The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Driving Through The Autumn Scenes, Searching For Our Sober Dreams.

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Hello, I'm Mouse :) Welcome to the Bus, (aka Gerald ).

I'm one of the Brave Babes on board this fabulous Bus of travellers, all in search of their sobriety in one form or another.

We have those who drink in moderation, those who have a set pattern of days on and off the booze, and we have posters who have been sober for minutes, hours, days, weeks, months or years.

There are two lines that the Bus has painted down the side, one on each -

The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement and Alcohol Fosters Inertia

So, if you think you're drinking too much or you're worried about another person, then come find a seat.

We get through our days chatting about all sorts of things, life is, after all, full of plenty of things to fuel our desire to drink, and we're all very different people

However, our common goal is sobriety. :)

The Last Thread

The Reason We're Here - The First Thread

Well done tanya

Thanks Rural:)

Thank you all for the support and kind messages.

I normally start at 11am so 2 hours and no alcohol.

Almost managed to empty the washing machine and have a shower.

One minute and one step at a time.

Hope everyone is doing well. This bus is an amazing place.

Will consider the AA helpline

Thanks all and good luck everyone x

sharp reach out for whatever help you can get. You don't need to do this alone.

If you've told your GP the extent of things I think you should try to see a different GP. You are alcohol dependent and need support to detox safely. Have they asked you to come back or report on progress? Well done this morning by the way :)

Waves back at purps glad dd is less spawn like this morning!

isinde duly noted I'll clean up!

Just went to the shop but it was closed so came home with water.

In severe withdrawal at the moment.

Just also sent my mum a brutally honest email. Finally need to be straight with her.

Thanks everyone x

sharp your doing great, just take it hour by hour, even minute by minute, if you can get through today, a whole new life awaits you, we believe in you xx purple I totally feel for you on dd front, I have 14 year old who talks to me as though I'm an idiot, she's always been such a good girl, it may sound soppy but I miss my wee girl. I also have a toddler dd who is as wild as they come, when I went to my gp last week for help with anxiety, I had my toddler with me, by the end of the app the doctor said to me "don't be too hard on yourself, I can see exactly why your anxious" while shuffling dd and I out of the room, he looked traumatised when dd climbed on his desk and checked his heartbeat with his stethoscope!!! I don't know which one is worse, the big one or the wee one, big hugs to you my friend xx why let us know your ok babe.. ma your amazing, the way you handled your brother with love and compassion, show some of that to yourself, hope your feeling better.. Love to all babes today xxx

That's great about the email to your mum sharpkat. I'm very concerned about your well being, having had seizures I think you should call the GP now about your withdrawal symptoms or NHS direct.

Called the GP. Someone is going to call me back.

Sorry I am not offering any support. As soon as I can get well I will be there for you all. Xx

That's good sharpkat please don't apologise. The bus is an obligation free zone. Stay and soak up the support you can - it never has to be repaid! Hope the call goes well with the Gp

GP said have a drink immediately and has made me a double appt at 4pm. Just got to get myself there now. Xx

Well done, let us know how you get on. Good luck!

Hi, can I join you please? I have been a lurker for a while but I really need a bit of help. I have been drinking daily for months now. My sister was very ill in hospital for 4 months with liver & kidney problems - she had underlying health issues but they were probably exacerbated by drinking. She came out of hospital and was recovering but 6 weeks later got an infection which she couldn't fight off and she died in August . I lost my dad 14 months before my sister and my mum died 7 years ago - I am the only one left.

I am finding it very difficult impossible to have an AF night but I would really like to not drink in the week and then enjoy some wine Friday/Sat/Sun. I feel so guilty towards my DC for drinking too much and I hate beating myself up every morning after I have yet again given in to alcohol the night before.

I saw my GP recently and told her everything. I promised I would try and not drink in the week. She agreed to do a full bloods health check which was carried out last Tuesday but I am too scared to ring and see if the results are in.

Sorry for the long-winded post!

shall hi and welcome, I'm so so sorry for your loss, you've had a horrid amount of grief in such a short time. How much are you drinking?? First of all don't panic about the tests? The liver is the most forgiving organ so just concentrate on the next 24 hours. By far the best advice given to me on this magical bus is to be prepared for stopping or cutting down, look after yourself, eat well, have lovely bubble baths, takes vitamins, have sweet treats on hand as sugar cravings kick in. Buy new pygamas and a good book or box set, maybe start with one on one off then build the off nights up, the most important thing ever is to stay on here and the love and support you will get from the amazing babes will keep you going, you can do it xxx sharp well done on your courage seeking help, this is the beginning of a better life, let us know how the doc goes, thinking of you xxxx. As always love to my dear babe friends, you all know who you are xxx ps ladame well done you on the new job!!! Yippee for you babe xxx

Welcome shall so sorry to her about the loss of your sister and parents.

Well done for wanting to tackle the alcohol. Having the motivation to change things is the first step. Thanks for posting here, stick around it's really helped me tackle daily drink (though not last week but that's because I was was being purposely petulant!)

sharp how did it go?

GP said I have to keep drinking but cut down very very gradually.

There is a community drugs and alcohol team I could self refer to.

One minute, one hour, one day at a time.

I can do this and I want to xxx

Thanks for all the thoughts xxx

You can do it sharp have you written down a plan of how many drinks per day that you can try to stick to?

Welcome to new and returning babes

Sharpkat well done you are making a great start. I agree with Isinde that it could be hard to just cut down gradually unless you plan it carefully.

Keeping just the right amount of alcohol in the house is a good plan. Is there a way to do this? How about measuring the amount out and freezing the rest? Will you start later each day so that there is less time to fill once you've had the first drink?

Keep posting, let us know how it goes x

Welcome shall

purple sorry to hear about your problems with DD. Mine is 11 and the emotions they go through at this age are extraordinary! I guess their hormones are running wild, but it's exhausting. As someone else said, they tend to test the boundaries of people they already feel secure with. If that helps. I've also found that being tired makes her 10 times worse!

sharp to limit how much you drink, pour away a quantity first, then you have what's left to drink.
Big waves to all.

'LO there gorgeous babes

Just a quick check in and a handful of opal fruits/ hay/ dogfood and whatever Barry's having.

Life is a little hard- I'm worried about Ds's health. I'm nearly 10 months sober but still have to tell the ww to fuck the fuck off regularly.(none of this 'I have no desire to drink' malarky for me)
lots of love and best wishes to you all.

Welcome new babes

hello Brave Babes,
just popping in to mark my 3 year sober anniversary which is sometime this week. (I was BBwannaB in the old days).
I hopped on board this bus in a desperate state, but thanks to all the fantastic support on here I am able to face each day, knowing that nothing is improved by being drunk or hungover.

Keep on fighting babes, keep on trying.