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Waves is winning.....Here comes the Acrobat!

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wavesandsmiles · 13/07/2013 06:31

Links to previous threads:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1670597-So-DH-said

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1745551-DH-said-DH-left-waves-is-still-being-sick-but-into-the-third-timester

Will this become the live birth thread? Will Lodger 1 leave? Will waves be smiling throughout this thread?

Doula is on call, bags are packed, acrobat was a teeny 14 weeks foetus when I started posting - he is about to become DC3, I'll stop being sick and a whole new chapter will begin.

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DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 15/07/2013 18:05

That's good news waves about Acrobat's position! (Clever Agatha).

Everything set and am keeping an eye on this thread Smile.

AgathaF · 15/07/2013 18:15

Great news about acrobat's position.

I predict that when labour starts properly for you waves, it will be pretty speedy.

AgathaF · 15/07/2013 18:16

Thank you Donkeys Grin.

CurlyFox · 15/07/2013 18:26

Ooohhh so excited! Come on Acrobat!

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 15/07/2013 19:19

I did wonder if Acrobat was so far down he was ready to pop out to say hello, I seem to remember my DS doing similar years ago, its all a bit hazy now. Grin

Waves, I dont think it will be too long before your little acrobat makes his arrival. I am so excited for you it is ridiculous. Hope your DC and you all enjoy your treats. Well deserved.

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wavesandsmiles · 15/07/2013 20:22

All finished for the day I think....nothing left to do that has to be done, so I might have a warm bath and try to relax a bit.

Suddenly feeling a little sad as I remembered that it's my first wedding anniversary tomorrow Sad Remembering back to this time last year when it was hopes, and happiness and excitement. Instead I am about to give birth, charging around still doing EVERYTHING myself because I simply don't have the support, and feeling exhausted.

I know that it is part of the process of getting over everything, and that I have to, at some stage, fully accept that the twunt I married was not the person he professed to be. That person was an illusion, and does not exist now, and will never exist.

Come on acrobat, make your way to being a wonderful air-breathing human being like me and your brother and sister. I think we are all very much ready to meet each other now!

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MissStrawberry · 15/07/2013 20:50
JaxTellerIsAllMine · 15/07/2013 20:58

waves - nothing in this whole year was your fault my lovely. None of this at all.

Try to look at your anniversary as a new start, a new beginning, not of what could have been - the ifs and buts; this is a time for a new you, new baby. Fresh and clean and beautiful.

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 15/07/2013 20:59

You have been evicted - please do not swear! Grin

Mixxy · 15/07/2013 21:04

I think if Acrobat arrives on your first wedding anniversary, it would be a great thing. Instead of it being the day you married twunt, it will be the birthday of your youngest child (so far) and will be the end of one of the most difficult pregnancies I've heard of. Its a celebration to say, "I did it without twunt and I can do anything"!

MissStrawberry · 15/07/2013 21:07

1 year - you can file for divorce now!

I know that might sound flippant but I am trying to show a positive side to the date arriving.

ljny · 15/07/2013 21:30

Can't wait for Acrobat's birth!

His birthday will be so wonderful, so important, it will help you forget about the lying deceptive twnt-iversary.

C'mon, Acrobat! Yay, Waves!

BerylStreep · 15/07/2013 21:34

My DS was born on our wedding anniversary.

It's a pretty good way of ensuring it is never at the the forefront of your mind, as you are busy dealing instead with upwards of 20 boisterous boys!

KiwiJude · 15/07/2013 21:44

Checking in on Waves and Acrobat, just found this thread and was agog til the last page! :) Will not waste time on twunt, he is what he is - would not even spit in his general direction if I had to step over him in the street. You however Waves, are a totally different story - if you needs hands to hold there will be plenty :)

Come on Acrobat, we're all waiting... off to boil water and get fresh towels hehehe

MrBloomsMarrow · 15/07/2013 22:04

waves I posted right back on your first thread and have been following you all the way (not in a stalker kind of way!). I said all those months ago that twunt's behaviour was just about the worst I've ever come across. I didn't think it was possible for my opinion of him to sink even lower but it has.
I can honestly say that you're one of the most amazing people I've ever "met". Your love for your DCs just shines through your posts. Being sick for 9 months is unimaginably hideous but to cope with everything else you've had thrown at you shows the most amazing strength of character. I'm in awe of you, I really am.
If anyone deserves some happiness, it's you. Hoping acrobat gets a move on. Thinking of you x

RuckAndRoll · 15/07/2013 22:17

Waves, checking in from August thread, thinking of you, hope acrobat arrives soon for you and dc

dramajustfollowsme · 15/07/2013 22:30

My dd was born on the only day I didn't want her to arrive. Exactly a year (well 5 minutes earlier) after her brother had been still born. I thought it would make everything worse but actually that date has nice memories not sad ones. I think about them both on their birthday and I cherish my dd so much. If acrobat arrives on your anniversary, his birthday will become just his birthday and anything previous to that will be in the background, not the forefront of your thoughts. It may help to heal you.

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wavesandsmiles · 15/07/2013 23:17

I can't do this. I'm all full up with anger, so there isn't room to get into the space I need to in order to actually have this baby.

He is in a horrible mood because he's read the thread again and its all back to everything's my fault. Ok, I know I should stop communicating with him, and stop hoping, but it is so so hard.

I don't want to be in this place anymore. It is lonely and painful. I can't meet acrobat yet. I'm not ready, there is too much pain and hurt and sorrow and anger. He was meant to be born into love. That's what I was promised. I can't get rid of the negative feelings now. It is overwhelming me. I need more time. I need a pause button. I need time out to rid my head and heart of all of this, to clear the space and sweep it clean ready for acrobat. I don't know where to start.

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TimidLivid · 15/07/2013 23:29

Oh waves how awful for you, I have been reading from the start and checking this to see when baby comes. He knows what he did his anger is maybe guilt and from being a cruel psychopath. Its not you its him. You can do this, you have terrific children already and you can do this. There is not one thing you need from ex. You are going to have baby and not feel sick anymore and then you are going to only get stronger and stronger and stronger. You will have a wonderful life a cute baby and the pain will get lesser and lesser as ex mostly fades into the past. Change your number and make him get contact only through a third party why not? Why give him anything. If he's reading this please leave her alone she is in early latent labour aren't you human? Have u got no soul no empathy? Do it for the baby do it to show some humanity. Waves you are going to get past this and you are going to get stronger.

AgathaF · 15/07/2013 23:31

On top of everything else he is a fucking creep to invade your personal space and support thread. Fuck his horrible mood - he's bought it on himself, the stupid idiot.

He should be thoroughly ashamed of himself, but I doubt that he is capable.

Waves you can do this. You have been doing this for months now, throughout a very, very physically difficult pregnancy. Nothing has changed just now, it's just that he has invaded again. Somehow you need to stop letting him do that to you, get to you like this. He is totally moronic and you will not be able to change that, but you can change how much you allow him to get to you. You must do whatever it takes - change your phone number and just have a separate one for him that you look at once a week, block his emails, move away. Whatever it takes to live your life peacefully again.

Allalonenow · 15/07/2013 23:41

Oh waves, you are exhausted, please stop rushing to do so much, rest and calm will help you to feel better.

For tonight: Have you got some favourite music to listen to, that would help lull you to sleep, or at least soothe you? Can you get comfy with pilows so you don't feel sick? How are your pains, would a bath help you?

You do know he is wrong, and that none of this is your fault. Late at night everything seems worse and harder to deal with, so try to rest. This has been such a difficult day for you, but you are nearly through it now. Take care dear waves.

wordyBird · 15/07/2013 23:42

Dear waves, breathe and let the anger be there for a while. It will pass, as a thunderstorm passes, and you'll feel ok again soon.

He's upset you before and you've recovered. So you know you can!

If you went No Contact.... you wouldn't know what mood he was in. It wouldn't matter. So there's quite an upside to NC.

Your little one will be born into love, you and your DC have more than enough for you all. Take care of yourself Brew

Jux · 15/07/2013 23:50

Waves, you can do this. Light some candles, burn some incense, breathe deeply.

Put all your thoughts into a big bubble and send it flying off out of the window, disappearing into the night sky until you can't see it any more.

And in the morning get a new sim and don't give him the number.

tightfortime · 16/07/2013 00:13

Twunt, fuck off and leave the labouring woman alone for Christ's sake.

Waves, it's just a temporary blip, you can and will do this - whenever acrobat decides. Because you have come this far admirably and it will all be worth it.

You're in labour. Emotions and hormones all over the place. Be angry, let it have its moment and then box it away and off with you to your Tree.

He might be here...twat. But so are all of us

Ezio · 16/07/2013 00:16

Waves, he will be born into love, he has your love and devotion, his brother and sister will adore him, he has love.

Twunt can fuck right off to ends of the earth.

TWUNT, YOUR A FUCKING CUNT!!!!!!!!!

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