Whatnext074 - thread continued

[Whatnext074]

I would firstly like to thank everyone who has offered me support, even those who did so silently on my last thread 1880152-Oh-God-Just-looked-up-H-OW-on-FB-feel-sick

I don't know how to convert the link - I have ticked the box but not sure it's worked.

Thank you for all the pms since too asking how I am.

My previous thread is long so some background: Was with my H for 11 years, we were very close and although we had traumas out of our control, I never doubted that we wouldn't be together forever.

In the space of 9 months, we lost 4 babies in the family, 2 of them our own. We remained close and supported each other.

My H suddenly changed, he turned from a loving, caring man into a stranger who was verbally abusive and aggressive and scared me. He continually denied having an affair when I asked and blamed me for the way he was. I thought he was having a breakdown (I still do).

I found evidence that he was having an affair with a colleague and I told him to leave, he's still with OW. I am so heartbroken and at times, I didn't actually think I would make it to the next day. One particular night a few weeks ago, I believe MNers did save me, just to know there were people there who cared and offer advice.

I have a DS (my H is his SF) who has been so worried about me and I am trying so hard to get myself better.

I have had so many pms from MNers who have asked me to start another thread so I am. I am so utterly grateful for all the support I have been given. I am not completely out of the darkness yet but I hope I don't get as bad as I have been recently.

You don't think it could be a mistake? - such as he's used a Paypal account to buy something and hasn't changed his address details?

I remember my ex sent me an email saying 'hi hun, how are you ?' (Er, that'll be heartbroken) . I KNOW it was the same night he'd been FB'ing yoga lady. They compartmentalise what.

Enjoy your nephew xxx

Who knows mamma, I think I'll never know. Flipping 'secret santa' - "hey girl, you know you want this". Idiot!! He's sick. Pity it wasn't a diamond that I opened...

R&B - he's changed his address on all those sites. He would have had to manually input it on this site.

No you won't know. Er...he seems to have become a sleaze bag as well as a cheat..."hey girl, you know you want this". If a new man said that to me I think I'd go off them pretty swiftly.
Yes- what a shame it wasn't an expensive present "what do you mean where's the Rolex you had delivered?? Rolex? Don't know what you're in about mate..." < whatnext swiftly hides wrist behind her back>

Well in that case, he's just a heartless cruel knob. (Sorry)

Don't let it take up your head space any more - sling it in the bin if you haven't already shame you can't do the same with him.

You're right, if I do then it's achieved his possible aim. It's gone, my DS made sure of that.

Good, hopefully he'll learn from the 'missing' parcel and not bloody do it again if he does throw that away too

Emotionally - better to bin

Legally best to return to sender

Have a nice day song setting sewing SEEINGyour nephew! Don't give FWH a second thought.

Mamma I am feeling your pain... f*ing predictive text!!!!

I am so mad with myself!

I had agreed to myself that I would be NC no matter what but my H has been texting me tonight asking whether his flipping parcel had arrived. I responded by saying I had sent everything for past 3 months and no more and he needs to redirect his mail. He said he'd sort it but kept on asking if I sent his parcel.

I'm afraid I lost my temper and replied, read my text, I have sent everything ffs. He replied, wow, ok, sorry. I told him to leave me alone.

I should.not.have.replied,at,all.

Flipping parcel!

Why does he always contact me on Monday nights??

Hey whatnext...

How was your weekend?

He had the cheek to text 'wow..' He's got so much front. Don't think it matters that you replied. Just stick to the story that you've forwarded everything and now leave it. Don't respond to anymore texts.

Thanks mamma.

I have been a bit down, think it's the time of year and knowing that H and OW are going on holiday this week. Each time I think to myself that I haven't thought of him, I get angry with myself because I have thought of him by thinking that.

I knew he'd contact me tonight. I wanted him to email me to get my auto reply - damnit.

Saturday was lovely thanks, he's perfect.

:) aaah, so glad you had a lovely time on Saturday. Bless him.

Yes, you're bound to have down points over this time of year. Just try to be kind to yourself and do what makes you happiest. Put yourself first.

He's out of order for contacting you over a bloody parcel ffs. He acts as if you're an old house mate as opposed to his wife. Disrespectful
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He said he'd put £10 in my account to get more stamps for him! I lost my cool and replied that I'm not his secretary, I should have left it and used the £10 on myself. I should have learnt not to rise to it by now, am angry with myself.

Treats me with no respect, that's what I can't take. Most men who cheat leave their wives alone.

Hi what, dont beat yourself up. he really is testing you isn't he? You'd have to have more patience than Mother Theresa to ignore his persisting texts. You're doing well, really.

The Monday night texting is interesting no? You think OW has a night class?

Hope you and DS have some good stuff planned for the festive season??

Exh? You've made it bloody clear to him - redirect your post!!!! Maybe it will take a 'lost' parcel for him to do it (bear in mind it can take longer than you think for a redirect to kick in) in the meantime keep 'returning to sender'

Are you ok? Do you have a good mate in RL to rant at?

I agree - the £10 stamp thing would make me bloody livid!

Stuff your tenner

My Dsis said at weekend not to reply at all and if he puts £10 in account then use it on myself. I've handled this wrong this time. I shouldn't have replied, it's been left with his "wow, ok, sorry". I know it sounds trivial but after not replying to many texts, I have let myself down.

He's probably feeling the big man now I have dropped my guard as he's planning his dirty holiday.

It's so hard. I want him out of my head and I want my name back.

I think you should be more vague and nonchalant.

'What parcel?'

'You can put £10 in my account if you like. Can't promise I will spend it on stamps though'

'Haven't you got some packing to do'

Or more direct.

'Have you found him yet?'

(If he replies who?)

'That guy who gives a shit'

^'Have you found him yet?'

(If he replies who?)

'That guy who gives a shit'

I will definitely ask you for advice before I reply to anything again!

Do just that ! If/when he texts just post on here... Pick the best MN response and sock it to him. He'll get the message to stop irritating you .

I will.

Why doesn't he just leave me alone?? FWH.

Just thinking, I should elaborate on the vagueness.

You- 'what parcel?'
Him 'I had a parcel sent to your address'
You 'oh, did you?'
Him- 'yes, have you forwarded it on'
You- 'did you want me too?'
Him- 'yes'
You-'oh right'

See how long you can keep going without actually saying anything of any importance.

In fact post it on here and we'll on join in with the best replies to drive him mad.

Oh go on, it will be fun to play such sport.

Yes to spending the tenner on yourself. I do believe you could find a nail shop to do shellac paint job for 20...so half on him, or would be at least two lots of coffee and cake in Starbucks. Lovely :)

X posts redundant and what, but great mind think a like. X

I really wish I had posted on here before. I have ruined it now!