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Abusive OH hassling me. I'm at my mums. Shall/can I report?

107 replies

WhatAPallava · 28/09/2013 22:59

Ridiculous abusive relationship with OH I can't take anymore culminated in a massive argument this evening in public and with my friends.

I am at my mums but he won't stop ringing and texting and threatening.

I am kind of scared, I don't know what to do.

I don't need to call 999 but should I report it to 101?

He is crazy and I don't trust him he will never let me leave him but this is it now

OP posts:

Meerka · 29/09/2013 17:37

please don't let him anywhere near your DD at all. Like the experienced people say above - way too dangerous.

Can the police help you get your stuff?

SolidGoldBrass · 29/09/2013 20:54

There is a lot of help and support out there OP. You can cut this man pretty much out of your lives - if his immigration status is dodgy you might be able to get him deported. Involve the police, WA and SS, all of whom will help you, and refuse any contact from him at present - ignore texts and phone calls, phone the police if he turns up at your mother's house (where he has no right of entry), get court orders keeping him out of your current home. It sounds like there is already plenty on record so you shouldn't have much trouble.
Remember that he is a worthless shitbag and your enemy so don't waste time or energy on feeling sorry for him - he forfeited the right to any sympathy the first time he attacked you. Oh, and don't blame yourself for not realising what a shit he was - abusive men are good at hiding their disgusting true selves long enough to persuade women to form relationships with them and have their children.

pictish · 29/09/2013 21:03

I always worry about the OP when they disappear after a thread like this. Can't help it.

cjel · 29/09/2013 21:10

Hope you are ok,OP?x

pictish · 29/09/2013 21:21

I know that it's 99.99999% chance they are just busy with the real word. I too hope OP is alright.

Oscarandelliesmum · 29/09/2013 21:22

Me too Pictish,
There are so many of these threads....brave women and shit head men. I worry for OP aswell, she did say it was tricky getting on line. Well done for leaving OP
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Hissy · 29/09/2013 23:41

S'alright Vivacia, you know how some can get on here! ;-)

OP's at her mum's, no? Phone off? Hoping that's why all's quiet.

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