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Yeah well we normally communicate on watsapp and he hasn't opened my message from this morning so there could be a problem with his phone... I know his laptop has packed in too so if the phone is lost/ broken or whatever he can't really communicate.. Thing is though I know if it were me I'd try to get a message to him somehow, use a mates phone or laptop... Not gonna sweat about it too much, my biggest worry is that something's happened him but I won't do anything drastic until tomorrow!

That's sweet Dontcallme...where's the date Tuesday?

Welcome new ladies - you are in the right place for dating guidance!

Don't - so glad you have another date lined up and a very good sign that he asked you about the tash!

Gaga - how are you? Have you heard anything from him? Keeping fingers and toes crossed for you that he isn't secretly a nasty git. I hate seeing when they've last logged in, makes me feel crap.

I've got a date lined up for this Wed, dinner and drinks in a local pub. Get the feeling he's a bit of an OD professional though so I'm treading carefully! Also chatting with another guy - not physically stunning, but not unattractive either. He seems funny and nice so I'm hoping he'll ask me out. I seem to only be attracted to twats, so perhaps going out with someone I'm not hugely attracted to will be a good thing long-term?!

How strange Poffed, why do they mess with our heads???

Think Donny is getting the idea as I've avoided texting him today, just haven't the heart to tell him I don't fancy him

Poffe- have you tried calling him? It could just be that he's massively hungover and embarrassed, but he really should let you know he's ok.

Hope you hear from him soon, poffed

Hope the date on Wednesday goes well, sooper

We are going for pizza on Tuesday and then he'll probably come back to mine. I'm driving him, which always makes me nervous - driving with someone else in the car, especially someone I like. I've a good feeling about geeky, for some reason.

Just realised how naive I am. Just been messaged by a guy saying "I see you visited my profile- what do think?"
(I had only visited him as he had visited mine 1st) I replied "sorry, but I don't respond to profiles unless I can see a clear picture of your face" he responds explaining that his pic is like that as he is still married and he would be happy to email pics to me.
My jaw has literally hit the floor

Hi just wanted to update. I'm on doing something which is different from e.g. MatchAffinity (also on but find crap).

Had 2 dates - 1 on Friday 1 today. Date today was RUBBISH. I actually didn't think we clicked by text told him so but he seemed to want to meet so I thought what the hell. absolutely NOTHING there at all. NOTHING. No loss.

Guy on Friday - not my usual type, seemed a bit larger than on his profile, sort of fancied him but he was VERY KEEN on me - we had coffee then drink in South Bank bar. have texted loads last week and he seems a good option. We're meeting again on Tuesday.

another guy from the site has suggested meeting.

AND FINALLY. I'm still hung up on guy I met and dated for about 18 months and finally finished with back in January. DAMN DAMN DAMN!

Well I just called him there and it went straight to voicemail so I reckon he's lost his phone... I'll see what tomorrow brings.

Dontcallme it all sounds very promising with geeky.. Delighted for you

Lahti - some guys have some front don't they?? just ignore is what I'd do even if he messages you and yes blurred pic does sound well dodgy.

still married don't believe if they say separated as a guy told me years ago - probably wants bit on side.

Poffed don't mean to be nasty but men don't generally lose their phones! not when it comes to dating! in my experience anyway.

Everyone and anyone can lose their phone Helloboys! I think Poffed will be able to tell if he's lying once they speak

Hormonal I know that - but I think if a man really wants to get in touch (and I've been told this) then they will.

I speak from past experience of dating man who lost phone or went scarlet pimpernel (they seek him here they seek him there) on me and mostly it was him being a twat and not realising I was concerned as he was away on business, due back and how was I to know his flight had been cancelled etc?! once I FBed messaged him the sod replied and rang me. twat.

Thank you for all your kind thoughts, I didn't hear anything all day, he text me tea time to say he was on his way to his Mon - Fri pad in the city.

Then a couple tonight, there seems to be a slight change in his tone, if that's possible! He said the going away had been problematic, no shit Sherlock.

I just can't help but feel a bit flat over it all, the only reason he couldn't have text me last night was if he was staying over at the family home, ie with his ex. Or he has had a change of heart.

I haven't said anything though.. Any ideas on what to say without sounding like an arse?

poff sounds like a great night, the l word though, how long have you known each other?

Gaga this is the guy I first met up with in May but it was pretty casual until sept.
I'm not too concerned about him disappearing to be honest, I think it's gone a little too far for that BUT I am pretty miffed that he hasn't found someway of contacting me all day.. He must know I'd be a bit worried that he got home ok last night seeing as he was a bit pissed and facing into a long bus journey...
That really sucks about your guy though.. What could be going on? Did you know he had a midweek place? Where does he stay at weekends normally?

No harm in treading carefully super and I have gone for personality over drop dead gorgeous this time, still need to find them attractive, just not phwooar

dont sounds very promising, your gut feeling is usually right so go for it

poff hmm it does seem very strange he hasn't been in contact all day! but time will tell I suppose.

Yes I knew he worked away mon to fri, and says he has his own place not far from ex and DC's although I've never been invited yet...

So he tells me he stays at his place fri to sun and kids go between two addresses.

Not being able to text me is a red flag in my book no matter how much I try to deny it.

The best case scenario is that he is finding it hard to detach,they were married a long time.

I still have to be very careful, secretive even, around my ex Gaga... I instigated the split and he is still very shaky.. We live close to each other and have a bit of an open door policy with the kids, we thought it would be easier for them if they could come and go a little..
The problem with that arrangement though is I still have to " book" time away.. He doesn't ask where I'm going but even the fact he knows I'm going out seems to upset him..
I'm guessing this could be the same with your guy... He doesn't want to upset his ex by rubbing it in her face perhaps? Either that or he's not being totally upfront with you about his living arrangements at weekends... I lived with my ex for 6 ( long, gruelling) months after we "separated"... Maybe he's doing the same?

green am wishing I listened to my own advice earlier. I messaged the older guy today aaaand .... Nothing. Pfft

poff yes I hope it is the case, that he is just a nice bloke and she is struggling, that's the best case scenario.

I always think the worst, sort of prepare myself emotionally incase it goes tits up.

Gaga, I am exactly the same, self preservation has me on guard all the time! He may have been a bit apprehensive about telling you the full story about still staying in the family home at weekends.. It happens quite a lot with newly separated couples though... Another explanation is that he's married of course...
Do you talk on the phone at all or is it mainly text?

Super, you're on a roll girl

Did you message him on pof Lahti or text? Maybe he hasn't been online today?

Hormonal I know it's a tough thing to do but you might be best putting Donny out of his misery and let him know you don't feel any chemistry...
We all know the agony of waiting for a text!

poffed I messaged him, he was online this morning (I messaged late afternoon) I don't want to check if he's been online since as he will be able to see

Right I am officially a stalker, I've checked and he hasn't been online since I sent the message. BUT now he will know I have checked his profile he's probably organising a restraining order

He might not Lahti, i don't think it specifies a time that you viewed it does it? Anyway, even if he does see you've checked he should be flattered! You're the prize remember