The Dating Thread - episode 60

[Djangounhinged]

If I may?

lurkinglorna What we potatoes want and what we might realistically be able to attain aren't the same of course. I'm not sure how well "Potato seeks equivalent female bag of spuds" would go down; however realistic it may be

Without wanting to get into a whole "what is love" discussion, people will label different things love and some people are just more free and easy with their declarations, so that's why I think people should never feel awkward at a mis-matched "reveal". If someone talks about how much they love their friends and is all "love you" on the phone to family then I definitely factor that in and just regard them as someone who is emotionally a bit of a giver. (I, however, am a taker and the words "I love you were rarely uttered in my family, so I can safely say I have never declared love to a gaping silence.)

Snape I think the emotional pizza is a brilliant and lovely idea, will go down very well. And definitely needs to be photographed.

I'm such a long-time lurker - I can't believe I'm coming out of the woodwork, but WHERE IS VELVET SPOON? Is she in touch with some of you lot? I used to empathise so much with her, albeit silently and I feel a bit worried about her. Anybody got any news? Velvet are you out there?

Dad don't think you quite meet the spud criteria . . .

i miss velvet as well. Hope she's doing magnificently (she's on my fb & seems to be doing OK)

Secret I'm so glad you've seen the light, we are always work much much more than that. I have to say that I took the "passion for compliance" as sub/dom talk as well - although I was assuming he was a dom with a passion for a woman to comply ... mind you, all this subtlety can get me

Snape I do love the emotional pizza but get why you are bricking it - too much resonance with the notebook of love. But lets not forget that Voldie was a tit, a complete and utter tit who didn't get how inappropriate his actions were when he bloody well knew how you felt about him (somewhat like FrenchGirl and Bant). Nameless is lovely, has always demonstrated his care for you rather than being a take, take, taker like Voldie. Even if he isn't utterly delighted due to lurving you too, he will love the fact that you are taking a chance with your emotions. For some reason, I feel confident of that - must be all this woo flying about.

and more to Django and OWW for differing reasons.

Thank you very much for the profile feedback. I've tinkered with the PoF one, but will work on the others over the weekend taking your PoF feedback into consideration. Please don't all hold your breath, any increase in traffic will be infintesimal 'cos I'm a tough sell, but every little bit helps

I'm another one on missing Velvet but I assumed that she was finding it easier being away from the dating talk. Personally I love it and enjoy living vicariously, but its not everyone's cup of tea. It can certainly be hard when things don't go the way you hope, especially when no one else can understand why and are cheering so hard on your behalf, so sometimes its just easier to remove yourself.

Changing the subject slightly, my problem with pof atm is that I want to have a look on there again, if I'm at home twiddling my thumbs but don't want to accept the coffee date as lovely as the guy appears to be, he is too far. So if I go online he will see that and I don't want to make excuses. What to do?

scrazy make another profile as you're surfing without a pic anyway aren't you? ( get a new gmail account). jobs a good un

ps if you want to put a pic on the new profile then hide it. no one can see it then unless you've actually sent them a message (which you won't have with coffee bloke as you've only messaged him under old username)

Scrazy could you just reply and say he sounds lovely but he's just too far away? I've said that to people in the past and it was fine (apart from one persistent blighter who kept trying to convince me that a ninety-minute drive was no obstacle).

Good luck with the profile relaunch Joy! It only needs one person to read it and reply, if it's the/a right person . . .

Thanks, I think I will go on regardless, then if he says hi, have a bit of banter, but say about the distance if he asks again. There isn't anyone near I would message anyway and I get the impression men go cold if you do the messaging, mainly.

Maybe I should go out again this weekend, wonder if the yummy snogger is around .

Thanks Snape for the velvet update. I'm glad she's okay. I hope she comes back soon. Although I'm a fine one to talk. Ruddy lurker.

I wonder how many lurkers are out there, come on, hands up .

I have hardly ever said the 'L' word to another adult my whole life.

I said it first with Mr R&R, as I have said before, I found it very liberating.

Forever saying it now. I have gone soft.

Bloody hell, just had a message saying that according to okc, I'm the woman most desirous of sex in North Hertfordshire (not desirous of having sex in North Herts cos that'd be weirdly specific) - not entirely sure that's a title I really want...

I am taking a break from decorating, or rather ripping up carpets and sanding.

Am about 5 pages behind...I've been naughty and gone home ie have profile on POF. It's like wearing my big knickers, so easy, shooting fish in a barrel.

Been forced to go shoppping by DD2 I may be smiling but inside I am screaming

As you were...X

Ooooo errrrrr Kin ... I told you I lurved your profile. Hmmm ... that sounds bad doesn't it? Oops ...

My friend Richard got one of those two, although was obviously the man. He preened ... maybe you could try that?

Oh FFS, wrong two too

How goes things?

nameless has chosen the one pizza on the menu that has a sodding leaf salad slapped in the middle! i'll need to order something flat. [grr]

Kin in the whole of North Hertfordshire you are woman most desirous of sex - wow! congratulations - what does that mean? is it shorthand for gagging for it?

Snape good luck with the pizza of lurve, sodding leaf salad, can't you just tell him they ran out of leaves but had peppers aplenty?

WFF yeah! looks like screaming to me .....

hi Miranda, wave to all - OWW a whole weekend of Alpha availability I think I may detect a weakening of resolve on his part ... just putting it out there

Lubey BC had his chance and so glad you want to stick with Mr Flirt, it sounds good.

nice to see you back too Flo, speaking of men on the thread, what happened to Voice?

All good here, off on hols for next week with Mr EA and assorted kids/teenagers. We are both getting very excited, have had to had a bit of a wardrobe veto and he has been duly despatched to buy shorts that are not of the sports variety ..... he's a willing learner following my look of complete horror the Hawaiian shirt was put in the bin!

Had a funny moment last night, very hot, bit tetchy and trying to give the dog his kennel cough vaccination unsuccessfully Mr EA said "for god's sake just leave it " and started to say his Exes name but styled it out and changed it to mine ...... reminded him later but as he pointed out, I don't have a leg to stand on, having in the early days called him by the name of my STBXH in the throes of passion - don't think I will EVER live that down.

Sorry to jump in but how do you answer this from a guy who seems quite nice...

No one relatively normal come along as yet then?

Is that a fish for me to say something relating to him? Have been messaging for a few days few times a day, were both laughing about much older women coming on to him and me having someone tell me about his extra large c**k then he sent this....agh, hate being the newbie and not having a clue!!