I am unsure whether I have just had my first ever orgasm

[Totalluvvie]

A bit of background: I have never ever had an orgasm. Not on my own or with a partner. Neither have I ever masturbated. I have been married, very happily so, for nearly 10 years, and, with a lot of encouragement from DH, decided that it was definitely time to work through why. So I have invested in a vibrator from emotional bliss, read some books on why women son't orgasm, or lose their orgasm etc, and decided to try and masturbate to find out what works for me. The idea is that I have time and space to have a go myself, and then involve DH when I feel comfortable. No rush and no pressure.

Right. So whilst having a play with the vibrator tonight, after 10 minutes or so, feeling more and more turned on, I sort of tensed up, and felt a series of five or so involuntary muscle spasms in my vagina, and then felt something wet inside (though nothing came out of me) and my heart raced. It was quite nice but not mind blowing, and didn't last more than five or so seconds.

Is this an orgasm? I know that some people will say that if I am unsure, then it cannot be, but I don't have anything to compare it to, which is why I am asking!

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The solo ones are never mindblowing in the way the best ones with DP are, especially those after a long, lazy afternoon in bed.

Maybe the best is yet to, um, come

Well done on the fanjolele success! You'll be wanking for England soon.

GB Women's Wankers for the 2016 Olympics!

A tip - don't stop too soon when you feel it happening. Stick with it, IYSWIM.

I agree O.P once you've had your first orgasm there's no going back. I had my first from oral at 19 and my first vaginal orgasm at 21 and I've not looked back since. There has only been one time where I've not had an orgasm through vaginal sex since my first orgasm. I can't comment on having an anal orgasm as I'm very proud to say I'm an anal virgin. I know I shouldn't knock it til I've tried it and I'm sure you've gathered I'm no prude but anal sex is a no no. I also enjoy giving pleasure as well. xx

OP - well, this is weird - I started a really similar thread recently. But it sounds like you have got a bit further than me!

What books did you read and did you find them useful?

Hurrah! :D

I actually thought I'd used up all my orgasms (a la Samantha from SATC) until I met DP and he reawakened them big style.

Vibrators never did it for me. Trouble is, now I know I have to hold on to this bloke as he is the key to my underneathsie's (love that word!) happiness.

Fortunately like Earthworm, I find my best orgasms are when I'm pleasuring him at the same time (helps to keep me quiet too!) so we both have a vested interest in keeping them coming, if you'll pardon the pun.

I tend to have a series of good smaller ones, but he won't give up until I've had the earth shattering, scare the neighbours one at the end too.

Just keep practising OP. You need time to understand exactly what and how you are feeling. It really will get better.

Sounds like a manual orgasm to me! There is a huge difference between orgasming alone and with your sexual partner, he sounds very understanding and like he wants to please you, so be honest and tell him what feels good and what doesn't, try and relax and also have a laugh if something feels silly or weird to you, tell him, giggle about it. Sex and exploring each other is fun. Best of luck!