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The Dating Thread 64

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unBant · 05/10/2013 15:11

Here we go again...

OP posts:
ManofMystery · 03/11/2013 13:44

I have never tried Internet dating-for those who have, any good? Sounds a bit hit and miss TBH

Queenofthedrivensnow · 03/11/2013 13:52

I had a test from gap yah to say he chicken out of kissing me . Oh well at least he acknowledged it!

ManofMystery · 03/11/2013 13:58

Queen-what did you reply?!

ladygoingGaga · 03/11/2013 14:05

man I think you have just made a hundred friends by saying you prefer a woman with curves Grin it is nice to hear that men just want real women. Daddy's rich girl does sound annoying!

I had never tried internet dating either, but made a conscious decision not to date anyone else in my line of work, and that kind of makes it hard, as previous bf's I've always met in work or via work, so I tried OD for the first time this year, yes It's hit and miss but I've had fun and had lots of coffees and meals out and a bit of sex so what's to lose

Six months later I'm onto date 6 with supermarket man tonight

queen that's the best text you could of gotSmile what did you reply!!

Poffedoff · 03/11/2013 14:13

Oneday... Have a lovely afternoon, it's kinda cool he resisted dtd the other night i think..
Queen.. yes, at least he acknowledges that it was something he wanted to do... Did he say why he didn't?

ManofMystery · 03/11/2013 14:19

Gaga-thanks! Yep, she was definitely a little too thin. I am not going to guess at dress sizes but yep, a woman with curves is so much more sexy. Voluptuous women are surely what every man wants??

Perhaps I need to sign into PoF etc-like you say, can't do any harm. Unless someone from work sees my profile of course...

And agreed Queen, that was the best text you could have got...!

ladygoingGaga · 03/11/2013 14:29

man I don't personally like pof, as there seems to be loads of people from work on there and 'customers' I was on pof and kept my profile hidden, but apparently you have to upgrade to do that now.

I prefer the sites you pay for as quality was def better Grin but pof is a good place to start I guess

Poffedoff · 03/11/2013 14:35

Date six Gaga... Great!
Do you think you're "exclusive" yet?

Man its a bit of a minefield but can be great fun... as long as you have pretty thick skin and try not to take it too seriously then it could be very worthwhile..

I'm doing lots of thinking about whether this thing with pof guy is worth the headspace I've been giving it recently... I have such a busy life... Recently separated, 3 kids, elderly dad living with me... No job, which I'm trying to remedy (I was sahm since my eldest was born) but ...tend to spend a large percentage of my time thinking about him/us!
Weird thing is I'm not even sure how it could ever move on from where it is right now...not a chance my ex or my kids are ready for me to be dating and won't be for a looong time yet so it's going to have to be "a secret" for quite some time...
Ah I dunno...I'd forgotten how unsettling all this relationship stuff can be!

ManofMystery · 03/11/2013 14:47

Ah, the last thing I need is work seeing my profile-I will never live it down. That's the risk working mainly with men unfortunately...

ladygoingGaga · 03/11/2013 15:07

poff I know! We have talked about weekends away in November and December so without actually specifying, yeah it guess we are exclusive, feels more than just dating now.
But I'm going to hang around here for a while Grin

You have a lot going on at the moment, and it sounds like pof guy is a useful distraction, but like you rightly say, you might not be ready for more, but at least you recognise that, I'd be more worried if you didn't!

man yeah it's difficult, I'm a manager at work and supervise a lot of people, I wouldn't want them all seeing me on pof, I'd be mortified

I didn't find one person from work on match

Poffedoff · 03/11/2013 15:25

Gaga, it sounds a bit like pof guy and I at the beginning... We drifted from one date to the next without ever really discussing what was happening... It did lead to a good bit of anxiety for us both so my advice would be don't let it go too much longer before some kind of affirmation..

I probably shouldn't officially be here either anymore seeing as I'm not actively dating but.... it's too much fun to leave! Grin

Queenofthedrivensnow · 03/11/2013 17:03

Ok so gap yah works with the ow from my marriage. I know this because I stalked him on twitter. *hurls.

Queenofthedrivensnow · 03/11/2013 17:05

Oh I replied the the kids text 'oh I did wonder' I was about to go and see him on the way to somewhere but then I just discovered the below. Guidance please.....

Poffedoff · 03/11/2013 17:09

Queen... How bizarre!
Are they close colleagues do you think?

ManofMystery · 03/11/2013 17:23

I am new to this so what's ow? If they are close, they may swap notes - only you will know I'd that is good or bad!

Stupidhead · 03/11/2013 17:25

OW - other woman!
That's not good. Is it a small company? And the Christmas party's + one hmm...

Queenofthedrivensnow · 03/11/2013 17:28

I knew there was a chance - it's forces

Stupidhead · 03/11/2013 17:31

In my (limited experience of shagging one..) they tend to be quite close and stick up for each other :-/

Your call I guess but I would be really uncomfortable!

2013letsdothis · 03/11/2013 17:36

Hello OD experts in here! Really enjoying reading your tales and woes and learning a lot ;-)

Need your general consensus on something please ... first date last night, very hot guy which I fancied straight away, lovely chemistry while having drinks, and plenty of I-want-to-kiss-you looks from both of us etc etc. He then out of the blue suggests I spend the night at his place (no actual kissing yet at that stage). Also when kissing later in the evening he was extremely passionate, full on snogging straight away ....... still good for potentially long term material or just after one thing? He was a bit tipsy which I'm sure didn't help either lol

Thanks!!

ladygoingGaga · 03/11/2013 17:40

Hmmm queen difficult one! for me it would be about how he handles the situation, and how comfortable you feel about it, how much does she know about you?

ManofMystery · 03/11/2013 17:51

2013-yep he wants a shag! All well and good but surely a bit keen if you hadn't even snogged him at that point? Lord know what he will do once you have slept together....I would hold off and make him wait. Surely the anticipation is half the fun anyway? At least date 3 I would say..

2013letsdothis · 03/11/2013 17:56

Thanks Man.... possible that he wants a shag initially but also after a serious relationship? Or the fact that he tried it on so early on cancels out any good intentions? He's been texting today and being very sweet so far.

Queenofthedrivensnow · 03/11/2013 18:03

Stupidhead that is precisely my experience too Hmm

Sitting outside his house deliberating whether to bring it up. Will report later.

ManofMystery · 03/11/2013 18:17

2013-just sex I think. Course he could be after more but you need to make him work for it. He will be sweet until he gets sex so I think you need to be strong and make him wait. It should be worth the effort...

ladygoingGaga · 03/11/2013 18:18

2013 what man says! make him wait, if he is a player he will bugger off Grin nothing wrong with a passionate kiss! but suggesting you go back to his means he has one thing on his mind.

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