can you just ask someone for sex?

[secretsatan]

If you suspect that someone fancies you, how wrong is it to just ask them if they'd like some sex?

I'm not up for a relationship at all. But I'd really like some sex.

I don't think subtle is going to work. Or at least it will take too long. Or they might think I want to go out with them.

remind me how this works. It's been a while.

So disappointed he's not replied

Still admire op for risking it though, his loss!

Sorry to hear he's not replied (this thread really made me laugh until then). He may be waiting to speak in person in case someone nicked your phone. I once got flirty messages from a friend and I replied in kind. It was one of his mates with his phone. Cringe.

And as an answer to the original question, one man I met on a night out with friends (he was friend of a friend and we had been flirting) just said, "I'd really like to sleep with you". I wasn't looking for a ONS so we didn't but I appreciated the honest and not pushy way he said it.

OP has shy boy had a gf before? Perhaps he hasn't done the deed before. You'd be surprised, these men do exist. He might be scared witless!

Still say the beaver poem is the way to go.

Could you sing it to him?

He can't get it up, I'm sure of it.

he may just not fancy the op, it's not a crime.

somebody else will

just move along, SS

You're going to have to ask them out initially surely? Unless you devise a way of cornering them in the stationery cupboard, bus shelter, car park, garden fence perimeter, or wherever else it is you know this person from.

By asking them out, at least then you can gauge if they fancy you. Besides, anticipation through an hour long date is a wonderful thing.
Once you have them cornered and are confident they're drunk enough and fancy you, the rest is easy peasy.

Of course, it's been a very long time since I was in this scenario.

I think he might just be a bit intimidated.
I just hope he isn't the sort of bloke who'll show his mates your message.

Ach, so what if he does that.

Meh. I don't think he will, if he does, maybe one of them will want to do it with me Seriously, I'm not that upset that I sent it. I'm a bit pissed off he didn't reply, even just to say 'unfortunately on this occasion your application has been unsuccessful' :o because I think ignoring me is RUDE and that reflects more on him than me. Also no man would show another man an offer of free sex that they didn't immediately say yes to IMHO.

Tru dat

I would have replied.

I agree it is rude for him to not reply. Most single men would be thrilled to get an offer of no strings sex.

He is offended you only wanted to use him for sex
He was expecting a marriage proposition, with a few dates leading to first kiss and shit

Maybe he's trying to work out whether you meant it or not?

With it being Friday you may get a reply tonight OP, maybe if he is really shy he will reply with Dutch courage later

Another one living vicariously. Hope he replies tonight!!!

He probably thinks you were drunk and you are embarrassed. And if he doesn't then sod him.

There is actually a website for this sort of thing you know www.fuckbuddies.com I believe is the URL. Just sayin'

Ignoring quite rude! Hmmph.

Someone once drunkenly asked me if I wanted to go halvsies on a bastard. That was a decade ago...we've been married for seven of those years.

CY, that's my little brother's favourite pickup line! :o

Is he religious and don't believe in sex before marriage?

Most men would jump at a chance of handed to them on a silver plate etc? Move on find someone exciting!

Ursula8 - Good luck!

I am , CY. Dare I ask??

Shame on him!