The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Driving Through The Autumn Scenes, Searching For Our Sober Dreams.

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Hello, I'm Mouse :) Welcome to the Bus, (aka Gerald ).

I'm one of the Brave Babes on board this fabulous Bus of travellers, all in search of their sobriety in one form or another.

We have those who drink in moderation, those who have a set pattern of days on and off the booze, and we have posters who have been sober for minutes, hours, days, weeks, months or years.

There are two lines that the Bus has painted down the side, one on each -

The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement and Alcohol Fosters Inertia

So, if you think you're drinking too much or you're worried about another person, then come find a seat.

We get through our days chatting about all sorts of things, life is, after all, full of plenty of things to fuel our desire to drink, and we're all very different people

However, our common goal is sobriety. :)

The Last Thread

The Reason We're Here - The First Thread

Just got back from tae kwondo class (soon to be a trained assassin) it is a really hard workout but lots of fun. Shower, cup of tea and then bed and that's Friday sorted here.

thurso I am on the East Coast of Canada, a bit further north that Rhode Island ( and I only know that because of the marvellous internet, my geography is a bit sketchy too!)

faire your road trip sounded great, ah those romantic days pre children, when a hot coc would have been a highlight

isinde at 'not any night ever'

Night all, sleep soundly xx

I'm with indie but for entirely different reasons

I sometimes get one a day !!! The eggs I buy here are called 'Gros Cocques' - gives a whole new meaning to going to work on an egg

Also there are crisps called 'Frigg'

and ... Lemonade called 'Schitt'

Wanders off happily having lowered the tone of the thread ...

Come back to say Hi to everyone. Hi everyone

Ladame got her job!!! Yay !!!

Yay!! That's great news Ladame congratulations.

Maybe we could celebrate with some schitt and frigg?

at Scary Yes, I'll pour out some Schitt and we can have a few salty Friggs (stop it! stop it!) ahem ...

DDback for a week at half-term next week. That's good in many ways, but it will also make me keep to my 4 days AF again.

OK - I tried naltrexone, which I think is the drug that has been made available in Scotland - it basically blocks the effects of alcohol so that eventually you find there is no point in drinking (is used for heroin addicts too). That didn't work for me and I just drank more to get the same effect.

Then Dr Chick prescribed me baclofen - it is a muscle relaxant and gets rid of anxiety which was at the root of my need to drink - if you want to know more read "The End of My Addiction" by Olivier Armestein.

It works.

I have never taken antabuse.

France is a work in progress at the moment - can't make the big move until DD has finished school here, so we are looking for a house/flat to have in the interim, and will then look for our 'forever' house once we are closer to moving there permanently.

Big Love to all BBs

Waves at Silver It'll happen lovely, once you start the process you'll know that you'll be here at the end of it x

Consils I normally don't get involved in calling people out and I know we're not supposed to, but who the fuck are you? You don't give any support or advice, you seem to be lurking, when you do post it's negative and provocative. We're a strong and supportive group, butt out.

Exactly Ladame - now we've made the decision to go, the way it happens sort of doesn't matter

Hook line and sinker consils . thanks for that

Gives silver a squeeze. Ignore consils - he/she is a wankbadger.
Great news on the boulot ladame. (smile)
It is a fecking miserable dreich day here and my missing period has turned up fairly spectacularly so I have done a hot water bottle, a mug of tea and a bacon butty and am in bed for the afternoon! No dh, no kids,and I refuse to do any housework so shoot me.
Possibly tmi but I may well be bleeding to death in which case, farewell my lovelies...
gives theatrical deathbed sigh

Aaah ma. The joys of the menopause. Random periods at random times of random degrees of periodness....

Tis shite my love x

And congratulations on the job ladame - c'est tres bon

Well said Ladame and congrats on the job :)

Hope you feel better soon ma, enjoy having an afternoon to yourself

Thanks Ma and Silver

Please don't bleed to death Ma, I'd miss you

Hope everyone is having a nice Saturday and hope you all manage the evening you want.

Going to do some clothes shopping over t'interweb now for new job. This normally involves receiving clothes, trying them on, having a sob when they don't fit and spending a fortune sending them back. Looking in the mirror and repeating 'You are a menopausal old bag' and then drowning my sorrows in a vat of Sauv Blanc, making me look even more of a menopausal old bag the next morning and being even fatter from the extra calories

Still, new job will mean driving all over the place, early mornings and staying overnight some places, lots of teamwork and people meeting so I won't be bored and lonely, which are my main triggers.

This time next year, will be a whole new Ladamned, all shiny and swishy-haired, skinny and vair vair important

Love name change ladamned must do my Halloween one. That clothes shopping routine is me to a tee!
Well, had a 3 hour snooze - on a Saturday afternoon! - and await the return of the dds for takeaway and Strictly.
What is every one else up to?

Evening all.

Well I can add homeless to my list of woes. I have to leave my friends house and have nowhere to stay.

If ever there was time for a drink, now would be it I guess. Just not going to happen.

I guess when you hit bottom and get sober, life isn't fully done fucking with you. You have to just do it sober.

My husband rang SS and told them I was homeless after Tuesday. Said they seemed angry. I can't understand why. They removed a SAHM from the family home, an immigrant with no family here and no job and are annoyed when I. become homeless. Did they think we would have money for two rents in one of the top 5 most expensive cities in the world?Maybe its the paperwork.

Sober and homeless: Day 39.

Hello gorgeous babes

I'm struggling with the mountain of paperwork hence not posting at all. Much lurking and much love to you all.
ma stop that bleeding immediately,unless you are a victorian laydee on a chaise lounge.
ladamned Don't change too much my lovely you are wonderful just as you are. But the job sounds good- congrats.

why- yes, I'm afraid that you are right this is shit and needs to be faced sober. I'm so sorry (big hug). Do you have a sponsor? What do your home group say? Can anyone put you up for a bit? What about the Ywca is it possible to rent a space in a hostel for a bit?
This is crap but stick with sobriety and it will all come good in the end- I can see that you are determined to stay sober and I can see that your DH is more & more on your side.I'm so sorry.

Keep fighting and stay strong.

Shit why you really are up against it. But you are sober. Still amazingly fucking sober! Your boy is going to be so proud of what you went through to win him back.
Now, what are your options. Seriously?
Who do you know. Who does dh know?
Hostels? Salvation army?

Oh why you really are being tested to the limit. Is it possible for you to stay with dh? I'm assuming that it isn't for some reason as from your posts it sounds like he is very supportive. I wish I had something useful to suggest. Sadly your experiences probably explain why so many people are reluctant to seek help. Hope things start to turn around soon xx

Can't go back home to husband and baby, as if! Order of protection.

Out of friends to stay with: best friend is in chemo for a non-cancer illness. Other bestie is tending to her DP who recently got actual cancer (mouth) and just had all of his teeth, some of his jaw and a portion of his tongue removed.

Wait listed for a homeless shelter in. ghetto about 2 hours away. That's as awesome as it sounds. Wont cave to drink but could take up crack or. that new drug bathsalts. I hate imposing on people so its the park bench for me. Which I find delightfully ironic : to end up on one sober.
Feel even more distant from my son. To be honest, if it wasn't for him and my current lack of a rope, I'd probably just call it quits. But there's that part of me that says I'm not done, this is not how it ends. As my mother was always known to proclaim: It will be alright in the end, and if its not alright, its not the end.

How long is the protection order in place stopping you living with dh? What about his parents? You are the mother of their grandson and quite clearly making huge efforts to turn your life around. What suggestions does dh have?
Any jobs going in local hotels etc where you can live in staff quarters?
I mention the salvation army before because they took my brother in when he was dying from alcohol addiction. He still lives with them now bit is out of the main hostel and in a little flat, supported by them. Do you have an equivalent organisation?

why that is awful and the shelter in a ghetto sounds frightening . I really hope that this protection order will be revoked soon, your determination must have been noticed. I would also second ma on the suggestion of dh's parents if at all possible. Hope you find a safe bed tonight brave why.

Congratulations on the job ladame

Silver your post was honest, informative and likely to help someone reading. Hope you didn't feel 'tricked' into it. (got the impression that you did)

Well I have had pizza and am now going to have a pineapple juice on the rocks before bed and book. Rock and roll here

Night babes

Sunday morning. Coffee and toast in bed after a good nights sleep. Wish dh would go away for the weekend more often. Could get used to this.....

Morning babes

why sorry meant to post again before end of evening. I'm hoping that something turns up for you soon. Any help from your aa group?
Can you camp anywhere? Please keep going and stay sober and strong.

The sally army is a good idea.It has got to get better for you soon.

Hello why
I hope you got through last night ok, have you tried shelter ? They have a helpline you can call, is your local council not an option for emergency acomadation sorry if its not I don't know your situation.
Stay strong

Thanks Scary. It's been bad, really bad. Am slipping ever further behind where I want to be. Failure follows failure and only just keeping my head above water where 'life' is concerned. Drinking more than ever with only a few AF days. Managed to get to the gym on Monday but then bad news sent me spiralling and I was a 'no-show' on my planned Wednesday and Friday visits. Do I really have to have something awful happen to stop this stupidity. Sorry, self-indulgent, me, me, me post. Off to wash the dishes - hopefully. x