Really don't know what to do about this. DD is 5. We share custody 50/50 and because of his job he has her on 3 school nights.
He is aware of all the research that says how much lack of sleep damages children. He thinks education is important but still does this.
When is is in a good mood he will agree she should be in bed for 8, so as to be asleep for 8.30. He never actually does this though and when he is in a bad mood he will claim that he never agreed that in the first place.
He is a good dad in most other ways and I think don't think a court would stop her living with him just because of this. I also think a custody battle would be more damaging for DD than lack of sleep .
It is parents' evening soon but I think it would be wrong to try and get the teacher onside with this as she would be getting involved in an argument between divorcing parents. He would be very good at making me look bad for doing that. He is very good at looking reasonable to the outside world.
Also it might be difficult as DD doesn't necessarily act 'tired' but it comes out in moodiness, whinyness etc.
I could cry. The days when I can't wake her up are so horrible, and I'm sure it's affecting her at school. He says any behavioural problems at school are because I have broken up the family.
I feel like saying I will not take her in on days when she is too tired, but again, I think that will make me look like the unreasonable one.
Is there anything you can suggest, I don't know what to do!