sootikins is still (not) sleeping #6

[MrsShrek3]

seeing as I am awake again
come hither!

[MrsShrek3]

themidwife silly you for suggesting he goes early enough to get there with a few minutes spare

been awake since 5 but couldnt get my phone to work, shock horror the nightmare of not getting on the internet when you need it at 5am (ohh if all things were so trivial)

[themidwife]

Are you able to say what happened to Mr D Daisy? I don't know your story. Are you moving far?

[daisydotandgertie]

Of course - it's how I know MrsS. MrD was diagnosed with cancer in August last year and died in April this year. Our home came with his job, so I've been served notice and am moving just one short mile down the road. The lovely people in my village have found me a house to rent in the next lovely village along. There's an inquest into his death (apparently he died sooner than he should because the GP failed to care for him as requested by the consultant) which is likely to be next month or so.

August 2012 to August 2013 has been horrific. Daisydog3 also had to be put to sleep about 6 weeks after MrD died because she apparently also had aggressive cancer - she was not yet three.

Thanks for the thoughts. Gin is a fabulous cure all; I will be dragging my bucket of it (or more realistically the camelbak of it!) behind me over the next two days.

[themidwife]

So sorry Daisy, you must feel as if you're in an unreal world. Charming of Mr D's employers to evict you!
Do you have DCs too?

[daisydotandgertie]

No DC sadly, lots of MC instead. Just me and Daisydogs 1, 2 and 4. And yes, it does feel v unreal. I keep hoping he'll just come home.

His employers think they've been marvellous ....,

[themidwife]

If there's anything I can do to help (not sure where you are) please let me know

[Minimammoth]

So sorry to hear your story Daisy. I hope all goes well with your move, they are very big events to deal with, and take time to adjust.
We have just had the vet to the cat, put to sleep now, losses are hard.

[themidwife]

Oh Mini

[starsandunicorns]

Oh mini so sorry xx daisy sending good vibes to you < brings a industrial vat of gin> ((())) to you both

[cafecito]

oh

so sorry MrsD.

What a nightmare hell year you have had. It's that thing that happens to other people right - here to handhold for your move

[cafecito]

Mini- poor Fluff cat! sorry

[cafecito]

Daisy it's times like these that you realise what a core of steel you have. It's great that you have got packers. I lost my DD a few years ago, and I could not bear to even go in her room let alone unpack her things. It was a sheer exquisitely awful pain looking at her things. I moved house about 6 months after because I had only lived there for her hospital treatment and discharge plans and then I was every day on the doorstep of the hospital and there was no need anymore - so I moved and when I did I had to move with everything untouched, not even unfolded or washed, just everything perfectly as it was before. I went through her things perhaps a year or two later when I was more ready to. I still have a box I can never get rid of. It must all feel incredibly surreal still, I am so sorry to hear what you have been through.

[cafecito]

My mother lost her DH (my DF) when she was in her twenties and it took her about 10 years to sort through his things. Much to my irritation everything was binned. Certainly don't go through anything in a hurry, let it take years if that's what it takes.

[daisydotandgertie]

Mini - poor Fluff. I am so sorry she's gone. You're right - loss is hard.

Cafe - I am right where you were; I can go into our room, but I can't yet do his laundry. I am doing exactly as you did; moving his things as they are and leaving them precisely as they would normally be. His boots will be by the back door and his toothbrush will be in the bathroom. I am sorry about your DD; the pain must still be horrific.

Moving is going SLOWLY. They are behind. Probably because they are very nice and kind and are not roaring through the house like locusts. And because the boss talks the hind leg off a donkey and they eat many biscuits and drink much coffee. The house looks like a bomb's hit it and I think I might have too many things. The cellar has developed the most horrific damp problem and pretty much everything which was down there is ruined. That'll be an insurance claim, I reckon.

Are you all sleeping?

[daisydotandgertie]

And midwife, mini and stars, thank you all for your flowers, hands and gin.

What a fabulous combination .

[MrsShrek3]

sleeping, gawd no... how much packing to go?

[cafecito]

flowers hands and gin? you need a dash of !

[cafecito]

To be honest, years later, I haven't washed the couple of bits of clothing I have kept. I never will. and her teddy lives in my handbag.
I still - to this day - see things when shopping in 'her colour' for her and have to force myself not to buy them - I did this I used to buy her toys and clothes, still, and yes everything was exactly as it should be -in all its places, little hairbrush, toothbrush, and so on. I couldn't bear to move a thing.

One day at a time -

[cafecito]

and CAKE cake cake

I am awake, I have cleaned my bathroom and hallway but lost my mop so did it on my hands and knees.

I'm running out of ways to avoid dissertations

[daisydotandgertie]

It looks like masses of stuff. The garage, the garden, the sitting room, some of the kitchen and some of the dining room. 2 beds and associated things and a bit more besides. I expect it'll be less than it looks. I hope! I am now very keen indeed on getting this over and done with and getting on with being moved.

Cafe avoidance is a brilliant thing. It creates a fabulous pressurey situation as the submission date marches closer. How long have you got?

[Minimammoth]

Am awake.too much small outbreak of the lump. I cant imagine what it's like to lose a child. There is a fluff shaped space in the house now. By the radiator, waiting for you at the door, on the chair in the conservatory.

[Minimammoth]

Oh no. I killed the thread.

[MrsShrek3]

[MrsShrek3]

mini, cat shaped hugs

daisy again today. you amazing lady looking to the move and the future.

cafe!!

[themidwife]

Morning. It sounds like everyone's at crisis point. Me too. We definitely need more gin.