The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Travelling Far And Wide, With Sobriety In Mind.

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Welcome to the Bus one and all! I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes :)

We have a new line that we're taking with us on every journey, thanks to one of our wonderful Babes, Curry -

Alcohol Fosters Inertia.

So when you're drinking excessively, nothing changes, or improves, the sharp edges of our lives just becomes that little bit less in focus, blurred and all you feel is numb. Then like shit (emotionally, as well as physically) if you're honest! Who wants that?

You are only ever better/pacified/happy whilst the alcohol is in your system. And that doesn't last........... it's not a cure, it's a quick fix. A sticking plaster.

So, if you think you're drinking too much, and want some friendly advice, or just to come and have a chat, get to know others who are just like you, who won't judge or criticise you, then hop on board! :)

We're a really mixed bunch and all at different stages of our journey to find sobriety or certainly drinking in a more controlled, less dangerous way.

And, if you'd like to see where we've been so far, have a look at the links below :)

LAST THREAD

THE STARTING POINT AND WHY WE'RE ALL HERE

Treats. I buy Schloer (is that how you spell it?) and Elderflower and lovely Fever Tree tonic water. I save them for 'special'. And I've still got that alcohol free fizz in my garage. If I want a drink, and ordinary drinks don't cut it, that is what I turn to and it does seem to do the job for me.

I still get to take that chilled glass bottle out of the fridge, fill a glass with ice, slice a lemon or lime, add the soda or tonic water or lime cordial, or whatever. I just don't add the alcohol. And I put it off by making sure I've had something to eat and filled all those other needs first. So when I finally sit down with my feet up to enjoy my drink, I really feel like it's a treat. Try it

Rural lovely to hear from you, hope you're ok? I was just thinking about you a couple of days ago when Isinde and Ma were arguing over who killed that damn rabbit and I thought of 'foxy' Rural. How weird is that? Anyway, welcome back, stick with us x

Rural thanks, sounds like you're feeling a lot like I am at the moment. This is the first time it has been so bad, although it's been bad before, so I hope I can make a change now before it gets worse.

Incidermind I know you, and I, can be the people we used to be.

Can't help wondering why alcohol is such a big part of socialising?

Welcome Unhappy and Cidermind, you have come to the right place. There are so many people here reading and posting who know exactly what you are talking about. You are on day 1 of the rest of your life. That's all it takes, just one day.

rural so glad you came back.
Are you ok. what's happening with DP? i think of you often
Be back later babes - still feeling like shite

unhappy incider
You poor things. I am new to this bus too, although a long time lurker. Been going to AA and not had a drink for a few months.
My binges were getting worse and worse. I too made myself ill and I knew I just could not continue.
It was a real surrender moment.

I was hiding booze everywhere, even in the garden. It was that bad.

Keep strong x

Hi ma nice to hear from you, hope you are coping ok. DP well still sort of together. He is still nsdp and we get further and further apart.
Have actually decided to try and be nicer to him although he isn't nice to me. I just can't see me walking away because DS loves him so much and there is no way I would leave DS.
incider I drink every day too and hide bottles everywhere. Of late I start earlier and earlier and drink more and more. Not today though. unhappy I really want to be the person I used to be too. Lets all stick together and do this ODAAT.

fairenuff thanks, I already feel slightly more positive for 'talking' about it. I never wanted to end up here, always the party person but I realise it's hiding a general unhappiness in myself.

myfriendbil I take it AA works for you? I don't know if it would be right for me. A lot of support seems to be geared towards every day rather than binge drinkers. I could be wrong...

Oh wow, thanks for the welcome everyone! Sorry fir my first post, i kinda just blurted wverything out! I really really want to try to get through just tomorrow without a drink. Or at least wait until after 6pm on my first day?

So many inspiring stories on here.

rural I hate constantly thinking about it all say, I'm either not drunk enough and thinking about how to sneak in the next drink or thinking about how I'm too too drunk and how to conceal it.

The day seems so long without a drink?

Welcome cider
rural are you getting some safe time away from dp for yourself?
Do you have a back up plan and stuff packed somewhere in case you and Ds need to bail out?

welcome unhappy and well done for being brave and making the first post. You will get loads of advice and support on here.

Fighting the Wine Witch is like having an itch. You soooo want to scratch it, and know that will just end up making things worse, but the temptation is so great, and you know the first scratch will feel so good - but then you won't be able to stop...

Which reminds me, how are you doing ma ?

I need to be strong tonight! DH has got a bottle of red wine, opened Saturday and barely touched. He'll only have 1 glass himself. I hate to waste good alcohol.

BUT I'm alcohol-free now till Friday. And I can't drink red wine anyway.

BUT it's there and he's drinking it and the rest will end up being thrown away. If I could I'd pour it down the sink now, but DH said it was an expensive bottle.

BUT if I had one glass, I'd end up drinking the lot. And I must get a decent nights sleep.

Am staying strong with a bar of salted caramel chocolate and a copy of The Fortean Times

Hi everyone,
I've kept a low profile ove the last few weeks, because.....It's just been so hard.
I have reverted to my earlier habits, and have been drinking more than is good for me!, on a Friday, Saturday, and Tuesday (Wed my day off!). Had a bit a of a paradigm last weekend, and thought no, I can't do this, I am in a bit of a state with the new job, and wine seemed to be the answer!
It really isn't! Although I persuaded myself, it was. So... tonight I've hung the washing out ( a sunny day tomorrow). Hopefully, going to bed with a book, and not the big glass of wine.
Love to all
xxxxx

evening babes just wanted to check in, tell you how much I love the bus and thank people for the fine squidding. Just what was needed.

mouse you are much loved x
baby It happens,don't worry, People slip up in recovery, sometimes its a valuable learning experience. Also 7 weeks is AWESOME, get back on that bus babe.
rural good,good,good to see you. If you are at rock bottom then you are in a good place to start getting sober.
ma had any nice massage recently?
ladame it must be odd without dd. Lots of people at work today had sent dc off to uni- they were blubbing a bit too. She'll be a credit to you I'm sure.

Lots of best wishes and love to all. I've had a difficult few days. I've had to see a lovely family member who is clearly in the last stages of his life due to alcohol. He's still drinking and I suppose that he might just as well,nothing will change the outcome now.

Another thing I noticed - my family are nearly all alcoholics and it has ruined their ability to socialise without outside of the family or cicrle of friends. What can you talk about when you life just revolves around booze and boozy people? You don't go to the cinema or theatre or play sport or anything else because it will interfere with your drinking.
Not nice and i'm still for them.

thurso good, stay strong. If you have a kindle then you can download loads of recovery books and read obsessively and get support that way too.

Thank you gugg so much!
I hadn't realised for the last few weeks, how much I needed you all!
Just trying to do it on my own!
Thank you :)
T xx

Hey thurso good to hear from you.
Hang in there. I had been doing better but am in total fail mode at the moment.
Not feeling great.
Could use a massage right now....

aww..you're not failing.Booze is bloody hard to resist especially after a long day at work / dc.

Hi Ma Me too!
I could do with a lovely massage and a nice night's sleep!
Will do with a big cup of tea, and hope that Dh doen't feel the need when he comes in!!:)
xxx

Isinde X posted!
Night, night, my sweetheart.
xxx

indie go to bed you daft scouse tart.

isinde lol! think you're one of the 'pillars of the community' on here!
Have some water and an early night.

Some old boy at my meeting said that it's a miracle for an alcoholic to be sober, the default status for an alkie is to drink. And when he said it i relaxed because I bloody well want to drink every single fucking day. BUT is really,really,really isn't worth the crap it does to you and I know I have to stay away from it full stop, I can't control at all.

Have a good nights sleep x

If it wasn't for booze, we wouldn't all be chatting. It's brought us together so maybe we are how we are for a reason.

< deep >

Now I'm off to look up 'paradigm' because this bus is educational too