The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Travelling Far And Wide, With Sobriety In Mind.

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Welcome to the Bus one and all! I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes :)

We have a new line that we're taking with us on every journey, thanks to one of our wonderful Babes, Curry -

Alcohol Fosters Inertia.

So when you're drinking excessively, nothing changes, or improves, the sharp edges of our lives just becomes that little bit less in focus, blurred and all you feel is numb. Then like shit (emotionally, as well as physically) if you're honest! Who wants that?

You are only ever better/pacified/happy whilst the alcohol is in your system. And that doesn't last........... it's not a cure, it's a quick fix. A sticking plaster.

So, if you think you're drinking too much, and want some friendly advice, or just to come and have a chat, get to know others who are just like you, who won't judge or criticise you, then hop on board! :)

We're a really mixed bunch and all at different stages of our journey to find sobriety or certainly drinking in a more controlled, less dangerous way.

And, if you'd like to see where we've been so far, have a look at the links below :)

LAST THREAD

THE STARTING POINT AND WHY WE'RE ALL HERE

Hi Brave Ladies! Working away on Day 9, going to all my AA meetings. Saw my son again yesterday. Growing so much everyday. I took his blanket that was with him in the pram so I could always smell him, at least.

Got good news yesterday as well as I will be able to speak to my husband again from tomorrow onwards. We have a lot to discuss.

But this time I'm not afraid of what I have to do, nor am I being dishonest with myself and I'm not afraid of what he could say. Today is a good day. Today is a sober day.

Hey Tango, hold on for a while. You'll have to catch me up - (I am easily confused by who is who and where they are at) what day are you on? What is making you feel so bad right now? I am here listening if you want to talk/cry/swear

Tango As someone fully qualified to tell you - don't friggin' do it! Find some cleaning, reading, bathing, phoning a friend, writing the reasons why you really shouldn't do it (start a blog!!), weigh yourself, go for a run, go for a swim, clean out your kitchen cupboards, clean the car, read a book - bloody anything. I'm only qualified because I am an example to you all - a bad example - DON'T DO WHAT I DO, do what I say. Huge luck Sweetie xxxxx

Wow Why you sound fantastic! Great news, really happy you are feeling good.

Thanks beaches. I'm not exactly 'fantastic', but nothing is blocking what I have to do today. I'm not hungover, I'm not groggy, I'm not tired. I'm focused on the tasks at hand. Getting my son back and looking forward to enjoying a simple lunch with my husband.

I think I chose the wrong word in fantastic, it was the Today is a good day. Today is a sober day which just sounded so basic and so true.

I hope the seeing your husband goes well and your son is back with you soon. You have really made a huge effort and I am truly glad you feeling better for it

Well done why you are really turning things around :)

Tango have you had something to eat? Last Friday I so would have had wine if there had been any in. I'd got home from work exhausted. Had something to eat and the urge passed pretty much. Had an early night as well, sounds simple but you can't drink when you're asleep x

Well day 50 for me on the bus :) Af days 32 which I know doesn't sound a lot but 50 days ago it would haveonly bbeen four!

Thanks ladies .

Tango I hope it's not too late but if it is, don't worry. The bus will still be here tomorrow. Be kind to yourself and get some rest if you can, you sound so tired, my lovely, ((((hugs)))) for you.

MrsM Lovely to hear from you again but sorry it's under these circumstances. It makes me so angry when services do this, without even the courtesy of speaking to you first and offering support at this anxious time. Surely they realise this could put people off from asking for help?

Anyway, yes I am sure it will just be a formality but the longer you can stay off the booze, the better. You are showing them that, with support, you can do this.

We are all here for you, my lovely, keep posting.

Mia what is WOE. Week Of Eggs?

I'm doing low GI because I just cannot do that whole measuring, restricted diet thing. I am aiming to lose 1lb a week for seven weeks then I will have a break. First two weeks done, no alcohol, healthy eating and I've lost the first 2lb.

I have had a couple of bags of crisps, one snickers bar, a flapjack, some homemade apple crumble and some homemade cookies as my 'a little of what you fancy does you good' but the rest of the time it's small portions, balanced meals. I find that if I am too restrictive I just don't stick to it but, like this, these last two weeks have been a breeze.

Why great news, things are slowly getting there for you, keep at it you are doing so, so well x

Purple I love that 'do as I say, not as I do'. Only a mother could say that

Oh boy, you lot Ma is going to be after you...she does not live in Scotland. You're in trouble, better hide under the seats

I carnt figure exactly what is making me freel so bad
Im on my own with five kids, ones got extra health needs, still got issues with ex some off you may remember me from the relationship board a while back, I don't want to overtake the thread with my stresses

I haven't drank, not yet thankyou for your support
I want to lose my head

Yeay! You came back There is no doubt that you have got a lot of stuff to manage there. How you are here today means that you do somehow mange it though. I don't think you will take over this thread however much you post, when I came on earlier it took me 20 minutes to catch up, it moves so fast. Maybe some music? I often forget how music can change my mood. Can you put it on loud and sing? Not suggesting you scare all your children though! Keep holding on, you are doing ok, really x

Afternoon, tis me, Mouse

Tango - please, don't pick up that bottle or glass.

Find something to do as Purple said, keep your hands and mind busy. Do you have DCs? Sorry, I'm getting used to everyone again after not posting for a few days.....

Could you take them out for a kick about in the garden. Or get some colouring things out? Keep going, keep posting how you feel, even if it's every few moments, just keep talking to us, we're all here at the moment so use us!

What has triggered this off sweetheart? I might have missed that, sorry but you need to keep doing something. Are you Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired?

Do you have any sweets in house? Mints? Go brush your teeth a couple of times.....

We're all with you on this Tango - imagine us there, holding your hand for as long as it takes to ride this wave out.... :) xxx

I certainly scare my children when I sing

Tango you can post all you like, we are here to listen. Have you had anything to eat yet? If not just have something, piece of toast, anything really because it will help. Get a hot chocolate or something sweet and come back for a chat.

This feeling will go away. It seems so strong right now but it will go. What time do the children usually go to sleep?

Me too Faire, I have even been told 'if you HAVE to sing can you go and do it upstairs as it is ruining our (xbox) game'

Thank you I'm very tired tearful
I have five dc's living with me

Welcome back MrsM - I remember you and what happened last time, I agree that this sounds like it is just procedure - talk to Baby, she is wise and truly wonderful xxx

I'm sorry you are so bloody worried again. Some 'services' really do need a bloody good overhaul. I not even going go into what I saw on the news today about a poor little boy

Purple - great to see you posting sweetheart, I have missed you! How are things? I mean really? xxx

Crabby/mia - I love the WOE and second every word you've posted about it

Faire - How are YOU? You always ask how we all are but rarely post about you for any length of time.

Why - Brilliant to have you back and sounding like you're really making progress with getting your head around this not drinking lark. Please keep posting, I promise that no-one ever gets bored of reading about other people and their successes or failures! I love knowing how you're all getting on :) xxx

Beaches - you sound all shiny and new too! I can feel a real sense of positivity in your posts :)

I have eaten yes
Last one sleep at 9 ;(

Feel scared like I wanna hide from world

It's only just over three hours Tango and you can curl up under your duvet and the world will go away for a bit. Could you put a film on for the children?

Mouse I'm good thanks, bloody knackered though being back at work. Got some challenging little darlings in my class this year. They keep me on my toes, trying to stay one step ahead and anticipate the little meltdowns. Early night for me tonight too.

Ds just made me laugh though. He asked if he could camp out in some woods with friends at the weekend. Er, no love, you're only 14, you still need some sort of supervision and I've no idea where these woods are or who owns them.

Tango maybe you can hide for this evening? Is there anything you have to do other that get the children into bed? Could you do the minimum and fix yourself some treats, maybe line up something to watch later and agree with yourself to hold on until the morning?

Mouse if only I was all shiny and new! but thanks, my head is feeling a little clearer today.

Wondering how the week is going for you Daisy and Pickle?

Also Ladame, hope you have had a lovely day with dd before she sets back off to uni. I dread that day and my boys are only 8 and 11!

Tango Hang on - another ten minutes at a time. Set an alarm somewhere for 5 mins. When you get to 5 mins, set the fucker again!!! You can do it.

Lovely Mouse Did well for a few days - felt good, lost weight, slept well. Then DS1 broke his arm! He fell out of a tree last night - was guarding his arm and said it hurt but wasn't hysterical or anything. Thought I'd see how he was over night. This morning he'd had a bad night (but hadn't woken me) so I thought A&E was the best bet. He's broken (hairline fracture) his ulna and radius! Plastered (Lol!) from above the elbow to wrist. Don't know why but - walking round the supermarket thinking of a 'treat' for him for being so good - bought fucking wine!!! I'm a lost cause!

Have had a lovely evening playing 'strip Jack naked' (not loss of clothes involved!) with the boys. My TV in my bedroom has gone tits up so I have to be downstairs more - which is far more normal and far better for DC (shame on me!).

Thanks Pink, Faire Baby and everyone else who's remembered me. xxxxxxx