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He's finally gone (for those that remember my threads)

114 replies

VitoCorleone · 28/09/2013 09:20

After months of shit he's finally gone.

Some of you may remember my past threads where he would get drunk and say really nasty, hateful things to me and have me in tears most weekends.

He then promised to stop drinking in the house couldnt give it up full stop eh but stopped drinking in the house and things where ok.

Last weekend he came home with a crate of fosters and sat and drank one after the other, i was too scared to say anything about the promise he'd made so ended up just goin to bed early.

Yesterday he text me from work asking me to get him cans of fosters. I point blank refused, reminded him of his promise to me, told him i WILL NOT be spending my weekends on edge worrying wether im going to be on the recieving end of his shit. He didnt speak to me when he got in from work, not one word all night.

This morning he got up and declared he was going to the other side of the country to see his mate. Yep how great it must be to be able to get up and fuck off out like that with no consideration for your partner and kids eh?

Then he started going on about "when its my birthday im April (!) i want to be having a drink to celebrate"

It dawned on me, alcohol is more important to him than i am. Always has been, always will be. He said "you know what, i havent even got anything to say to you" as he was heading to the door. I said "your a cunt when you drink but you know what? Your a cunt when you dont fucking drink aswell"

Ive told him not to come back tomorrow. Just fucking off this morning like a single man not even discussing it with me, well thats done it for me.

Phones getting switched off, me and kids going out fpr the day, he can jog the fuck on and not come back

People are supppsed to look forward to holidays and weekends, not me, i fucking dread them. Not any fucking more.

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VitoCorleone · 28/09/2013 20:19

He just text, apparently I'm a silly girl ha! FUCK YOU DOUCHE BAG

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QuintessentialShadows · 28/09/2013 20:22

But he will be back from visiting his friend tomorrow? What then?

Fluffycloudland77 · 28/09/2013 20:23

Yes well that's just his way of saying you be a good girl and put up with my shit.

I wouldn't reply. Drives them nuts if you don't reply and you can have them arrested for harassment if they don't take the hint & do one.

VitoCorleone · 28/09/2013 20:29

Oh he's getting a house tomorrow when he gets back apparently. Text me again saying "£500 for freedom" couldn't help myself and replied "see ya later cunt"

Nobody likes being called a cunt.

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DontmindifIdo · 28/09/2013 20:31

Agree, don't reply!!! is his stuff packed? Get it packed, get it round to someone else's (does he have family near by you can dump it on first thing?). Then tomorrow morning text to say where it is then switch your phone off at the Christening. If you can dead lock the door so he cant get in (going out the back like you planned), even better, stay over somewhere else tomorrow night. Deny him the "talking you round" opportunity.

DontmindifIdo · 28/09/2013 20:37

oh and I'd stop replying with sweary texts, as much as you want to, it shows him you are angry at him (which you are). I bet either not replying or replying with emotionless messages will fuck with his head more. If you''d replied to his "£500 for freedom" message with "Glad you are happy to move on too." or just "understood." that would really freak him out - if you are angry, you are emotionally involved, that means at some level you care (even if you just care that he's made you angry), emotionless means you don't actually care enough to get angry. That's going to hit his pride. Why doesn't she care anymore?

You might still be angry, but if you can fake being emotionless you'll wind him up more than calling him a cunt. Trust me, while noone likes being called a cunt, it's much more hurtful to realise you don't create an emotional response at all in someone you think loves you...

ShoeWhore · 28/09/2013 20:38

Well d

Fluffycloudland77 · 28/09/2013 20:39

The being arrested for harassment thing could be used on you too.......

Step away from the phone

ShoeWhore · 28/09/2013 20:39

Well done OP. Stay strong. You sound ace - you deserve more out of life.

SecretWitch · 28/09/2013 20:39

Vito, I do remember you. I am sending tonnes of good wishes to and your child for a peaceful, happy future. Please keep yourself safe in this transitional period. Flowers

MissStrawberry · 28/09/2013 20:40

Stop texting him. If it is over make it be over. You don't need to talk to him anymore do you?

QuintessentialShadows · 28/09/2013 20:41

Stop sending him abusive texts, they can be used against you.

RhondaJean · 28/09/2013 20:43

Vito you can change the locks on a council house. You just hand in the new keys if you end the tenancy for any reason, it shouldn't be a problem at all.

VitoCorleone · 28/09/2013 20:44

He fucking aggrivates me. Turning phone off for the night now, going to watch Ramsay then get to bed.

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waltermittymissus · 28/09/2013 20:45

Stop responding.

You need to be smart right now. Don't say anything can be deemed harassment or intimidation.

Enjoy your night Smile

VitoCorleone · 28/09/2013 20:58

A bit of Gordon Ramsay can take my mind off anything, what a guy :)

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Boosterseat · 28/09/2013 21:00

For you Vito

Mr Ramsey

Featherbag · 28/09/2013 21:09

Well done you! Get those locks changed and enjoy your peace x

VitoCorleone · 28/09/2013 21:17

Hahah thank you booster these pics just made my day AND made me totally laugh out loud

"slightly underseasoned vegetables? YOU'RE A CUNT"

"you used so much oil the USA want to invade the fucking plate"

Grin love it

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NameyMcChanger · 28/09/2013 21:20

Op, if you can't change the locks leave your key in the door and turn it upwards, he won't be able to get a key in from the other side.

RandomMess · 28/09/2013 21:23

Agree with the others disengage completely that is the way to show him it is 100% over. Pack his stuff up tomorrow and leave it on the doorstop Smile

Onwards and upwards

VitoCorleone · 28/09/2013 21:26

Thanks all, well im going to do me tan and me nails now then get to bed once Kitchen Nightmares is finished. Phones off so wont hear anything from him now til tomorrow.

Night all :)

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VitoCorleone · 29/09/2013 08:50

Guess who is one sorry motherfucker this morning...

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farrowandbawl · 29/09/2013 08:51

Do yourself a favour and download an app to block calls, put his number on it.

Reading his messages, even if you don't reply will make things worse and will make the tempation to respond to the really nasty ones that are coming harder to resist.

I've used SecureAnywhere, it not only blocks calls and messages, but its also a software protector (I can't remember the name of them now), basically a phone version of AVG with call and message blocking.

farrowandbawl · 29/09/2013 08:52

How are you feeling?