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Waves is winning.....Here comes the Acrobat!

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wavesandsmiles · 13/07/2013 06:31

Links to previous threads:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1670597-So-DH-said

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1745551-DH-said-DH-left-waves-is-still-being-sick-but-into-the-third-timester

Will this become the live birth thread? Will Lodger 1 leave? Will waves be smiling throughout this thread?

Doula is on call, bags are packed, acrobat was a teeny 14 weeks foetus when I started posting - he is about to become DC3, I'll stop being sick and a whole new chapter will begin.

OP posts:
AndMiffyWentToSleep · 16/07/2013 09:03

Go Waves!
You certainly have more than survived!

ScarletWomanoftheVillage · 16/07/2013 09:31

The best revenge is a life lived well Waves Thanks

minkembernard · 16/07/2013 10:02

Just wishing you well wavesSmile I hope it is soon, quick and easy and then you get to eat and eat for days whilst looking at your lovely baby with your beautiful dcs and building your strength up.

springytoto · 16/07/2013 10:09

Corelli! Lucky you! What are you playing - ie what instrument are you playing?

BerylStreep · 16/07/2013 10:10

Waves, we are thinking of both of you.

BadgerFace · 16/07/2013 10:16

Echoing some of the other posters but Waves, you have more than survived, you are living what will be an enormously more successful and happy life without twunt holding you back and being so negative and emotionally draining.

Given what you have achieved and battled through whilst so ill with this pregnancy, think what you can face when fitting fit - wowsers, look out world, here comes (v soon!) post-pregnancy Waves...

Thumbwitch · 16/07/2013 10:57

Well done Waves - hope that you have a successful shopping trip!

I was going to hope that you get to play in the gig, but actually I don't - I hope you'll be too busy with a snuffly new little baby by then! Grin

LiveItUp · 16/07/2013 11:00

Shopping done yet? Hope you are resting in your happy place under the tree waiting calmly for Acrobat to join you. We are gathering to support you. You can do this and it will be a calm and wonderful experience. ((hugs))

wavesandsmiles · 16/07/2013 11:01

Smile back from shopping.... springy I am just playing continuo for the Corelli but looking forward v much to it. And thumbwitch I fully intend to play the gig whether it is with acrobat inside me or snuggled up against me in the moby wrap.... Maybe I am being optimistic? I hope not.

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Fifilosttheplot · 16/07/2013 11:06

De-lurking to wish you the best of luck Waves. Have read all your threads and think you have an amazing strength. I dont know exactly which tree you mean in York (I'll just pick the best and call it "Waves' tree") but I know the Minster and its surroundings fairly well and it is a beautiful place.

Stay strong and start to think of all the lovely non-pregnant non sickness food you'll be able to enjoy.

I was 10 days over when I had DS (around this time of year) and couldnt get to a blue cheese baguette fast enough when DS was finally out Smile

tightfortime · 16/07/2013 11:08

God, you?re some woman to be taking gigs right now!

Love the overnight return of steel. Absolutely right that the finest revenge is to be happy.

Chill time now...(gets stern) baby and mum need rest!

Thumbwitch · 16/07/2013 11:15

Wow, good for you then Waves!! Your level of professionalism is astounding, I don't think I could do that! [impressed]

Still, if he's out, at least you won't be feeling sick so Bonus! Grin

FoofFighter · 16/07/2013 11:16

waves [waves] :)

just popping over from the other thread to show some support and hurry along vibes too for your little acrobat!
Stay strong, you are an amazing woman!
sending much love xxx

FobblyWoof · 16/07/2013 11:18

I just spent the last two days reading your previous posts (not solidly mind, I do have DD to think of!) and I am emotionally exhausted just reading them. I have absolutely no idea how you feel or how you've not only managed to survive the last few months but do as well as you have. Truly incredible, and I mean that from the bottom of my heart.

Twunt reading your threads and then reporting back on how your portraying speaks volumes. It would be laughable if he wasn't such an atrocious cunt. No, you know what? It's still laughable. If he was such a saint and it was all your fault and he's so worried about how he's coming across he'd sign up and put his side forward. But he won't because he knows he's wrong and he knows he'd get ripped to pieces- not because of the way you've painted him, not because we're all a bunch of man hating bitches (I think very few MN users are), but because, simply put, his actions since January (and probably before) have been deplorable from start to finish. Even ignoring his actions from Jan to a few days ago sending nasty texts to a woman in labour is disgusting, never mind the fact that the child is his.

So, if you're reading this Twunt (and this is the only time I will address you directly, so read carefully), I have four words that you really need to bear in mind. Repeat them over and over in your head before you get it, "It's not about me."

Try it, right now. "It's not about me."

I have a sneaking suspicion this has been the problem all along. Your not the most important person in waves life. You never were and you couldn't handle it. I bet you did feel weak all those times she didn't need you because she's perfectly capable of doing things herself and standing up for herself and you didn't like it. You're a very weak person.

waves All the best for the next few days/week etc, and I hope little Acrobat makes his appearance soon

MrsPennyapple · 16/07/2013 12:25

Hi Waves! Just poking my head round the door to say hi, and send you and the little 'un lots of good vibes.

Go Waves! :)

LucyTheValiant · 16/07/2013 13:25

Oh Waves, you are amazing Smile

Come on little Acrobat!

MissStrawberry · 16/07/2013 14:06

I am going to send you a PM Waves once you let me know your soon to be ex can't access them.

MrsDeVere · 16/07/2013 15:00

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Bogeyface · 16/07/2013 16:25

He is angry because all us stupid women are on his case when clearly it is all Waves fault!! Its not his fault that he treated her like shit and abandoned her and their baby when she was seriously ill, no not at all.

Cunt.

auntpetunia · 16/07/2013 17:21

As an honorary virtual Auntie I promise to be nicer than my namesake was to Harry Potter!

Waves you're amazing and you and all your dcs will be fine on your own.

MrsDeVere · 16/07/2013 17:25

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Stopsittingonyoursister · 16/07/2013 17:35

Hi Waves just popping in from the other thread to wish you every bit of good luck that is going around at the moment, and hope your little acrobat makes an appearance when he's ready.

You are an amazing woman; stay strong and happy.

SkylerRose · 16/07/2013 17:58

Good luck waves hope u enjoy the concert and come on little acrobat! We wanna all say hi xxx

pointythings · 16/07/2013 18:46

I love the thought of being an honorary online auntie. Can I be the one who's the designated bad influence, tells dodgy jokes, knows far too much about cocktails and waves around a decorative cigarette holder (without a cigarette in it, obviously - I don't smoke)?

Lose yourself in Corelli, who knows, Acrobat might be enticed out by the music?

starrystarryknut · 16/07/2013 20:08

OK I'm new and not much to add except I had a bastard DH and 4 days after DS2 born I played Brandenburg 5. Concertino not ripieno. I think we are on the same page here. XH is long gone, 2 DS, and a v happy life. And a lot of Corelli since then. Take heart.

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