Good morning!
Thanks for all your birthday wishes - 49 going on 9! 
This is going to be a long one, lots to catch up on!
I am feeling thoroughly chastened today, I had awful news from one of the friends I was bemoaning, she apologised for not being in contact, was diagnosed with cancer early in the summer. So very 
Certainly puts everything firmly back into perspective.
And I was already feeling cringily ashamed after reading about snape's daughter's woes (although great news about the job!) and Juliett's son issues. No one has deliberately tried to hurt or upset me (STBXH aside), my angst has come from omission rather than commission. And I have weathered the worst of DDs' teenager years - touch wood - so just waiting on the gathering storm clouds over DS's head to burst!
And while at work I was given cakes and wine by my boss and those drinking buddies I mentioned at some point in my meltdown! To channel Sally Fields 'They like me, they really like me' 
Thanks for sharing all your flakey friend stories, am in great company 
. It's so easy to sink into the habit of thinking everyone but you has glorious, life affirming friendships that brook no barriers.
Juliette I hope you can get some time to yourself, I agree with all the others saying you need to recharge your batteries. Whenever I stay with someone for more than a day or so, I make a point of making myself scarce for a couple of hours at least - if the host is like you and me they're grateful for the time alone, and if they're not then no harm done anyway! Fingers crossed it's all salvageable
So thank you all for putting up with me, and being lovely through and through. I hope I have made facebastard contact with all who felt sorry enough for me. I amused myself for ages coco trying to guess which of snapes' friends you are - please be my friend
Right that's enough. I'm going post this to draw a line under my madness. And post a separate witty, charming and oh, so readable on-topic message in a minute!