The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Travelling Far And Wide, With Sobriety In Mind.

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Welcome to the Bus one and all! I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes :)

We have a new line that we're taking with us on every journey, thanks to one of our wonderful Babes, Curry -

Alcohol Fosters Inertia.

So when you're drinking excessively, nothing changes, or improves, the sharp edges of our lives just becomes that little bit less in focus, blurred and all you feel is numb. Then like shit (emotionally, as well as physically) if you're honest! Who wants that?

You are only ever better/pacified/happy whilst the alcohol is in your system. And that doesn't last........... it's not a cure, it's a quick fix. A sticking plaster.

So, if you think you're drinking too much, and want some friendly advice, or just to come and have a chat, get to know others who are just like you, who won't judge or criticise you, then hop on board! :)

We're a really mixed bunch and all at different stages of our journey to find sobriety or certainly drinking in a more controlled, less dangerous way.

And, if you'd like to see where we've been so far, have a look at the links below :)

LAST THREAD

THE STARTING POINT AND WHY WE'RE ALL HERE

Well Done Tango

Socfish you sound really focused and well on the way to a new existence. Very good luck for your first meeting tonight.

I am tired now and beginning to feel low, have got through 4 days (which is great) but Friday looms...

Anyway, taking my book to bed now, take care all babes x

beach, Fridays are hell. Come to AA with me....just hop on a plane.
But tomorrow is Saturday and waking up with a clear head and no guilt feels amazing.

Major wobbles Down Under. I think Friday afternoons should just be cancelled.
I will not drink.
I will go to AA at 8pm.
:-(

Lol! Poor you Isinde! What a lovely way to start your day!

Mouse Sorry about Nemo's feed problems last night, I know he hates having the tube replaced. Hope you got some well earned sleep?

Faire Your story about your DS made me smile . It's awful to say but I'm relieved it didn't happen to DS2 or DD - they are both hypochondriac drama queens!

I'm keeping DS off school today as he slept badly with the heavy backslab on. It's a full arm one. A bit surprised that he's going to have to have that on for about 3 or 4 days before anyone phones us with an appointment for the lighter cast. In the past, we've always got an appt to the fracture clinic in a couple of days or even the next day. Sigh.

A bit nervous here. Oldest son (31) is coming to visit tomorrow with his new fiancé. It's a long (and sad (some of you may remember bits of it)) story but I haven't seen him for about 12 years (we have been in touch, though). He hasn't met the three children I have now. They are excited to meet him but, in the past, he's dropped me in the caccy poo every time we've got together (usually something to do with money or mistreating girlfriends) and I'm a bit anxious about the whole thing. I'm was even a bit unsure of letting him have my full address as 4 years ago his fine for being on a train without a ticket arrived at my door (he had never lived at that address). I was in the middle of (trying to) split up with XP and move out and it really added to the stress. He didn't pay the fine (although I'd given him all the info to do so), so the court summons arrived at my door, followed by the bailiffs to collect the monies as he didn't even show up at court!! He was diagnosed with BiPolar (well, he's told me he has . He's often economical with the truth) in the past two years but won't tell me if he's on meds to help him. It's going to be very odd. It's making me feel guilty all over again.

3 AF days last week - not brilliant but better. Hoping to build on that.

I haven't been around on the Bus for a while. I need to read up and get to know the new passengers. So, for now, 'Hi' to everyone and hope Friday is a great day for you all.

Soc you are doing the right thing, I remember my first na being terrifying but it's worth it, sending you positive thoughts to wherever in the world you are! X

Drags sorry self onto bus (no, not because of ww, but my girl goes back today). Very very tearful this time, more so than her first year. Nearly lost it last night when she wanted me to stay up 'as late as possible' with her. Today I've got to go round the house finding all the last little bits, I really really hope I get them all, because if I come across something a couple of days later, it devastates me all over again. Sorry for the me me post. Just Tango well done.

Hey Soc good luck for tonight. Is it already tonight where you are?

it's 5pm here in Australia. Worst time of the day and being a Friday it's a double whammy.
But I'm doing ok. Just really nervous about going to AA but it's a good idea.........isn't it???

ok. I'm going to go. It's now in writing and I'm committed. I'm taking it on the chin for the bus babes....

oh dear god. This is exactly the kind of situation I need at least half a bottle of wine for.

I shall report back in about 4 hours.

Best of luck Soc. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Well done. x

Well done Soc looking forward to the update.

Hey Purple Nice to see you :)

Well it's dry and bright today here babes - if you can, get out and get some exercise. I felt like death this morning, wanted to crawl in a hole and hide - been so down this week. I had no energy and dragged myself to my training full of gloom.

Well now I feel brilliant! Exercise is the best antidepressant ever!

Good luck today babes - I am now burying my head in my accounts and cannot surface till I'm done or I will end up in serious shit. If you see me on here, send me away again!

@ Greeny Stop peeking and get back to work woman!! xx

ha ha ha - Thanks Purple I'm going to do it now honestly!

Just popping on to say hi to everyone. Been really busy doing domestic goddess stuff but trying to keep up. The power of this this thread blows me away, our absolute loyalty and depth of friendship shown to each other is so powerful, it has made me cry these last few days (it's that time ) I have lots to say but have lots to do in RL today, will catch up tonight. Happy to be sober and happy and embracing the weekend rather than dreading it, TUMS IN BOOBS OUT and spanx on inside laters babes xxx

Is over my woey me moment. Still annoyed with h but it's totally what I expect. Isinde if he was a more reflective sort of person o could try your approach but he has no incentive to change. I pay the bills, sort out the dcs, do most the housework and diy. He's bone idle and happy thay way. His way of resolving a row is to throw a bottle of wine at it!

Anyway im pleased I did have just the glass of wine although I don't really want to be drinking because im pissed off or as a stress relief. went to the gym this morning which hugely helps to improve my mood :)

Good luck with your son purple, I think I've read your history. If you haven't already given him your address could you arrange to meet on neutral territory first. I don't think there is anything wrong with putting your wellbeing and your other children first. Trust has to be earned. My own h has run up debt, and I know how incredibly stressful it is getting calls, letters, debt collector's knocking at the door for debts that you haven't run up x

Crawling from under my rock at a all time low been referred to a psychiatrist been put on chlordiazepoxide for my anxiety and generally feel like shite so suppose this is my rock bottom and it feels like a mighty climb up

Big big hug for mouse and some cheese and some . hope some of those appointments make a difference & improve pain levels. Best wishes, lovely.

isinde re poo- I can honestly say that potty training has been the biggest threat to my sobriety

soc DO IT,DO IT,DO IT... the worst that can possibly happen is that someone bores you a bit and then you go home sober. All will be well I promise. Wish I could drag you along with me, but Anglia is a wee bit far from Oz.

annie aww..it was pretty thoughtless of him. not nasty just thoughtless. Perhaps you could 'forget' to do a few things for him this week? [I know that isn't REALLY the right thing to do]

purple Yes I remember what you said about your ds. I hope that he has grown up properly, that's the most likely reason he wants to see you. I would take it very slowly though if I were you and take some time to get used to each other again. Hope it all goes ok.

'Lo there greeny and baby and flumps and latrollop

this GOOD! I'm pleased to see that you're getting some help. upwards and onwards my lovely.

Day 5 and seem to have lost my bounce, maybe because it's Friday or maybe because I am feeling run down. I feel a bit cheated though because I could do with the extra energy to carry me through the Friday 'whispers', (it IS the weekend, you have done SO well, a couple of glasses aren't going to hurt, etc) SIGH

I think I am going to have to get myself a pair of big girl pants and pull them right up to my armpits (They will also come in handy after all the toast/biscuits/crackers)

This didn't want to say nothing to your post, sending a warm and encouraging squeeze. Hang in there, sounds like you have lined up some help, be gentle on yourself. X

I can't name check because if I try I will leave people out but my sincerest Happy Friday to all Brave Babes and thanks for being there x

Court unable to hear our case until next Wednesday. "No time" by Social Services for me to see my boy today. Wont get to speak to my husband until next Wednesday. And the court ordered alcohol treatment place hasn't returned my calls in days.

So, I'll just do all the work myself. I'm starting to feel like the system just doesn't care. So be it. SS had no time for me to see my son as they left early on a Friday to start their weekends. I feel very low.

So I'm going to another AA meeting tonight. And I'll look at the pictures my husband is posting of our boy on facebook for me to see. A bit weepy now, but not defeated.

why- that's really appalling, I'm so sorry.
I'll just do all the work myself - well you already are,and working hard at it too. Best wishes.

beaches give it another day or so and just hang in there. By day 5 you are through the worst of it but if you drink you'll have to go through days 1,2 and 3 all over again Take it one day at a time.

Hi all
I have followed this thread for a long time. I am a long time regular who has namechanged.
Been sober just over 100 days. Will share my story later. X