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Roller it's no wonder you're keen to see him, it must be so lovely to have a contrast to your relationship with your ex... and the fact that you can't wait to see him again is positive - but maybe it's good to how some gaps between dates so you can take it steady,and also keep perspective on how things are going. But otherwise apart from trying not to get too carried away too soon - just enjoy it!

After a week on doingsomething got 2 dates and 1 potential one lined up.

Thanks splish, yes he couldn't be further from my ex (looks a bit like him mind, but I can handle that )

So far we've seen each other twice, with a 2 week gap in between, and I won't see him now until next weekend which is another 2 weeks on from date 2. It's actually only because of work/childcare commitments that it's worked out like that, but I guess waiting is exciting too..?

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Messaged someone who sounds nice on GS.
Got a standard GM selected message saying would like to reply, but don't have a subscription. Will reply when I do.
Now ...

1. do I wait - my subscription runs out in a few weeks and I am not planning on renewing it.
2. do I send him my email (or an email I set up)

Suppose he is 'just browsing' - fair enough in my book, but is there a problem I can't see?

Hello boys, sounds exciting - are you going to see them all? I can't cope with more than one at a time - this one is stressful enough for me!

Education - I'd send him your email if you're keen, then there's no reason for him not to contact you. Nothing to lose?

Thanks Roller :)
Not got enough recent experience of dating to offer advice to you, but it sounds like you are doing great - enjoying it but pacing it so it feels right.

So anyone on any interesting dates this eve? I'm home alone so toilet updates would be great thanks

Hi everyone. First time on this thread. Separated from my H nearly one year ago and feel ready to dip my toe in the water.

Met a lovely guy while out with my girlfriends last night. We talked for a couple of hours, had lots in common, he bought me a drink and seemed to like me. He's been divorced for 5 years (not his choice and he did mention his EX rather a lot tbh) Anyway he asked if I'd like to see him again and I said yes. Swapped numbers. I have no intention of texting him. He hasn't texted me today so I'm thinking a) he's not really that interested or b) I only met him last night - give him chance!!

What do you daters think?

education def send him your email, why not?

putitonthelist hmm bit of a red flag if he is talking about his ex a lot the first time you met him. Do you like him? If you want to see him again why not text him, if he doesn't like you then he will politely decline or ignore, either way you will know.

Hi Everyone. I'm a first time poster to this thread too, though I have been lurking for some time.

Went on my first 'post separation' date last night and need some advice on the follow up!?

I had dinner with a lovely man I'd met on Match. First impressions were, 'I don't fancy him,' BUT i kept an open mind and I actually began to enjoy myself. He was easy to talk to; open, chatty, down to earth and the date seemed to go well. We met at 7.30 and left the restaurant at 11.20pm, with him continuing the conversation - a good sign...yes?

As we left the restaurant, I thanked him for a lovely evening, he hugged me (sort of squeezed), said a cheery 'speak to you soon' and that was it. Not sure what to make of that?!

I'd quite like to see him for a 2nd date, and I'm contemplating sending a text to say thanks. Need a quick straw poll as to when or if to text him?!

Hi dash, I'm a newbie here so not sure I'm qualified to give advice...but I went on my first date on Thursday (lunch date) he paid for lunch, so I e-mailed to say thanks and he did say he was waiting for me to e-mail...so if I hadn't may still be waiting. As it was he suggested second date for Friday. So I would say to text just to say thanks

Hi Saturn - Great news on your successful date, is it next Friday your 2nd?

I've bitten the bullet and sent a text to say thanks. Now waiting for a reply. This dating malarkey is sooo confusing!

dash go with your gut every time. Sounds like you had a great first date, I'm glad you've text him. The trick is not to overthink anything, easier said then done I know. Do what feels right, invariably it is.

Oh I know...that's how I ended up on here Wednesday night!

No, second date was yesterday and he e-mailed me 8 times last night and 7 times today...so think it may have been successful

Hope you get your text back soon x

I had a great night and he's interesting but I don't fancy him :(
I want to but just don't. He texted and thanked me and apparently I'm his first date in 5 years :-0 if I found him attractive then it'd be perfect as we have everything In common. He apologised for being nervous and wants a second date...

I don't know what to do.

Hope you get a text soon, dash. Stupidhead, I think you will have to politely decline a second date - the spark won't grow.

Waiting for geeky guy to text today...

Stupidhead was that the Rock dj guy? That's a shame, could he not be a grower? If you really don't find him attractive it's prob best to let him down now though. It's difficult isn't it?

Any reply dash?

After saying I'm trying to play it cool & not get carried away, and not being due to see Cool Dude until next sat... I've just heard that my kids are now staying at their dads all today so I text him to see if he wants to meet up later..aaagh I need to control myself!

He worked nights last night so I know he'll be asleep for ages yet. Panicking now that I'm being too forward.

Putit and Dash, I hate the waiting game so would be inclined to text or email a man I'd like to see again. Then that places the ball well and truly in his court rather than any ambiguity about who's making the first move. I lie to know where I stand where possible.
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My date with "KrK" (man5) yesterday went really well and we have arrangements for a shagfest another date next Saturday (although he has to double check he's not required at work first). As soon as I spotted him I thought "ooh yes" and thankfully the feeling was mutual. We met at 1pm at a shopping centre, off to the local pub for drinks and snacks, and went home at 7pm (the last 2 hours being spent chatting and snogging in the car!) We had a fun time, there were no red flags, and I think he has potential to be a lovely fuck buddy for me so I'm rather excited. There was tons of sexual chemistry which is a must for me; it's a pretty instant yay or nay I find.

Thanks lady yes I thought that fact that he mentioned his ex so much when they've actually been divorced for 5 years a bit off putting.

Can't text him as deleted my call log (he called my phone when I gave him my no.) and didn't save his no. I guess if he's interested he'll call.

That's a shame Stupid - do you just not find him attractive?

Well I had my date with Donny last night. Really great guy, enjoyed his company but didn't really fancy him he just wasn't my type at all. I'm so disappointed to be honest. As per usual when I'm not too fussed he really likes me and asked at the end of the date when he could see me again.

So know how you feel Stupid...soul destroying

I've dipped in and out of these threads. Back with my latest tale of woe. Met a lovely bloke through eharmony back in august. Both agreed that there was spark. Daily contact over a three month period, several dates in that time which each was perfect. Spent hours chatting on the phone daily. He had a close family bereavement during that time. Anyway, three weeks ago, met up for a weekend away. It was perfect. He said so, I thought so and said so. Others thought so cause during the evening, someone sitting near us in a bar actually said I hope I manage to find what you two clearly have. I was starting to think that maybe, just maybe, I would get my happy ending. Few days after a weekend away, he actually told me he felt like he'd been unfaithful to his ex. They split up 3 months before we met but he said he'd been unhappy for years and just hadn't done anything about leaving so I was less concerned about rebound.

Anyway, he's completely withdrawn from me. No explanation, no closure. I don't need him to explain as it won't help me understand the callous withdrawal and I won't forgive it. It's over, but for fucks sake, can I just never find anyone I like this much that could actually want to be with me?

I think the worse thing is we both agreed to take things slowly and he knew the one thing I asked for was honesty. If our arrangement didn't suit, no reason for him to not just be able to say. The silence is a killer isn't it?

The silence is a killer isn't it?
It sure is Concentrateonthegood. Sorry to hear about your bloke; what a crap way to behave after all that Why couldn't he just be honest with you. All it takes is a text to say he'd changed his mind, but to just go silent is so cowardly.

Oh, how disappointing Hormonal Attraction is quite complicated isn't it.