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The dating thread 65

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Queenofthedrivensnow · 03/11/2013 22:09

Grin
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ladygoingGaga · 13/11/2013 22:40

Grin at oneday I do the same, cleaning whilst singing and prancing about, makes it so much more enjoyable.

I'm a bit Confused with supermarket guy, he is being given a hard time by ex, emotional blackmail type stuff as he only went and told her we were going away, now I'm all for honesty, but he could have said he was going to friends

Poffedoff · 13/11/2013 22:41

I resorted to onedays tactics instead.. It wasn't gin though, it was large amounts of wine!

ladygoingGaga · 13/11/2013 22:42

Shit, missed the broken update.. come on tell us more Grin

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dontcallmehon · 13/11/2013 22:47

That's great news, broken - sounds like a fab date!

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Putitonthelist · 13/11/2013 23:28

Hi. Just back from my first date. Enjoyed it. Find him attractive, very chatty (in fact he never bloody shut up!), had a laugh BUT he did mentioned his ex (divorced for 5 years) a LOT!!! He has just texted about another date. Is the ex talk a big reg flag??

Sounds great broken!

Queenofthedrivensnow · 14/11/2013 00:01

My man analogy is that they are like boomerangs - throw them away and they come pinging back for more!

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Poffedoff · 14/11/2013 00:08

Powpow do feel free to share any interesting snippets from the book... I've seen it mentioned so much on this thread but still haven't gotten around to reading it.

Myself and pof guy had another fab night on Saturday... Dinner, drinks, sat up half the night listening to music all followed by amazing sexSmile
All good until he goes home and I know it's gonna be another week before we see each other... That's when the text counting commences again... Ugh

Poffedoff · 14/11/2013 00:12

Putiton...talking about exes on a first date is a huge no no in my book..it can be unavoidable if they're telling you about a holiday etc. so it depends on what he actually spoke about...

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dontcallmehon · 14/11/2013 07:07

The urge to check the phone is strong this morning.

dontcallmehon · 14/11/2013 07:14

I checked and he texted! Apologising for not being in touch earlier and asking how my day was. He said he'd had a crap day. I'll leave it till later in the morning to text back, which will worry him as he sent the text last night - but then, he should've texted me earlier.

Poffedoff · 14/11/2013 07:31

Dontcallme.... Grin

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 14/11/2013 07:36

Yay Grin

dontcallmehon · 14/11/2013 07:38

:) so proud of myself for not giving in and texting him. I am the prize!

FolkGirl · 14/11/2013 07:52

That's fab news dontcall!!!

Well done, you Wink

Hormonalhell · 14/11/2013 08:02

Probably won't worry him Dontcall because they don't think like us do they?!!

Glad you had a nice date Broken Smile

Have a great day/night Gaga

dontcallmehon · 14/11/2013 08:08

I think he does think like that. He said before he doesn't like it when I don't text often.

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 14/11/2013 08:10

Broken sounds like a good date - what about the guy? Do you like him?

Putitonthelist I would be wary of mentions of exes at all on first dates, tbh. If I was telling a story when the ex had been there, I would just vaguely say ''we'' and not specify and not expect the other person to ask. I would avoid stories where my XP was the focus. Hmm even on a second date recently I found myself going down a route that led me to talking about my XP and I stopped myself and openly said, oops, I'm not going to do that, and changed the subject. It's like one of the unwritten rules of dating etiquette. ESPECIALLY don't bitch about exes in a disparaging way. If I ever hear a guy refer to any ex as ''psycho'' (or similar) then my twat radar would be screeching off the charts. But it sounds like you had a good time. Did he seem interested in finding out about you too, or just telling you about himself?

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 14/11/2013 08:14

dontcallmehon I am proud (and a little envious) of your restraint as well!!

So; after not seeing me last night (we had made loose arrangements to meet up, work depending, but he said no due to working late/too tired - I didn't think it was that late but fair enough) we had a little texting last night, my last text was to call me if he liked. He didn't. We do have plans to spend Saturday together so now I am putting a text-ban on myself again until he gets in touch about it. Do not text. Do not text. Argh. Hope it's a busy day at work.

Poffedoff · 14/11/2013 09:01

Have a wonderful time Gaga... update as often as is humanly possible!

Poffedoff · 14/11/2013 09:04

Oneday... Stay strong! Hard I know but just distract, distract, distract Smile

dontcallmehon · 14/11/2013 10:19

Be strong oneday - I could not have done it without the support on here. Good luck gaga

Told geeky I'd had a nice time. He said 'nice?!' I knew that'd annoy him. So I said 'maybe a bit better than nice ;)'Feel like I've got the upper hand again.

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 14/11/2013 13:55

Haha 'nice' one dont lol.

Not texted so far. Busy morning at work so easy to not think about it! Got a long lunch break to get through and then working till 10pm anyway....hmm....gonna read a book....