how can I convince dh that condoms are the way to go - or is there a compromise?

[highlandspring]

I'm hoping someone will be able to help me - have changed my name just in case dh decides to have a quick look at what I've been posting on

basically, dh and I love each other very much. Due to medical reasons, I cannot tolerate any hormonal contraception and cannot do any of the non-hormonal ones you insert (copper coil, diaphragm) due to a weird shaped cervix and uterus.

This has left us using the withdrawal method but it has so put me off having sex because I really do not want to get pregnant. For me, sex is the bees knees of all stuff we do together - dh is quite happy to do all sorts of other stuff but for me, I don't mind the other stuff but would always want sex at the end.

This is now causing problems because I am starting to completely lose interest because I feel I'm not getting what I need and he is getting annoyed because he feels I'm not 100% into what we're doing (I'm not!). If he would wear a condom for sex, we could do it properly and I would happily partake in all the other stuff because I know we would end up having sex at the end.

But he won't - because he hates them . So either he wears one and he doesn't enjoy it or we do withdrawal and I don't enjoy it and worry that I'm going to fall pregnant. Heeeeeeeeelp!!

I used to get LOOOOOOOAAAAAADS of prostitute clients. lots of repeat business .
mostly really lovely. I used to feel very cross when they were described on the sheets as [x] Common Protitute. . do they still do that I wonder?

on the charge sheet I mean not on the Black Satin Sheets
yes, prostitutes are normal women. with kids, lots of them. Shocker, eh?

I actually don't think I've met lots of prostitutes, Annimac. And the only women I finally - after several years - realised were prostitutes were rather sad-looking women round King's Cross. Who didn't dress like me. I reveal a damn sight more norkage, for one thing.

I think the was all done sarcastically anyway wasn't it?

Was from me.

But I don't do sex threads.

Or members of the Wossname Prostitutes' Collective who are all quite scary and I don't think work as prostitutes much in reality in any case.

Or use apostrophes come to that.

The up and coming area of Leith where I live used to be a tolerance zone.

Drive to ASDA the Jewel at night, see prossies on the way home, plying their trade.

I always felt for them, it's cold in Edinburgh a lot of times, but they'd be out in miniskirts w/no tights. Brrrrr!

It's all moved to Lothian Road now.

and lube, Fio! don't forget the lube!

as long as it's not that KY crap.

now using oils is very bad for condoms when they're petroleum-based.

so go w/the olive oil when you're in a pinch.

pouch of douglas, anyone?
:o

whatever happened to good old-fashioned spit?

oi

leave me out of this please

I didn't realise either - but partly because most of the ones I've bought in the past were pre-lubed on the inside. Having said that, I've looked in detail now at what I bought and I think the ones I was using before were more akin to thick plastic bags that some of the new type condoms that are about!

I never knew they were made in so many different shapes let alone different sizes!

than some of the new condoms I should have said!

I looked at condoms to check the size and the largest i could find was 56 mm i believe does anyone know of any bigger ones?

Just read through this thread and I know how you feel over dh. My dh protests over condom usage, but I won't take any chances.

I have actually been to doctors this morning over another problem and I asked her about sterilisation. She said it was ultimately my decision and was reffering me to the clinic. It is a normal procedure, according to the doctor so if it is something you want, be firm with your doctor!!!