The Dating Thread 64

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Here we go again...

Rollercola, what is it you think you should be mentioning? I think most guys who are dating these days would be expecting that condoms are mandatory with new partners...it's wise to have some with you of course but don't think it's something that needs to be discussed in advance myself.

Oh and Rollercola, I would definitely go for the hotel option myself... It's more neutral for a start and he won't be under as much pressure to be "the host", something which I find pretty stressful myself

Ok so men should expect to wear a condom yes? Are you sure? Do I not need to mention it at all? Will it appear at the relevant moment?

Still unsure about the hotel thing. Not really sure why I'm unsure though. I know I want to sleep with him, I'd like to stay out late dancing & whatnot so it does make sense. I'm just not sure.

Evening
So I am still getting nowhere with crush man. Going on a date with another bloke tonight who is actually real cool - I am jury distracted by hot crush man. Loo update later
Tonight's date man ought to have a moniker.....

Broken, don't ever try to understand the male mind!!! They from another planet remember

Poffed not sure really, he has to come see me unless we meet centrally as I don't have car at mo n he has a motorbike so we haven't really planned in advance. I'm not really sure how I feel about him, not sure what I want to be honest!

Hamwidge - good luck. Will wait for loo update !

Roller - if you have done lots of pashing already sit him down and say can we have a chat about contraception. I will be doing this when the time comes - I have enough babies I don't want anymore! Don't feel shy about it he might be worrying about it too just get it over with. If he is weird or uncooperative he's not worth shagging

Thanks hamwidge, are you out yet? Looking forward to wee update

We don't all come from another planet. I'm from Grimsby.

Although a lot of men apparently don't 'do' condoms as it gives them performance issues. I'd advise to have your own and insist.

Hey Bant - any thoughts from a male perspective on my dilemma ?(think I posted yesterday - I've been looking out for you!)

Very droll Bant

He's the drollest

This thread moves very fast doesn't it?

Ok I'll make sure I've got condoms too & will certainly be insisting. There is NO chance I'll be taking any risks!

I missed the loo update. Hmm let's call him gap yah man
Date was pretty good, conversation was brill. Not 100% sure I fancy him though he looks good. I am a bit meh about it because he reminds me a bit of exh - not personality, profession and same age so more cultural references really but I know my friends would see it straight away. I told him when I was free if he wanted to go out again. I got a nice text when he got in bit I think this could go either way still... No snog

I am on my way to work as I write this.I am going straight to the date from work.In my bag I have: hair gel,after shave,mints and a couple of condoms.It would be a pity if we want to DTD and we were restricted because of lack of condom. It is my willy,so I should be responsible for providing his "clothing", although not all men might have the same attitude.

We probably will not go dancing tonight-it was just mentioned in her first message to me.

Hamwidge sounds like it was nice but not amazing? I know what you mean about finding men who remind you of exh - this guy I've met actually looks quite like my exh . It was a bit weird till I realised he was actually NOTHING like him really (thank god)

Ordinary bloke, glad to see you're organised, specially the condoms! Looking forward to the update later!

Hamwidge was their no snog because you decided or a joint thing? It's just in my dating experience if there was no attempt for a kiss on his part then there would be no second date could be just my experience though

Ordinary good luck for tonight, I'd have needed a rucksack if going straight from work all stuff I'd need ha ha. Mr gemini didn't offer to wear condom but had told me that he'd had the snip and didn't sleep around so prob thought didn't need to bring any

Yoga - sorry I've been on the road so haven't been able to post. From what I remember, things are okay for you but you're just not that into him? Or at least not as much as yes into you?

I don't know what to suggest tbh. Honest conversation might sort a few things out. Tell him you want to take things very slowly and see if he's okay with that? These feelings can creep up on you but are you missing out on someone who'd knock your socks off in the meantime?

Morning All,

Hope everyone is well. No exciting pof updates for me. No guys catching my eye in my area at the moment. Have had an invite to coffee from last boy I was seeing. Not sure if I'll go yet. He could be some light entertainment until someone else comes along.

Broken I would just ask him if I was you. Then you'll know if he is one of the penpals or someone who actually does want to meet people in real life.

Good luck tonight ordinary and to dontcallmehon tomo. Hope the dates go well.

Hamwidge maybe there'll be a smog on date two and he'll knock your socks off. No harm in seeing him again if you're not 100% sure.

Ah snog not smog! Fat fingers.

Thanks powpow Meeting geeky guy on Saturday. Got date with the solicitor next Friday - but I've got high hopes for geeky guy.

brokenhearted I agree, just ask him. You've nothing to lose. I asked and now I've got a date from it.

Nope there was no smog (he he) attempt but loads of texting and compliments today. I think I would like him as a friend if it doesn't go anywhere. I def need time post dates to digest....today I'm thinking yeh actually that was a really good night

Meanwhile mr hot and cold is back in contact. He can fuck right off all that really upset me.
Last night I told crush man I had a night off - he didn't bite. I don't know if he's just not interested or if I'm not blatant enough or he's just not ready for dating (there would be a v good reason for this).

Arf at 'it's my willy'

2nd date with has been requested by gap yah man

My date last night was nice but there was no physical attraction unfortunately. however I came home and noticed my very hot flatmate topless, but I will not go there reminds herself she has a cold shower she can jump into next time hes in his boxers

I did meet someone on the train though, more my type, asked for my number, lives pretty local without being too close, haven't messaged him yet, might in the next hour or two though