The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Travelling Far And Wide, With Sobriety In Mind.

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Welcome to the Bus one and all! I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes :)

We have a new line that we're taking with us on every journey, thanks to one of our wonderful Babes, Curry -

Alcohol Fosters Inertia.

So when you're drinking excessively, nothing changes, or improves, the sharp edges of our lives just becomes that little bit less in focus, blurred and all you feel is numb. Then like shit (emotionally, as well as physically) if you're honest! Who wants that?

You are only ever better/pacified/happy whilst the alcohol is in your system. And that doesn't last........... it's not a cure, it's a quick fix. A sticking plaster.

So, if you think you're drinking too much, and want some friendly advice, or just to come and have a chat, get to know others who are just like you, who won't judge or criticise you, then hop on board! :)

We're a really mixed bunch and all at different stages of our journey to find sobriety or certainly drinking in a more controlled, less dangerous way.

And, if you'd like to see where we've been so far, have a look at the links below :)

LAST THREAD

THE STARTING POINT AND WHY WE'RE ALL HERE

I am attending an AA meeting today. But I also accepted the alcohol program offered by SS. AA is for me, the alcohol program and related sobriety testing is so that I can prove to SS that I can do it and get my baby back.

I know I can do it. I was sober when pregnant and I thought to myself, 'life without alcohol is good'. But being able to stop drinking for 9 months also allowed me to tell myself, 'if you can stop drinking when pregnant, you can't be an alcoholic'. But that was delusion.

How old is your baby my son will be 3 soon so I'm just clinging to the fact that he won't remember me being a shit mum

Yes, I think some of us do have to accept that we will never be able to tolerate alcohol. Think of it as a poison, or a drug or even just a substance that we are allergic to.

Lots of people live with conditions where they have to regulate their diet, can't have caffeine, wheat, sugar, etc. This is just a substance that you have to avoid.

No more deliberations. You can't have it, it makes you ill. Once you accept that it is easier to work on those strategies to avoid it. Honestly, I bet you didn't have much trouble when you were pregnant because there was no discussion. You were not going drink. End of.

Making that decision is the key, imo. The cravings don't bother to come knocking once they know you're not going to open that door anymore.

My baby is only 6 months old. I was arrested because of a domestic dispute with my husband while the baby was in the room. I am so ashamed of myself.

I always knew this would happen. I could feel it coming in the days before the incident. I don't know how to explain it.

I have accepted the first step. I am powerless over my addiction. Alcohol is the source of all my problems in life and always has been. Since I was a teenager. Job problems, social embarrassment, relationship issues. I just never thought it would affect me as a mother. When I was pregnant I told myself the baby had saved me from alcohol, because I could give it up for him when pregnant. But I lied to myself and said I could control my drinking. I cannot.

My family court lawyer was so nice. She told me the baby is too young to remember any of this and by the time I am ready to be a mother to him, he wont have any memories of it.

I am grateful to be able to post here. I thought people would flame me for being a terrible person. I know that people in real life do.

Why your not a terrible person none of us are we have a disease a crutch something that makes us drink ourselves stupid u will get him back and he won't remember a thing ur hormones are probably all over the place still and motherhood his hard and lonely at times that's my main trigger being on my own n feeling lonely

Wise words as always Faire

thisis why velvet

Welcome aboard - here are your tickets for the start of a journey towards sobriety. you are truly in the best place here for unconditional support.

Seek out real life help as well - family, friends, aa, online support groups...anything that might help - give it a try

Give yourselves the best chance of success.

You have made the first and the HARDEST step already.

You have recognised the problem - and as other BBs have said

THE ONLY WAY IS UP.

I don't know what my trigger is, but I have a million excuses.

I guess I'll find out what my triggers are during recovery.

I'm afraid to tell my parents that I'm an alcoholic, because they are both functioning alcoholics.

You shouldn't feel bad tell them in your own time I told my family last night after 2 years of suffering with it on my own but feel better now they know

They will just have to deal with it why. In whatever way they chose.

I found that by telling the people I cared about, that I had issues with alcohol, helped me. It made it real. For me. I couldn't keep kidding myself that things were ok.

Are you sober two years or just knew you were in trouble for two years?

Well people are gonna know that I've been forced out of my home and don't have custody of my child...I have no real option but to tell people.

I am so ashamed of myself.

But I have the feeling that being an alcoholic is a lot like being in the closet as an adult. When you tell people, or 'come out', lots of people will tell you they knew for years and loved you anyway.

No luv I'm day one after 2 day bender I'm suffered in silence for 2 years

Oh poor you thisismytime. I'm on Day 3.
So glad I have another mother to talk to about this. Posting here has so far helped me stop crying and pacing the room of my friends house that I'm forced to live with for the moment. I told her I was an alcoholic and that I was getting help. She just smiled and said, "I knew this day was coming and you can do it". No judgement. I guess that's why I came to her in the first place.

that's the type of friend you need this bus is also non judgemental so there is always luv and support here this is like my 4th of 5th attempt of quitting but each time I fail I get welcomed with open arms

I see that people relapse. We can all only try again.

You said that being lonely was a trigger for you. Are you married or a lone parent?

I'm married but suffer from depression so feel lonely all the time

How awful.

Are you getting treatment for your depression? Stupid question probably. I don't even have depression as an excuse. The only misery in my life is the self-inflicted pain of alcoholism.

Just checking in

whydid -you have really done the right thing in going to aa & posting here,so well done.

In aa you'll meet lots of people who will offer support & not judge. Lots of women have been through the same experience and with lots of sobriety have rebuilt relationships with children, it's one of the main purposes of aa.

Keep going to meetings, even when it gets hard, just go. There isn't a single thing you can say in an aa meeting that will shock or upset anyone- we've heard it all.

Best wishes x

Big wave to all, sorry I haven't said hi properly but I'm supposed to be getting some paper work done- not lurking...

being an alcoholic is a lot like being in the closet as an adult. When you tell people, or 'come out', lots of people will tell you they knew for years and loved you anyway

You might be on to something there.

Hi to guggs and silver

'LO there faire - got your planning done then?

No planning for me guggs as I am a mere lowly TA. All the fun, none of the stress

How u feeling now why? Hi to all other babes x

Interacting with children .... Fun . ... faire you have my upmost respect but noooo waaaay - not for me buddy

How are you doing this ?