The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Travelling Far And Wide, With Sobriety In Mind.

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Welcome to the Bus one and all! I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes :)

We have a new line that we're taking with us on every journey, thanks to one of our wonderful Babes, Curry -

Alcohol Fosters Inertia.

So when you're drinking excessively, nothing changes, or improves, the sharp edges of our lives just becomes that little bit less in focus, blurred and all you feel is numb. Then like shit (emotionally, as well as physically) if you're honest! Who wants that?

You are only ever better/pacified/happy whilst the alcohol is in your system. And that doesn't last........... it's not a cure, it's a quick fix. A sticking plaster.

So, if you think you're drinking too much, and want some friendly advice, or just to come and have a chat, get to know others who are just like you, who won't judge or criticise you, then hop on board! :)

We're a really mixed bunch and all at different stages of our journey to find sobriety or certainly drinking in a more controlled, less dangerous way.

And, if you'd like to see where we've been so far, have a look at the links below :)

LAST THREAD

THE STARTING POINT AND WHY WE'RE ALL HERE

Thanks guggenheim. The support here from other mothers is fantastic. It's good to have people cheer you on.

Guggen I could just not do a few thingsfor him like pay the bills, the housework but in the end it'd be me and the dds who'd suffer most. He wouldn't care. like a few days ago I asked him to clean the cat litter as o was on my way to work amd already had uniform on. I came home nine hours later and he hadn't. The house stunk and he'd been working from home but still wouldn't lift a finger. Last night was just one off those final straw moments.....

Welcome bill and well done on 100 days I look forward to hearing how you did it :)

She's gone

Ladame who's gone?

My daughter, back to Uni. The house is so empty. I miss her so much I know it's not a bad thing, but I will miss her so much.

Aww she will be having a ball

Sorry, some of you babes are going through so much, there is a back story. But anyway, am very very sad. But ok, but sad iykwim. My fragile girl.

Don't be so sad, ladame. Here, have some .

OMG thank you sweetheart x and you are going through so much.. you are such a special lady.

As any one been on chlordiazepoxide for anxiety do they give heartburn ?

Ladame and why you are both missing your babies today. My heart goes out to you both. All I can suggest is to keep as busy as possible and tick those days off on the calendar until you can be with them again. Sending you both (((hugs))) across the airwaves x

Hi bill congratulations on 100 days. We should ask HQ to make a nice shiny badge for us to use but, in the meantime, have a (which sort of looks a bit like a badge )

beaches what other lovely drinks have you got in? Perhaps you could make Friday evenings a different kind of treat night.

Get a 'treat' non-alkie drink that you don't normally have and perhaps some chocolate or nice cheeses or get a takeaway. Whatever you fancy really.

If you don't think it would trigger you, you could have some alcohol free beer or wine and only have it on Fridays so that it's special. Or do some beauty treatments. We used to do a facepack Friday.

Or go out to the cinema and have a big coke and popcorn. That will while away a few hours. Try to set up some new routines so that you can still enjoy your evening but it's not focussed around drinking.

Oooh wait,

Now that looks more like 100

Why you have had some huge challenges today and a lack of system support but you have remained strong and together. Bloody well done and hope Wednesday comes soon for you.

Ladame hope your heart ache eases really soon.

Socfish was thinking of you and your first meeting today. I quite fancied jumping on a plane to Oz but suspect (if I did muster up the courage) I may find a meeting slightly closer to home!

Purple wow, seeing your son for the first time in 12 years is a huge thing. Really good luck and hope tomorrow goes well.

guggen and faire Thank you for the support and advice, I really do appreciate it. I am not going to drink tonight, mainly because I feel rubbish, but putting another treat in place is a great idea for a Friday/Saturday. I think a 'virgin mary' with a good kick of tabasco may be a soft drink i could look forward to.

Hi everyone and love to anyone struggling. It's a shite illness, and I truly believe it is an illness.

It's also a progressive illness and a fatal one.

I really put myself and my family through it. Always been a party animal but when dd was born I went from worse to worse. Run ins with the police, paramedics, rehab, SS. You name it, I most likely did it.

From a few glasses a wine a night, to a bottle of wine a night, to hiding drink, to daily drinking, to morning drinking, to binges that lasted days I very nearly killed myself - all for a drink.

This was all whilst keeping a respectable persona, being a wife, being a mum and holding down a professional job.

I tried to do it myself and could not drink for weeks - but I obsessed with drink constantly. Now I go to AA a few times a week and I really think AA works. The good thing is I dont actually think about drink like I used to.

Hearing the stories keeps me sober.

Xx

Isinde you really made me with Wet Odorous Edam and Wankers Order Eclairs!

Hi Guggs How are you doing?

Annie your DH sounds utterly thoughtless and selfish. Does he have any good points? Big Happy Birthday from me anyway.

for Ladame and Why too, for missing their babies.

Evening babes , Crikey this bus is trundling along faster than the one in the movie Speed (where the hell is Keano) as always the camaraderie between you lovely people is sincere and awesome. Quick fire feedback , purple this must a nervous evening for you , the excitement of seeing your first born must be running high but your urge to protect the younger ones equally so, I really hope it all goes well, You really deserve something positive and encouraging to happen in your life, good luck. thisisyou have sought help and that's very brave, I hope the medication brings you some peace? I too suffer from severe anxiety and it a horrible nasty emotion, stay strong, believe in the medication, we believe in you. why you are cool, calm and courageous, you sound clear and level headed and above all calm, your doing great, annie my dh is a selfish git too, don't let the actions of others ruin your determination to succeed, no one is worth that!! ladame my lovely friend, I hear the heavy heart in your posts , you have clearly raised a bright, ambitious lovely girl and releasing her into her future must be tough but believe me I'm 42 and adore my mum and speak every day , she will always be your baby, always xxx beaches your doing great, lots of great advice and just keep thinking "one day at time". Very warm welcome myfriendbill 100 days is bloody brilliant , I've pretty indulged in the same pattern as you, only briefly and latterly having a glass in the morning if the kids weren't home , thank god we are both looking at that part of our lives as the past and not the here and now,I remember how miserable and hopeless I felt and do grateful to this bus and these babes who wrenched me via cyber space to safety.mouse I'm so sorry that your little fish has to suffer any pain at all and you have to watch it, none of us can imagine that scenario, thank god fate gave him your family, and gave you such strength. socfish hope the meeting went well, I love your wee updates to wake up to, look forward to getting to know you better. ma I hope your feeling better, big hug to you .Finally my dear friends inside guggs and faire when mouse rules the world, you will head her parliament because you guys are wise and smart and selfless in your support to our lovely newbies, admiration and genuine affection from me!!!!! I hope I've got everyone , sorry if not, it goes without saying I LOVE YOU ALL xxx

Good Morning!
Day 11 today and I will not drink today.

Went to the AA meeting last night. It was great. I was incredibly nervous, but it was completely nonthreatening. Then afterwards a couple of members came to talk to me, but I had to scurry off as I could feel myself about the crack up. I'm very emotional at the moment which I realise is normal. But when people are NICE to me I tear up and I could feel I was going to dissolve so ran away. So everyone, be really shitty to me so I can stop fucking crying.

But I promised to go back and have the name and number of a lovely lady to call. She has been sober for 7 years so that might be a great help to me. I'm going to try and get to a couple more meetings during the week and then try and go weekly for as long as necessary. I can see how it helps.

So all good Down Under. I now have two sober Fridays under my belt. I can feel today is going to be ok too. I'm planning to go for a run at about 5pm. By run I mean stumble along for 2 metres and then collapse in a bush for 5 minutes. And so on, but it seems to work at that awful witching hour.

Hope you're all well up there.
xxx

Day six! Still here x

Morning all

Lovely post babyjane

This I'm not on any medication so can't help you there but I'm sure there will be other babes along soon. Are you suffering from heartburn at the moment?

I've just noticed that I'm first on the bus this morning. (Not counting middle of the night posts, of course). I don't think that has ever happened before .

I'm up unusually early for a Saturday for no reason on other than I was so tired last night I went to bed early and am totally refreshed and awake this morning.

This is what happens when I don't do that Friday night drinking thing. It's much more lovelier

no being nice to you, lady!
Trying to catch up...big hi to all.
Had planned a lovely lie in this morning but stupid furrybastardcat put paid to that with breakfast demands. Ah well, first load of washing on. Dd2 home from uni after two weeks with laundry basket. She brought the actual friggin basket out to the car, contents included! 14 pairs of knickers so at least the personal hygiene standards are being maintained

bill it's surprising how easily regular drinking can creep up isn't it. MIFLAW used to say, when we defend our drinking we should put a 'yet' on it.

As in 'I'm not a daily drinker. Yet'
'I don't hide bottles. Yet'
'I don't drink in the mornings. Yet'

Because he knew all too well where drinking leads. He saw others do exactly that and, yes, he saw them die. I think many of us join the bus because we see that progression in ourselves, wherever we are on the downward slope, we can see that we are only heading in one direction and we want to stop the descent before it gets out of hand.

And it is never too late. Stick with us bill, you will be such a help and support to other struggling babes. You are an inspiration and I'm sure you've got lots of tactics to help beat the booze?

Good morning babes. Im still reading all your posts. Can't namecheck everyone in case I miss someone out! I've not been posting because I've been away with Pils. So its good to see where everyone is up to and see some new babes have joined.

I had 2 glasses of wine with dinner on Wednesday. It was a complete non event really, just drank it, thought mmm... Tasty, didn't really think beyond that. Then I walked home along the beach in gale force wind and driving rain so didn't get the chance to feel pissed.

I suppose that puts me on day 2 but it really feels more like day 15 (or 16? I've lost count) of not having an alcohol problem.

On the downside, I think DH has developed depression. He's coming out with some terrible statements that I could just cry about but I'm just saying 'you don't sound well, its okay but you need to stop saying that and tell the Dr how you feel, I can't fix this for you'. I think not having the off switch of wine, joking around talking shit has hit him hard. I really sympathise because I know what its like but when I start talking nonsense I get myself to the Drs.

Well, have a great day everyone that has woken up hangover free, and sending extra love to those who havent x x