Dating Thread 63- disappearers, wedding bells and dodgy eye candy, all are welcome

[hostesswithleastest]

Oops that title may have put off newcomers :D

Anyway.... the old thread is dead long live the new!

I'm not at all offended. Don't worry but I think I read on here that people should stop winging about their dating lives. I thought that winging about the dating scene was one of the joys of this thread! It is a jungle I tell you!

superstar There's a history to all this which I wasn't aware of.

In general terms, anyone (and I know because I've been the beneficiary) who bemoans their lack of success (and I've had plenty), is treated with kindness. I have received so much goodwill from various posters (notably including Bant but by far from limited to him) as well as practical advice. I do have accept, however, that if someone says "you might do better if you try x" that is generally also someone being helpful - or at least trying. I can (and do) ignore advice I don't care for without trying to get in a big row about it or crying personal attack where there isn't any.

The only reason this generated so much noise is that one of the most supportive and helpful members has been handed an unjustified (in my and a few others humble opinion) ban - unless "thinly veiled" got redefined as "barely visible to anyone" and "attack" became "gently humorous generalised observation" when I wasn't looking.

I meant I've had plenty of lack of success of course

DFU could you PM me please? Can't PM from my phone!

Another lurker standing up to be counted! Embarrassingly lurked for probably over 50 threads so have the full backstory. Due to the fact I never get online much before 10pm, I've never found it easy to become a regular poster so I've ended up feeling a bit of a stalker as I've read so many of your stories .

I'd like to thank Snape and an previous poster Time for some great advice they gave me last year with regard to a dating issue. Having took their advice, I went on to meet a lovely man in RL and have my very own success story as we are planning our move in together next month. I had five years out there as a LP struggling with OD and the like so I fully empathise with so many here and often thought it would be like that forever!

Anyway my story aside, I too stand up in support of Bant, and see MNHQ as having made a serious error of judgement both in his case and that of Ike. Wish I'd had time to post now as I would happily join you on FB!

Another one who feels the need to say that the decision to ban Bant (and Ike before him) was very clearly the incorrect one. I can appreciate the challenges involved in moderating such a large community, and also that this thread in particular is by its nature personal, and emotional at times. I'm sure MNHQ are trying to impose rules in a way that is fair, but on this occasion they have got it wrong. They have banned a poster who has been nothing but supportive and helpful to all members genuinely asking advice.

I do believe that, given time to review their decision, we will see it reversed.

OWW you have a PM

Another de-lurker. I am speechless. I have followed this thread since the beginning - it has humoured, informed and supported. And much more besides. I am genuinely at a loss trying to understand how this has happened. (Chin up, Bant!) MN please look at what is being said.

Snape, I wanted to de-lurk before at notebook time; 49, I wanted to jump in to congratulate you; Ike, you were hugely missed. Sorry it has taken something so negative to get me posting......

Business as usual, please!!!!

Another one in the being back Bant camp! MNHQ please take note of the huge outcry in favour of Bant!

Stupid phone, bring back Bant!

adding my support for Bant and Ike.

MNHQ you have it desperately, utterly, totally WRONG. Wrong wrong wrong. You've been properly fleeced and it's a crying shame.

Doh!

How about:

Well fuck, how the hell did this happen?? (really, I leave you all alone for one evening..) Seriously, this is pretty crap and I will stand up and be counted as well to say this is just wrong.

I'm afraid I never found Bant helpful or supportive to me. Quite the opposite in fact, both on this thread and from what I've been told in comments he made in pms to others.

I don't care if I'm a lone voice in the wilderness. I'd be a coward if I didn't speak up, and that's one thing I'm not. I did think long and hard about posting because I have stayed away from this thread after previous incidents. And after reading some of the unpleasant comments that have been directed at Watch (who is a friend of mine, and used to be a friend of some of you on this thread too, although I expect that has been conveniently forgotten in the rewriting of the past). However, I've realised I don't really care what's said about me, so feel free to snipe away. Or to ignore me, which I think was the previous PA response which led me to stop posting in the first place.

Another long time lurker and occasional poster de-lurking in support of Bant (and Ike).
I also read the posts from last night and am dumbfounded that they led to Bant being banned!
I have Snape on fb and would be happy to stay in touch with any others from here if you'd like to pm me.

No-one is going to snipe at you Velvet and this is me not ignoring you. Clearly there are differing views, with the vast majority supporting Bant.

You have your own viewpoint and we are all free to choose our own friends, I've chosen mine - pretty wisely, I think.

Velvet 100% fair play for speaking up no sniping from em either even if I don't agree with you.

Just popping in before work.

To me this is a case of 'she who shouts the loudest gets heard'. Not what I expected.

Crikey the whole thread has been called before by a certain poster for not supporting her to defend the indefensible. Even saying nowt was seen as an attack.

Hope to get sorted on FB later. See you there.

I really do hope mnhq see sense, I was thinking about this last night you get comments in day to day Rl and you move on you don't run off to the police if you get called a stupid cow who can't park lol.
I was picked on , after being dumped but moved on.

On the whole we are a supportive group, I was worried about joining as I'd heard things , but found this thread and have had greAt advice.

Considering the date I really hope we can move on, and become the community we were.

Kitty

True dat 49. Engage and you're offensive, don't engage and someone takes offense.

Anyone not in the FB group who wants to join, please PM - Kitty, 49, Moan, Joy, Yoga, Penguin, Diva, anyone else who I've forgotten (sorry).

And Stranger of course but did you say you don't FB?