The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Travelling Far And Wide, With Sobriety In Mind.

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Welcome to the Bus one and all! I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes :)

We have a new line that we're taking with us on every journey, thanks to one of our wonderful Babes, Curry -

Alcohol Fosters Inertia.

So when you're drinking excessively, nothing changes, or improves, the sharp edges of our lives just becomes that little bit less in focus, blurred and all you feel is numb. Then like shit (emotionally, as well as physically) if you're honest! Who wants that?

You are only ever better/pacified/happy whilst the alcohol is in your system. And that doesn't last........... it's not a cure, it's a quick fix. A sticking plaster.

So, if you think you're drinking too much, and want some friendly advice, or just to come and have a chat, get to know others who are just like you, who won't judge or criticise you, then hop on board! :)

We're a really mixed bunch and all at different stages of our journey to find sobriety or certainly drinking in a more controlled, less dangerous way.

And, if you'd like to see where we've been so far, have a look at the links below :)

LAST THREAD

THE STARTING POINT AND WHY WE'RE ALL HERE

Great post Baby I'm so chuffed to see you haven't let the weekend drag you down!

Thanks jessie or should i say green???? If this was Scooby Doo I'd be pulling off your disguise, is that you babe? Xxxx

Ha ha and I would have gotten away with it if it wasn't for you meddling kids!

why how did today go? We all follow your posts avidly and send you strength and compassion through cyber space. This will all be ok very soon xxxx

Lol! I hadn't worked that out [not overly bright] i kept thinking which colour? and had range run through my mind.

Poor nemo , well done for coping it must be very hard. I hope you get the results you want from the tests, whatever they may be.

Rural I will not be drinking today either and that's all that any of us can possibly say. Well done for what you have achieved and for being willing to keep trying.

I'm having a fab day with my ds. He's been bit beastly recently and I keep telling people about all the naughty things he does, I need to stop doing that really though it's bloody tempting. So today he has been wonderful. He's told me that he's a beautiful boy, which is what I always tell him and he is and he has just been funny and caring all day long.

Be brave babes - get some soft drinks and cake in for tonight and commit to staying off the sauce for one more day.

You sound very positive babyj well done.

I feel most peculiar. Not sure if I'm coming down with something, hungover or just had too much coffee. Unfortunately, I want to make whatever-it-is go away with alcohol.

But I won't, I know that won't help. List anxieties, deal with them instead of hiding, keep occupied, take some more Kalms. Walk the dog. Breathe.

alias that's ma girl, take Kalms and carry on!! green is it not pesky kids??? Either I'm too old and right or your too young to remember, yikes xxx

Pathetic. I am pathetic. I couldn't even manage two days.

'Lo there joey and baby x

cider well if you are pathetic, then so are the rest of the entire bus! We are here because we all have a problem with the demon drink and no judgy pants allowed.

Give it time and just keep trying, promise it will happen if you keep posting and keep trying.

I spent all of last year trying to stay off the sauce and sometimes I managed a whole day, but not often. Then I would reward myself with....
wine. Stay strong babe.

cider stop with the self loathing it won't help. You are not pathetic. You managed 1 day, build on that. Next time day one will be a little bit easier because you know you can do it and you can push on for day 2. Damage limitation today, don't feel you have thrown in the towel today so might as well drink the bottle. You can still snatch victory from the WW if you don't have another drink and do something else instead.

Telling ourselves we are useless and worthless just gives us permission to keep poisoning/ punishing ourselves. You are worth more, be kind to yourself.

guggs i think our boys and nemo for that matter are the same age. My DS is infuriating and adorable at the moment all in one, glad you've had such a lovely day.

baby i think you are right. I should know as we have the box set of the 1970s series here which is on often enough. Sadly I am old enough to remember watching it originally!

Good plan joey the walk will help I'm sure x

Thanks Jessie I have stopped now and I will try again tomorrow.

Sorry, thanks guggs as well.

cider all we can do is be brave and keep trying. The more you try, the more AF days you get under your belt the easier it gets x

jessie thanks! I need to keep trying. Got no option left.

alias your post was ace! Totally identified with it.

This thread is the best thing that's happened to me for ages.

First well done to Nemo so brave.

cider do not beat yourself up. I have tried so many times and it's just now I finally feel I am getting it.

I really do not feel motivated at the moment, in fact the only place I feel motivated is work! However I am not going to drink on it. I actually don't even want to.

Keep at it. I have done so many dreadful things I can hardly believe it so please do not feel bad.

Hey Bill :) Thank you x

You sound as though you you've been AF for a long time, I'm sorry if you've posted exactly how long before and I've missed it......

I love your attitude, kick ass :) Kick Ass Babe!

Cider - It's not easy, it takes a few attempts for some, not for others, but in your posts it seems like you want to stop and that is what you have to focus on lovely.

I'm away to bed now... it's been a looooooooooooooong, draining and emotional, day but my boy is fast now soundly asleep, he told me that I am his hero tonight because I made his hands 'stop hurting' and that I 'made his ear not be an ouchy anymore' after that.

One day, I'll tell him all about Calpol!

Goodnight all, I have a feeling that we'll need a new thread tomorrow. You norty lot aren't having it until you promise not to post all over it without finishing this one first!!

Love to all, stay safe, stay strong, and stay on the Bus xxx

Incider you're not pathetic. I reckon the first few days are the worst. I tried and failed many millions of times. That's not an exaggeration either. I've been trying to give up and/or cut down for about 10 years.

I love hearing success stories baby. 7 or 8 weeks seems incredible.

Thanks everyone else. Apologies for not mentioning everyone. I'm blaming the names. Really, with names like mouse, soc, beaches, sausages, incider, baby how can we possibly get it right.

I went to another AA meeting last night. It was fabulous. Think I've found my group. They were hilarious (lots of dead pan, dry humour which helps), supportive and just fab.

Today is day 16. Considering everything, it's nothing short of a miracle.
Good luck Babes. All of you. xx

Well done Soc. I had many a false start too. I'm aiming for 7 weeks (to take me up to half term) and have just finished 3 weeks and lost 3lbs so it's all going according to plan at the moment

It really does get easier. All I can say to anyone struggling is never, ever stop trying. Each time you try you learn a little more. Each time you slip up you reinforce your reasons for not wanting to drink like that. Each little success is a major triumph.

Don't ever give up, don't ever give in.

hello babes
lurker here
just wanted to check in to see if anyone watched "being paul gascoigne" - now on itv catch up site
completely heartbreaking.
hold tight babes, hard hugs to everyone x

mouse 4 months dry next week.

soc great re finding the right group! Fabulous, as it's really important to be on the same wavelength.

Sleep well all.

Oh good fairenuff I'm hot on your heels. .

Day 15 sober.

Saw my baby again today. He is so beautiful. Court amended the protection order so I could speak to my husband. He was happy that I was getting help and doing well. We agreed to sort it all out.

Delighted to pee in a cup today (in front of a supervisor ) and to start proving my sobriety to the court. Even though it doesn't mean anything, I somehow feel I've started back towards my son. I just have to do the next right thing.

So I went to an AA meeting.
And I will go to one again tomorrow.

Thanks for all the support here. Maybe soon enough I'll be together enough to start contributing rather than just being a drain on the bus.

why AWESOME!! You're doing so well.
Don't worry about being a drain on the bus. Ever. Really doesn't matter. I have heaps of me me me posts.

You're a huge inspiration. Your situation is so very difficult and you're being so brave. I have it easy compared to you.

As long as you're getting better, getting support and getting your family back, nothing else really matters.
xxxx

why. That is brilliant. Just one little day at a time. X