adults submit their videos and can make money from them theirselves. She's an interesting character I think, though probably not to everyone's taste!

[Passthedamnhamplease]

Themselves not theirselves. No idea where predictive text got that one from!

[JessAndDrake]

I'm not so keen on porn videos myself, but I love erotic stories too(ex. lushstories), certainly since I read 50 shades of grey. Using your own imagination, while reading the story is just so more arousing.

My boyfriend on the other hand is more visual oriented, but I guess this counts for most men.

[spudlike1]

Yes I do ...but some of it ( most ) is awful

[Imbroglio]

Zombie....

[heyday]

An interesting post and as there are so many replies it's impossible for me to read most of them.
This thread raises so many issues. There are numerous threads on here from women saying that they really can't cope with their partners viewing porn and many of the responses say that she should leave him as he has so little regards for women but here we are now showing just how many women enjoy watching it. It's all a very complex issue.
My main concerns relate to 1) how many people (mainly women or young teens) are exploited and get drawn into the industry against their will.
2) I presume they are not using condoms so there is a high risk of sexual disease transmission 3) how many people are modern day slaves and forced into the industry 4) that men now expect their partners to look and perform like a porn 'star' and this is creating numerous problems within relationships, especially for women.
Watching people having sex is rather a simplistic way of viewing the question. Yes, it may well be a huge turn on for so many people but what is the real cost to human lives I wonder?