The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Travelling Far And Wide, With Sobriety In Mind.

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Welcome to the Bus one and all! I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes :)

We have a new line that we're taking with us on every journey, thanks to one of our wonderful Babes, Curry -

Alcohol Fosters Inertia.

So when you're drinking excessively, nothing changes, or improves, the sharp edges of our lives just becomes that little bit less in focus, blurred and all you feel is numb. Then like shit (emotionally, as well as physically) if you're honest! Who wants that?

You are only ever better/pacified/happy whilst the alcohol is in your system. And that doesn't last........... it's not a cure, it's a quick fix. A sticking plaster.

So, if you think you're drinking too much, and want some friendly advice, or just to come and have a chat, get to know others who are just like you, who won't judge or criticise you, then hop on board! :)

We're a really mixed bunch and all at different stages of our journey to find sobriety or certainly drinking in a more controlled, less dangerous way.

And, if you'd like to see where we've been so far, have a look at the links below :)

LAST THREAD

THE STARTING POINT AND WHY WE'RE ALL HERE

@ladame no you bloody well can't have a green one, you ungrateful trollop.

It has been the most beautiful autumn day here. I took Ds out with me this afternoon foraging for blackberries in the hedges between the fields. We dropped them into our tubs as the birds sang all around d us and Ds said "this is fun" and he picked a flower and tucked it behind my ear and grinned a purple stained grin and I kissed his cheek and he wiped it off with his sleeve.
A pheasant burst out of the bushes and startled us and Ds found a tiny mouse who let us watch him scuttling busily under the leaves. We chose our best ripest berry and left it for him for his supper and then we walked back to the car, clutching our treasure in purple fingers as the sun warmed the golden fields around us and just for a while, life was good.

Just back from my first meeting. People were wonderful. A woman asked me if I wanted to go to her house for tea afterwards. We did. Chatted. (Both ex-pats from the same country). I'm going to another meeting tonight as it is a 'beginners' meeting.

Ma that sounds so lovely. Simple pleasures give us the best memories.

So glad it went well for you why and that you've found a friend x

Silver the thought of facing 30 six year olds on Monday morning with a hangover is enough to stop me drinking at the weekend

I also had a lovely day. Cycling in nice company. Feel very strongly the struggles and heartrending posts today. Just wishing best for all. It will get easier.

LOL! there's nothing lowly about being a TA- you pretty much hold the school together. Hangovers & kids really don't mix though- grim.

ma that is a lovely image however you have now associated the words ladame and trollop in my mind -snort!

why keep going back. I cried all over everyone at my first meeting.

omg that bike ride sounds nice.

Happy weekend all, hope you all stay sober / control / quit before you dance a naked can can up the high street / whatevers.

Totally screwed and drunk. Shit day.

DH and DD nearly killed each other. Have come over to friends, try and calm down and have some space. Fed up of mediating between the two of them. Thank God for my dear friend.

I don't feel any better for the alcohol.

joey tomorrow is another day. One good thing, when we wake up, we can start again. And the next day and the next day. I wish you a better day tomorrow.

I think I am the bus trollop forever now, I don't mind in the slightest

Why brave girl, so well done, you've made the first fantastic move. I've been thinking about you. Here, have a

Good morning babes x x

joey I have done a lot of that over the years with dd2 and dh. Always the meat in the sandwich. Its exhausting.you did the right thing in getting out. When u go back tell them that every time they kick off you will leave the house and stay out. Keep doing it.

Well the weathermen certainly got the forecast right for today. Wish I hadn't agreed to take dn to university today... Its vile out there

Good morning everyone! Hope everyone has a lovely day today.
Day 2 for me today, feels amazing waking up with no grogginess!
Xx

Well done velvet. Keep at it

Day one again...drank half a bottle of red wine last night. Don't know why except it was a saturday night. I didn't really want it, didn't enjoy it, and now I've got an upset stomach and I'm really tired. Funny I used to feel like this most days and just tried to tell myself I was a 'sickly' person

On a brighter note a few months ago I would not have thought it posibble that I'd ever get through the week and have no more than half a bottle of wine. But there is something about being on this bus that makes me want to try harder. The more af days I have the better I feel, the more I realise that it adds nothing to my life, but I can't quite give it up. Weird thing is now when I know days/events are coming up where I will drink - 40th birthday next saturday - I'm dreading them....which I suppose is good in a way

You and me both annie day one here too. Don't let the squally autumn weather lead you to opening a bottle of red babes xx

Hi green and anne day 1 for me as well. Im feeling very resolved and motivated hopefully stays that way!

Good morning all babes - big wave to Why and this is - Wishing you both strength and calmness for today. Remember One Day At a Time. Post here when you need some support and someone will be here for you.

Joey hope you have a better day today.

Ma I spat the orange one out and put in back in the wrapper. I'll keep it as a momento as it's the only one I ever got given and it got thrown at me. Considering I was nearly shotted in Intermarche, it was a reminder of traumatic times Your day sounded lovely. I've got loads of blackberries at the moment. I had a forage in my veg patch and found a courgette that I had missed too.

Well, I went to a huge party yesterday and for the first time ever didn't have a drink. I stuck to coke all night (full fat, so there goes the low carbing up the pictures). But, it was really ok, I had a great time and best of all, I'm not wondering if I said anything stupid to anyone, or if I was embarrassing or slurry. I saw lots of friends who were drinking pretty heavily and did get in some awful states. I'm never going to be that person again, ever. I thought I couldn't enjoy myself without several glasses inside me, but I did and it's a revelation. I got really done up and spent ages on my hair and make-up and I looked the same when I got home, not all blurry and winey. I felt completely in control and I loved that feeling.

So, happy Sunday from rainy old France. Be kind to yourselves. BTW do you think I should nc to Latrollop?

Thanks ma I didn't leave them to it as she is only 11, and I seriously thought they would hurt each other. But we have had some good advice from a friend and a bit of space. The shock of being bundled into the car and taken away has given DD something to think about, we all needed a break.

Re. Alcohol - I was awake in the middle of the night, feeling horrible and hating myself. Yuck.

Joey how does an 11 year old hurt a grown man? He really should be the one to back down, she is not in control of her emotions at the moment.

She needs discipline, yes but also nurturing and understanding. What is she like if you leave her to calm down for a bit, does she become more rational and able to talk sensibly about the problem?

He really needs some strategies because she will be like this for a good 8 years or so yet. Would he go to a parenting course, do you think?

I'm only saying this because of the impact it has on you. It's not fair and is affecting your sobriety x

joey big hug for you- I have no advice, it all sounds awful. Poor you.

ladame I'm delighted for you, sober parties are great and you can escape early if the drinking gets too out of hand I know because it was always me wot got out of hand. Have a lovely day latrollop

good luck babes on day one/two etc Sunday is the best day of the week to abstain on, anyone really want to start Monday hungover?

at latrollope rummaging in her vegetable patch and finding a courgette.
Fnar fnar....how could you have missed that!
Low carb boot camp weigh in tomorrow and trying so hard today not to give in to temptation......

Afternoon, tis me, Mouse

Firstly, a MASSIVE HELLO AND WELCOME to the Babes who have joined us in the last few days or weeks :)

I hope you have found your seat to be comfy and that you feel supported :) xxx

Sorry for not being around, life is hectic just now, and I have to say that I'm pretty exhausted, I've also fallen off the low carb wagon this weekend and stuffed my face with chocolate - it was that or copious amounts of wine and I can't face hangovers. Ever. Again. I'm just feeling that way out....So I'm back at bootcamp tomorrow to kick ass.

Nemo has had a fantastic two first weeks at primary school, he has a proper reading book with words in now and can tell me the alphabet in full, and tell me the letters in his name - he's our very own little Rainman (and I mean that in the nicest way :) ) his number and letters are shit hot, his social and emotional skills are still lacking, his Paediatric Consultant says he is about 12-18 mths behind developmentally now, which is overall, or globally...

He has so much time out of school, but the appointments have all fallen at once. Grr. Clearly they don't do holiday time appts. Oh well, the school have been fab about it to be very fair to them :)

Dame - I had a forage in my veg patch and found a courgette that I had missed too. - I'm sorry but ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaaaaaa now that is the biggest missed, smuttiest line I've ever ready on a Sunday on this thread! Excellent work!

Well done to Why for going to a meeting and another today, that is a huge step so I hope you are bloody proud of yourself! :) x

Ma - that walk sounds delightful, it's like the end of the world here so we're housebound. DH is in the kitchen tiling and considering he's never tiled before, it's looking ace, like a real kitchen at last :) I'm so proud of how hard he's worked on it.... he's a star!

We too have so much fruit and veg, also gallons of rain water for the garden! We are going to be Tom and Barbara from The Good Life at this rate!

So, I'm sorry to not read back properly but it's ages since I've been on the thread so I feel very out of touch with you all, I hope that you are all feeling okay, drinking or not....

Those who are low carbing, I hope that you can kick ass with me tomorrow, my will power has gone and I know I've put wait on because of my meds....

Anywho - enough of my waffle! I better call my mother so that she knows I'm still alive!

Be back later lovely Babes - Stay Strong xxx

See? I'm that rubbish that I X posted the foraging in the veg smut with Ma!

Hi Mouse mwah mwah

'tis I, Ladame

Yes, and it was a lovely big one, nice and firm too, not at all bendy I am a lucky girl, now - what to do with it?

Hi babes, just wanted to say hi and a huge welcome to our newbies, why so happy you got yo a meeting, you been through a terrible time and need a friend right now, your a brave lady and you will get your baby back and be happier sober, I'm nearly 7 weeks AF and I feel like "me on a good day" everyday, everything has changed in such a short time, I'm sure it will be the same for you, good things will happen. To all newbies, this thread is amazing, we're here to help each other through all the emotions relating to drinking/not drinking, you are very welcome and I look forward to getting to know you. Xxxx

xxx

Thank you for such wonderful words..... even those of us who have been here for 4 years need to hear those words sometimes too.... :) xxx

Why - I've read you're posts and wept. My heart has ached for you so to read that you have taken the hardest steps in the world, life changing steps to begin to recover, to begin to heal and help yourself is truly awe inspiring and that too is something that brought a lump to my throat.

You will have our unconditional support here. Always. Even if you slip back, we'll be here to pick you up, we'll walk beside you, to catch you when you feel wobbly, we'll hold your hand when you are so terrified you think you will lose your breath, we'll be whatever you need us to be, to help you get YOU back and everything that goes with that.

I'm glad you found someone to talk to there, at AA. You need that, a RL hand to hold :) xxx

BTW - the above goes to ALL babes... the support given here is unconditional, which maybe why we've been driving around in Gerald, for as long as we have now? Who knows.

All I do know is that life is very short in the grand scheme of things, it's a gift, it's precious and it's wonderful when you live it to the full. :) xxx