He's finally gone (for those that remember my threads)

[VitoCorleone]

After months of shit he's finally gone.

Some of you may remember my past threads where he would get drunk and say really nasty, hateful things to me and have me in tears most weekends.

He then promised to stop drinking in the house couldnt give it up full stop eh but stopped drinking in the house and things where ok.

Last weekend he came home with a crate of fosters and sat and drank one after the other, i was too scared to say anything about the promise he'd made so ended up just goin to bed early.

Yesterday he text me from work asking me to get him cans of fosters. I point blank refused, reminded him of his promise to me, told him i WILL NOT be spending my weekends on edge worrying wether im going to be on the recieving end of his shit. He didnt speak to me when he got in from work, not one word all night.

This morning he got up and declared he was going to the other side of the country to see his mate. Yep how great it must be to be able to get up and fuck off out like that with no consideration for your partner and kids eh?

Then he started going on about "when its my birthday im April (!) i want to be having a drink to celebrate"

It dawned on me, alcohol is more important to him than i am. Always has been, always will be. He said "you know what, i havent even got anything to say to you" as he was heading to the door. I said "your a cunt when you drink but you know what? Your a cunt when you dont fucking drink aswell"

Ive told him not to come back tomorrow. Just fucking off this morning like a single man not even discussing it with me, well thats done it for me.

Phones getting switched off, me and kids going out fpr the day, he can jog the fuck on and not come back

People are supppsed to look forward to holidays and weekends, not me, i fucking dread them. Not any fucking more.

right lady, fags away, you need them like you need him. If you're not giving him a second (third, fourth etc) chance, you aren't giving the fags one either.

From now on, don;t text back (will drive him insane) if you need to contact him, cool, calm and emotionless. Remember, you don't care enough to get anry (even if you do, fake it, it'll upset his pride more to think you don't give a shit compared to thinking you care enough to be angry/sad)

He hasnt text me since he left anyway, and i havent text him either.

Starting to think now and feel a bit sad :( but keep trying to remind myself of the bad shit. Going to look for my other threads now.

Hey Vito. Not sure if I know your backstory from other threads but wanted to say well done on sticking to your guns and making sure your EX never c

Sorry posted too soon! Never comes back is what I was trying to say. You are bound to feel a bit of a drop now that he has buggered off, for good this time. It's emotional and hard to do. So be kind to yourself. Even if you want to feel how you feel (e.g sad, confused, wishing he was a different person etc), it's ok to let yourself go through these emotions. You have done the hard part for today, and no doubt him coming back to get his stuff wasn't pretty and you will have had lots if adrenalin going on so just try to take it easy on yourself today. Tomorrow you can put on your 'armour' again and use your anger to protect yourself but if you need to feel a bit sad today that things ultimately didn't work out then let yourself go through those emotions.
Is the christening today? Hope you can get to it and enjoy the company of people who appreciate you and care about you. Enjoy your child(ren?) and give them extra love - your relationship with them is so precious and unconditional. A prefect contrast to your EX-relationship. Have a and well done again.

You're bound to feel a bit down, a relationship break up is a big thing, but you really are doing the right thing for both you and your child.

Stay strong.

You are better off without him.

Stay strong. He's banking on your good nature and your love for him.

However, he doesn't love you at all. Remember that.

Of course you feel sad. This was a huge step. The right one, but still pretty huge.

And nobody wants to end something they thought was forever but you're doing ABSOLUTELY the best and right thing!

Just look at what he said:

Reckons he was trying to "prove a point" that he can do whatever he wants

This is not somebody you want to waste your life on and that's not even getting into the alcoholism.

You're doing great

OP
you are awesome

how old are your kids?

The kids are older, they think he is at work. He is in a hotel as far as im aware

Im sorta ok. Dont even feel like talking about it anymore which is why i havent been back, trying to keep busy to keep my mind off it.

Feeing sad is ok. It's normal and part of the process. It's also normal to miss the shitbag and feel nostalgic and wonder if you made a mistake. None of that means you did though x

Get some more Ramsay in your life.

Arf...