I separated from my husband a year or so ago and my divorce came through around a month ago. I'm past that, I went to Relate, I dealt with his infidelity and looked at my role in our many many problems.
But now the dating!!! What a bloody saga. I've dated younger, older, hot hot hot, less than hot, a bit boring.... The problem is, this last guy was a gem. Or so I thought. We started dating a month ago. Sweet, kind, affectionate, generous, a little older, cheated on by his ex wife (3 years ago) and had a difficult relationship with a new woman about 18 months ago. We had a weekend away... and he seems to have gone nuts!
I asked him if we were exclusive after our weekend away, explained that I wasn't intending to see anyone else and just wondered if he felt the same. He was realy annoyed. Said he felt as if I was accusing of something and why would I do that. That he was a decent genuine guy and would never never date anyone else whilst he was gettint to know someone.
I felt awful. Trouble is, my close freinds are on the OD curcuit too and had seen his profile "online" on several occasions lately. He explained it away as must have opened a message or something... I felt torn. I asked him what was going on. Said he's confused, unsure, doesn't know what he wants. So I said - lets leave it at that then shall we, because I like you and if you don't feel the same.... But he very much wanted us to keep talking while he thinks things through.
Trouble is, after a few days his messages are infrequent, he never calls any more, he replies to text with things like "sorry I was too busy to reply, I will later..." So I've said today - essentially - that if he just doesn't feel for me the way he seemed to a couple of weeks ago then I don't see how time and space away from me is going to fix that.
a) Is he an arse who's playing me and I'm so very much wanting to be loved again thatn i'm clinging to any chink of light that he's a good guy.
b) Am I unreasonable and he's just a bit scared and I should have given him the time to think that he asked for patiently and with good grace.
Oh deary deary me!!!
Thanks loves x
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LetsCancelChristmas · 30/11/2013 21:43
Well thats about right isn't it... In the twisted way of things the fact that he DID text is somehow much more difficult to be okay about! Oh what a pickle! I've stuck resolutely however - he got a brief "well i was pissed off too" reply and thats it. He can chase if he likes (in some kind of warped guy way no doubt...) but I do not need that kind of messy complicated relationship..!
Only, roughly, 6 or 7 WEEKS till BigSpoon's back... 
Well done.
Wonder how Frenchmanicure is getting along 
Ah what a bugger lets. That was a pretty pointless text he sent, would have been better if he hadn't bothered. Men! 
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I'm feeling nervous, stressed and a bit sick in anticipation of tomorrow...hopefully I'll be better once wine has been drunk!
Oh you'll def be fine after a glass or two... or three...
Nah, hammered and slurry isn't a great look! You'll have fun 
I know ladies, wasn't even a "Sorry" i didn't reply
Just a "Didn't reply 'cos i was pissed off"
Knob knobbery knobsocks
A lovely guy at work (good friend, married two kids) wants to set me up with a buddy of his. Says he's successful, tall, handsome, just a bit shy with the ladies... I dunno. Today I'm feeling all - what's the bloody point.
Let's.. He sounds ok though... I say go for it!
I have just re-joined dating site.. I managed 3 days away from it but Goldie not on there anymore??!! .. Maybe he's met someone
I hope not!
Bloody tossy twatbag!!
Good luck tomorrow night.. French, you'll be fine, alcohol deffo the way to go for 1st time nookie though.
Rainbow I decided you're right... why the devil not. Told my mate that'd be lovely - set me right up! He can't be worse than CountryMouse now can he?!
Sleep well french! Hope you're all preened and pruned and tanned and feeling fabulous 
Countdown is on French
Yes to the date. I bet if you go into it thinking you don't care and relaxed, he'll want a second date That's what happened with my current chap. Still busy playing it cool there but I think he's lovely, he's grown on me.
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