He's finally gone (for those that remember my threads)

[VitoCorleone]

After months of shit he's finally gone.

Some of you may remember my past threads where he would get drunk and say really nasty, hateful things to me and have me in tears most weekends.

He then promised to stop drinking in the house couldnt give it up full stop eh but stopped drinking in the house and things where ok.

Last weekend he came home with a crate of fosters and sat and drank one after the other, i was too scared to say anything about the promise he'd made so ended up just goin to bed early.

Yesterday he text me from work asking me to get him cans of fosters. I point blank refused, reminded him of his promise to me, told him i WILL NOT be spending my weekends on edge worrying wether im going to be on the recieving end of his shit. He didnt speak to me when he got in from work, not one word all night.

This morning he got up and declared he was going to the other side of the country to see his mate. Yep how great it must be to be able to get up and fuck off out like that with no consideration for your partner and kids eh?

Then he started going on about "when its my birthday im April (!) i want to be having a drink to celebrate"

It dawned on me, alcohol is more important to him than i am. Always has been, always will be. He said "you know what, i havent even got anything to say to you" as he was heading to the door. I said "your a cunt when you drink but you know what? Your a cunt when you dont fucking drink aswell"

Ive told him not to come back tomorrow. Just fucking off this morning like a single man not even discussing it with me, well thats done it for me.

Phones getting switched off, me and kids going out fpr the day, he can jog the fuck on and not come back

People are supppsed to look forward to holidays and weekends, not me, i fucking dread them. Not any fucking more.

Swearing is good, stress out rather than bottling it up.

That is my excuse anyway and I am sticking to it. I am probably the least ill in my department at work than those that are nice and polite all the time

I expect you will get some sort of grovelling message next.

What a knob.

He's trying to call your bluff.

No one will have a go at you for swearing.

Well done on getting this far. Just don't reply to him from now on, nothing, not one word.

Hmm i dunno, i think he means it, we'll find out tomorrow once he's got his stupid "lads" drinking sesh out of his system.

Im more pissed off that he has £500 on him and i have no money because he gave me £20 last week and i said id pay him back and he said it didnt matter but he took my last £20 this morning "wheres that money you owe me?" ha best part is, he took that before he told me where he was fucking off to, coz im telling you now i would have told him to take a long walk off a short pier if i knew he was leaving me skint AND on my own with the kids. Sly fucker

He sounds like a real dick.

Telling him to take a long jump is the best move.

He wont be recieving any more texts from me. Not one.

Takes money off skint partner to go drinking but then reveals he has £500. Nice.

You need to make a list, either writ it down or mentally keep note of EVERYTHING, every little stunt he's pulled, every little lie, every sly move, everything.

Write it down and read it on a regular basis. Read it before answering his calls or messages, read it everytime he gets back in contact - then, a few years down the line this will be the last thing you have of him. Burn it. Watch it go up in smoke and walk away from that last part of your life.

*write

Can you download an app on your phone that will block his messages and calls? That way you have your phone back in use for more useful things.

This little trip was the final nail in the coffin for me. Paired with giving me the silent treatment all night last night. How dare he? Stupid boy man

Farrow it would be one hell of a list, the fucking shit ive had to put up with, but this and something else he done will stay in my mind, he should have been thrown out like trash for the other incident, but he begged me and promised me he'd stop drinking (in the house ) so i cant forgive now.

We're supposed to be going on holiday in a couple of weeks aswell :(

My phone is back on now, ive just changed the settings so that i dont get notification of a text, so i wont see any messages unless i actually go into my inbox (as opposed to the message being on the top of the screen) and if anyone needs to get a hold of me and its an emergancy then they can call. Dont expect anyone else to text me today so wont be missing owt.

Vito I didn't see your other threads but I'm moved to post and say

WELL DONE FOR DOING THIS AND DOING IT WITH HUMOUR AND RESOLVE - FUCKING BRILLIANT.

As my mother used to say - "he's going to be laughing on the other side of his face when i get done with him". So is yours .

Laughing on the other side of his face havent heard that for years!

He's going to be one sorry motherfucker in the morning when the booze wears off and he realises what he's done, just getting up and declaring he was going boozing with his mate and make a day of it, leaving me skint with the kids.

Because he thinks he's being clever right now, he thinks he's teaching me a lesson or something for not letting him drink in the house (even though it was him that promised that when faced with me kicking him out ) then tomorrow he'll be so sorry, he'll have missed me and not want us to break up blah blah fucking blah. Heard it all before. And i always fall for his lies/promises.

Differance is, this time round ive finally realised that booze is his first love, and if he cared about me he wouldnt want to drink and be a cunt and hurt me. THEN furthermore, all that stuff he says when he's pissed... He thinks it when he's sober too - he just hasnt got the balls to say it to me when sober. So, why in the name of fuck would i be with somebody who, quite frankly, doesnt even like me? I can take my pick of the fellas, why should i settle for somebody who is a nasty abusive cunt?!

So im sure he thinks he's being clever, he probably even thinks im sat by the phone waiting for him to text, little does he know that ive finally fucking snapped and couldnt care less any more! The stupid cunt thinks he's winning, like Charlie Sheen, but he's really really lost this time. O well!

I like the sound of you. :)

It reminds me of exH who was kicked out but left his belongings at home, then came back knocking with a smile on his face, as if he showing up was a blessing.

Wipe his smile off his face.

Loving the determination that's coming across in that last post.

You are right in everything you say, he will regret it, you just have to stay strong, which by the looks of it you will.

Ask for help from friends and family, they'll do what they can. It will be lonely at times, but no where near as bad as being in a lonely relationship.

Just think of the eggshells you are no longer walking on, no more worrying about what you can or can't say, do or can't do. Being able to make plans without fear of any repercussions what so ever. Congratulations on your new life!

I sold my ex's clothes to a cash for clothes type thing. The money went on a takeaway, dvd's, wine and fags and junk food for the kids (given up smoking since then).

It was the best money I'd spent in a long time. I loved every single second of it.

Yay go you!

I've had that feeling, that moment of total clarity and realisation. When you look at their face and just think FUCK. THAT. Enough is enough.

I'll be honest, ive always been scared of being on my own, that id be alone forever. But i cant live on eggshells every single time the weekend rolls around most people look forward to the weekend, i look forward to sunday nights when i know he cant drink because he has work the next day. How sad is that?

And i know i wont be alone forever, jeez i get chatted up just walking to the shops! Im only 26, ive still got it :)

Punching the air for you Vito, of course you've still got it and whats more you've just lost a shed load of weight (11stone plus!)

Bet you look bloody fantastic and will soon feel even better.

I got told i looked "absolutley awesome" just
yesterday by some fella outside Spar :) made my day haha

A bloke writes: High five to you!

One other thing. If he has taken out the money, he 'll probably drink it. That's what they do. Ring 101 and tell them that there's a drunk driver in car reg AA123 BBB, or if you can't remember the number give them his name and address. Mention as well that you fear assault (the fear of immediate assault is the same thing as the act itself in law).

Good luck.

Ha I don't doubt he will drink it, once hes started drinking he doesn't know when to stop, but I don't think he'll be driving, his mate lives by the city centre so he won't need to tonight.

And I'm not scared he'll attack me either tbh i'd be more likely to give him a good hiding and he knows it.

Well I've had a nice bath and am going to sit and watch some old episodes of Ramsay's Kitchen Nightmares (fucking love Gordon Ramsay) and do my nails and tan (at a christening tomorrow) this is how my Saturday nights should be, not sat here having to watch what I say or do.

Glad you are having a nice Saturday night. Enjoy your pampering.