ive been with my husband 10 years but since expecting our 2nd child 4 years ago we have hardly been intimate. i only came to terms with the fact he doesnt fancy me about a year ago. i feel such a mix of emotions and i have no idea what to do. he wont talk about it or acknowledge the situation. ive tried to accept a non intimate relationship but i really do miss being wanted. i dont want to break up our family but i dont want to be in a relationship where im not wanted other than to run the house deal with the kids etc. Am i being selfish? im 40