The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Travelling Far And Wide, With Sobriety In Mind.

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Welcome to the Bus one and all! I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes :)

We have a new line that we're taking with us on every journey, thanks to one of our wonderful Babes, Curry -

Alcohol Fosters Inertia.

So when you're drinking excessively, nothing changes, or improves, the sharp edges of our lives just becomes that little bit less in focus, blurred and all you feel is numb. Then like shit (emotionally, as well as physically) if you're honest! Who wants that?

You are only ever better/pacified/happy whilst the alcohol is in your system. And that doesn't last........... it's not a cure, it's a quick fix. A sticking plaster.

So, if you think you're drinking too much, and want some friendly advice, or just to come and have a chat, get to know others who are just like you, who won't judge or criticise you, then hop on board! :)

We're a really mixed bunch and all at different stages of our journey to find sobriety or certainly drinking in a more controlled, less dangerous way.

And, if you'd like to see where we've been so far, have a look at the links below :)

LAST THREAD

THE STARTING POINT AND WHY WE'RE ALL HERE

Day 4 here. Somehow it helps to post that.

Ps hi purps

crabby thank you so much for your support, and thank you to all the other babes. It means such a lot, even being threatened with Barry!
I do live in Scotland, but am not Scottish - maybe that's the confusion.
And it was indie who ran over the rabbit, not me!

Oooops, sorry everyone, you can all come out from under the seats.

Hmm, I think we will have to refer to Venus for the real story about the rabbit...

Fact 1 rabbit was alive when we left the hotel
Fact 2 indie was ahead of us because Venus was busy driving into a fence!
Fact 3 rabbit was dead by the time Venus and I drove out.

What conclusion would you draw hmmmmmmm?

Yay to OMG and Isinde Thank you lovely ladies. xxxx

And Pink xx

And, of course, magnificent Mouse. xxxxx

and me purps, and me.....

Thanks so much for the advice Faire. I will practice "sparkling mineral water" rather than "large glass of merlot".

I'm horrified that people who ask for help with controlling their alcohol intake automatically get referred to the social services. How many women will be put off seeking help because of this?

You're welcome Duck, let us know how you get on.

Purps your ds sounds like a brave lad. My ds once broke his arm falling off a climbing frame and he walked home from the park and said it 'hurt a bit' but was probably ok. I looked at his arm and it was actually bent!

He just wanted to be able to go ahead with the planned sleepover at his friends house. Night in hospital instead.

Evening!
I've come in from NA with an idea I might try to counteract the stress of triggers.
Now. No laughing at me.
Meditation and mindfulness.
Thoughts???

You're welcome Ma, I've seen what you can do when you put your mind to it. Maybe you should change your name back to DeterminedMa!

Sorry for the jargon Faire, WOE is way of eating. I think it's supposed to differentiate low carbing from a fad diet. I think week of eggs is very appropriate though, considering the amount of them that many low carbers eat!

LaDame just one last thing to consider... some low carb diets are deliberately high in protien, but others don't advocate that. I know BIWI says that the amount of protein in your diet should remain the same, it's the fat that should drastically increase and the carbs drastically decrease. So instead of the ration being carbs - protein - fat, it should be fat - protein - carbs.

Anne when I have a proper hangover (as opposed to just feeling a bit dull the day after drinking half to three quarters of a bottle of wine), I am utterly powerless to resist the carbs. I have no willpower at all and just desperately want fatty carby stuff - fried bread with a fryup, cakes, crisps, puddings etc. I've never been much of a one for breakfast but could happily (and often did) eat leftover pudding from the night before, or chocolate/biscuits/cake. I think a lot of that was my constant low-level hangovers that felt normal to me, making me crave sugar to give me a lift.

'LO there lovely babes,

tango - hang on, the tearfulness might not be a bad thing. I can't remember how many days / weeks af you are but you might just need to let go and have a good cry. stay strong babe

Anyone else a bit tearful reading whys post? It's not a little thing you've done it's great big AWESOME thing, experiencing seeing your baby and meeting dh in real life not propped up with alcohol. Please keep going to the meetings and posting.

I believe you ma,I always got the impression that Isinde was capable of bunny murder, just from reading her posts...
psst....do you still need 'attention' from barry or are you feeling better ma?

mia hello lovely. I really liked your post earlier, glad you're doing well.

joey hope you can get your meds sorted- that sounds terrible,how can they just decide to not give you something you rely on? ffs!

Right going to bed now. I'll wave goodnight at purple and flumps and omg and everyone. night.

Crabby thatakes sense to me. I crave salty things and sugar when hungover, typical meal bag of crips and bar of chocolate. Once my birthday is out of the way I think it'll look into low carbing again, I've never dared up my fat intake before.

Well I'm having what I thonk mouse calls a fuck it moment! Sat here with a glass of wine, dm bought it for me. Excuse is h has seriously pissed me off. Firstly by having not enough money for our planned night out for my birthday (was expecting it so not that biga deal). Secondly, or final straw, I'd aaked him to download some songs to my phone. He said he had, expected me to be all grateful, when I looked it wasn't what id picked , it was songs he had on his phone that I'd told him I didnot like. Ok that sounds pathetic but I just feel like he could not be bothered to do it for me, so just downloaded the music he thinks I should like. Whoch he has form for - only making an effort for himself.

Morning All.

Day 10 here which seems miraculous. I've tried 1000's of times to give up or cut down and never generally make it past day 3 or 4. Not sure why this is different. I was thinking about it and maybe, other than being more determined, when I picture my future without wine it actually looks quite nice. Whereas in previous attempts I'd always panic at the thought.

I'm aware that it's still a long way, but I'm going to do this.

So Long WW. Our relationship is over.

Good luck everyone. Sorry I don't remember all the names.

Might post later looking for courage to go to my first AA meeting tonight.
xx

You all got me through tonight with my black coffee ;) I'm here now hiding under my duvet I don't have to face the world.
I would of drank tonight 100% if I'd not of had your support.
I'm scared already for tomorrow I feel like I'm getting weaker some how.

One day I might be able to offer advice back x

Anyway I won't have more than 200 mls, I'm measuring it out, although I'm annoyed h has helped himself to what is my birthday present. I'll add in my defence, tthat I'm getting no present, card, that I'll have to deal with the dds upset as their dad hasn't helped them get their mum a present. There at that age where they enjoy the whole present giving thing.

Well done Tango. xx

WOE = Way Of Eating. :)

Flumps - Thoughts? If you think it can help YOU then go for it girl! Why not? You've nothing left to lose... you've been to hell and back, hit rock bottom, bounced off said rocks, and come away battered and bruised.

I'm all for trying anything that will help with my pain - I'm a bit disabled you see, my profile tells you more, but I'm about to go into the unknown with acupuncture, and intensive physio and a new hydrotherapy back class that is rather full on by all accounts.... but if it helps me to get through the day, if I can reduce my pain just a bit, then I will.

The next 3-6 weeks are full of appts for me or/and Nemo at hospitals here and there! I'm already run down, lost my voice and very tired. Nemo lost his last feed tonight and for those of you who know how this normally ends.... his tube came out too so I had to re-sight a new one, and I'm off to feed him what he lost now.

Lord knows what time sleep will reach me.....

BUT - I'm alive, I have my family, my friends, you guys..... I have support! You're all fab!

So, be strong, be Brave and be YOU! No more hiding, start fighting. Start again, every day if you have to, every minute, whatever it takes!! Start. A. Gain.

We are a united force, this Bus is nails! NAILS I TELL YOU! We can all support each other, day in, day out, night after night, we are always here for each other....

There is always someone on the Bus, to answer you. Please Babes stay true, stay YOU and look after yourselves. I'll be around tomorrow at some point tomorrow :)

Night all xxx