The Dating Thread - episode 60

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If I may?

Woo OWW! I'm so pleased for you :)

OWW sounds great

tigsy you too

FoF was picking up his kids tonight from the airport .. I suggested he came here for a while as it was closer so that's him now me my DD8 and my mum .. I think he won a lot if brownie points for showing an interest in one direction ( with my DD not my DM) .. I have to say I am totally smitten and he seems to be the same although I can obviously not mention that as it would be a huge red flag so early on

Tigsy yeah I had a similar experience...

Just going through loads of dates and thinking

"bloody hell what I want just isn't out there and I can't feel what I want - am I a secret lesbian or just not attractive enough/have I missed my life chances to get someone I genuinely feel with/am I in the wrong social scene?

or do I need to "settle" for someone who just feels like my new zany best friend with no chemistry when I have enough friends? Or chase after some guy who's a bit arseholish or doesn't really want me to get the chemistry fix?"

Then you encounter the rare (I don't know what you call it - "alpha" or something) male who also likes you and its the best feeling in the WORLD
Worth holding out for. I think dating/socially I've met 3 in the last 3 years!

He's now met my mum and DD that is!

Seeing him 'properly' tomorrow .. He is getting an induction for my gym so he can come with me as a pay as you go customer tomorrow morning and he is bringing champers as I got the keys to my house with a promise of more when I move in in a couple of weeks

yay for champers and lovely men bringing champers kirsty

Lorna - I know exactly what you mean, although I don't think I'm a secret lesbian. The connection with someone, the attraction with someone who's more than just attractive, actually interesting and funny and cool and.. connective?

I'm irritated that Match just renewed my membership for 3 months and I had really meant to go in and cancel because I haven't had a single date from it in Hungaria. OKC worked for half a dozen dates, real life worked for a few more, but Match was a waste of time. And then after all that I seem to be infatuated with someone 5000 miles away who I've known for years.

But if I hadn't been going out on those dates and talking to people, I would have been sitting home watching TV or reading, and I like meeting people anyway so.. not a complete waste.

you'll find a way with the distance Bant.

i've met loads of happy "older" military couples who have managed all the separation simply with some lateral thinking, fairly independent mindsets, and of course a good strong connection to start off with. i think its fairly romantic as well, all that kissing at airports just make sure you know how to pick the woman up and twirl her round when you do it, that's the icing on the cake.

She works part time for a limo company, wears a suit and tie and everything. So when she picks me up from the airport in the limo, with the name card in her hand, I'll be the only person getting off the plane who walks up to the limo driver and gets a snog :)

bant

Aww Bant

Lorna my current (but on holiday) lover is fairly high up in the military (Lab) and is very good personable. Do you think it's to do with the training/required skill set? Very tasty bit of stuff...[dirty ol' lady emoticon]

Hi ho, it's off to work WFF goes...

Lorna I definitely share your feeling. That's why I opted out of the whole OD game for this year. Know a few people that met their partners online, but have started feeling a bit 'not-enough-ish'. So decided to give my poor ego a bit of a break from being beaten up.

But wow, for OWW and the others that seem to be winning the game.

Is it an age thing, I am mid 40's now?

Gah, mad rush again, fell asleep last night in the middle of what I was writing!

I have an eight hour day rather than a nineteen hour one though today so I'll be back later with some proper thanks to my lovely friends (and a bit more). I've had the best and sweetest messages ever. Love you lot

Just to update, ill-advised sleepover second date was good after all! I told him straight up (after a few drinks) I wasn't there for sex, he thought that was v funny... I wasn't 'Dinner' after all. Did sleep in his bed though, it was all very lovely.

Mama

Lovely post Tigsy

Oww and Kirsty Fab stuff

Jo I am heading with gathering speed to the big 50. Have to say I haven't found age to be a problem. Met my current chap in RL though, find that much, much more straight forward than OD.

Jo I'm 48 in a couple of weeks, I think regardless of age there are always people wanting to meet someone, go on a few dates and hopefully find a connection with someone - although I do remember after the first time I saw some of males in my age range on Match sobbing to my gay male friends that I will never fancy anyone again as only gay guys over 45 care about their appearance!!!

That was when I was naive and didn't realise that people lie about their age! The lowest age I searched for was 44 as I guessed most men younger than that may want kids and that's not happening for me!!

Morning everybody, lovely posts last night from OWW, Kirsty, Tigsy and Bant, I'm so happy for you all, it gives the rest of us a smidge of hope for the future.

Hello Lorna, Jo, Lubey and, of course, the leggy lovely ( you cahhhhh) Twinny.

Couples meeting at airports, train stations and the like always makes me get a bit tearful but then I'm dreadfully softhearted.

Had a late night text from Hot Tub saying he'd been out and seen 'a shooting star passing through the square of Pegasus' , earlier he'd mentioned Viz's Profanisaurus - suddenly he's seeming much more attractive (and he has his own telescope, not a euphemism).

Morning Kin So Hot Tub and his telescope are in with a chance?

One week down, one more to go before I see Mr R&R. Its been tough as he has no bloody reception.
He has been driving to higher ground every night to call me, just makes me miss him more.

Got fucking car trouble again. It has got to go!

...(and he has his own telescope, not a euphemism).

Kin, shoorely if he has his own 4 inch refractor, you should be calling him Patrick Moore and not Hot Tub ?

Flo I don't know how big it is, and it seemed somewhat forward to ask although I'm pretty much impressed by any telescope, no matter how compact (I also unfailingly laugh at 'Uranus' which tends to ruin any illusion of intelligence)

48 I dunno, he's ticking a few boxes but I'm firmly of the 'don't raise your hopes' school these days.

I bet time's dragging by without lovely Mr R&R but just imagine the reunion.

Good morning lovely lovely Thread!

I think Flipper wafting her woo has really worked wonders here. FOF sounds fab, Kirsty. And I'm hoping so much that things work out for you, Bant - it's very romantic stuff. Loved up Tigsy and Snape, Mama not being Dinner, all is well.

Nora you've got to meet him now, he sounds definitely possible!

Jo I honestly think it's just a numbers game and a case of meeting as many possibilities as you can until you find someone to click with. Having a break is a good plan, though. I'm in my forties btw and Alpha is early fifties so there is hope for us all

Hello WFF Lorna and Lubey. 48 but just think of the reunion

How are you doing Pom love?

Hello, OWW you are sounding very loved up, very pleased for you.

Posting this to give some of you some hope with OD, you know that thing that I think is pants and doesn't work. People might recall how hopeless I felt over LT, the one guy I have met who I fell for in years and who wants to keep me at arms length which is frustrating and hurtful.

I went of a POF date yesterday, it was with the long distance guy and he was charming, good looking and very fanciable. It won't be a major relationship because of the distance but I will see him again. See there is a glimmer of hope :)

That's fantastic news Scrazy, you're well overdue for some good luck and maybe a frothy, non-serious relationship will be just the ticket.

Jo agree its a numbers game. I had a lot of first dates over a couple of years. I had good men just not right, pompous men, men who were horrible when I dared to turn them down. I had periods of weeks with absolutely no interest from anyone I'd consider possibly because I'd been through them all of them then I met the lovely Dutchie who I'm having a totally wonderful time with.

OWW you sound so happy.

Scazy that's great news, the thread's woo is working

Hello Juliette how lovely your time with Dutchie sounds, really, really massively for you, chuck