Dating thread 58 everyone welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. loo update is mandatory

yeah he's a nice guy, not logged on dating site since we met? and my new resolution is to give up passive aggressive games- if i stop being comfortable with someone i'm gonna just fade them out of my life, not keep them in and be all angry at them - so i have texted him STRAIGHT back.

right i'm going to have a very late dinner (i lost my appetite thinking i was gonna get a nice KISS but fuck that i'm going to devour a fry up now). night all!

Oh dear OWW, you were subtle weren't you. He thinks you actually want him to cook and it should be special. As he has possibly just started dating again he may be clueless. Next time, legs brick over the head

Lorna euro man sounds genuine. It's too late to expect someone to come over at this stage without it being a booty call. I wouldn't give another thought to your text not going through, maybe he texted you from the plane then had to turn off after. Or switched sim cards, or carted off by customs. He texted, you replied, it's all good.

Think that's right lorna treat as you expect to be treated. Not your fault then if they aren't worth that. Enjoy fry up

Hi, thank u, I've not disappeared but it took a while to catch up on this thread
I've been happily single for a couple of years, not really looked. I work in a female environment so don't really meet loads of people.
Went to the races with a friend on Saturday, had a great day and went to a bar after. Met a guy who seems really nice, about my age and got on really well, he wasnt too full on, didn't act like he was after a one night stand but made it very clear he liked me. So We swapped numbers, that's all and me and friend went home. He text me that night late, I'd already crashed out (been drinking at races since 1pm ) so I got the message next day, text him
The next day and he replied, so far so good. but he hasn't really seemed as interested? He could have ignored my text or made an excuse, he hasn't done that. But yesterday evening and this evening I've been the one to make contact, again he's replied and this evening I asked him if he still wanted to meet up (I'm impatient!) he said yes, he is busy for the next couple of weeks but we may be able to get together after that?! 1/2 of me thinks he's not interested, 1/2 of me thinks he's maybe he's not someone who rushes into things. So I leave things in his court? So do I not text now unless he contacts me 1st? Keep in contact if he contacts me but I shouldn't be the 1st one to text tomorrow?
God I feel 16 lol!
Thank u for reading :-)

Lol lorna!! Enjoy your fry up

Chirps sounds good so far. No need to be in contact every day though, some people just aren't that chatty by text. I'd just leave it for him to initiate the next contact I think.

Juliette do you really think he thinks it's all about the food?? Surely he can't be that dense ...

I know but it's activated the buried horny side I'd forgotten existed! I want a snog and I want one now!

OWW yes, he could be taking it literally. Either that or he is all out to impress to show you he is making an effort. What exactly did you suggest to him?

See, if someone invited me for dinner at their place I would think dinner. If I wanted to get naked with them, I'd have said something. He is probably hoping but trying not to presume, which as a decent man he shouldn't.

I've always assumed that an invitation to dinner round my or someone else's house, on a third or fourth date, is the equivalent of 'do you want to come up for Coffee?'..

Often the man cooks to show off his kitchen skills, wows the woman into displays of 'ooh this is wonderful, wiz zis spag Bol you are reely spoiling us..' Then on with the light jazz, lowered lighting and... Bobs your second cousin once removed.

It's to demonstrate the man is modern, can look after himself and of course provide food for you. He gets extra points if he caught the fish himself. He will be frantically shopping for the right spices, chopsticks, candles etc. part of the ritual

Oh and thanks for the links on cupping. I'd heard of it but it slipped my mind as she seemed the sensible sort.

Is it wrong of me, if we get to date 2, to point out what complete and utter bollocks it is?

Bant PMSL! Dinner = sex. Worked for me! No ambiguity there. Re cupping - no, do not point out - she is obviously Po-faced & alternative. Be polite when she raves about its wonderfulness & then start talking about the weather, or something.

I should also point out, for full disclosure, that my freezer here in Hungaria is stuffed with tesco finest beef Wellington, lamb shank, summer vegetable medley etc, so when I get to a third date with someone here (or more likely with local women 15th date) I can whip up an amazing feast. I don't know the Hungarian for star anise, chopsticks, candles or, for that matter, Ferrero rocher.

Morning everyone, especially the new recruits posters.

I hope you're feeling a little better Lorna, that kind of disappointment is always a bit of a bastard to deal with.

OWW any chance next time Alpha starts mithering about the food you can say something like 'don't worry too much about that Alpha, I'm looking forward to your cooking but what I'm really looking forward to is a little bit of privacy nudge,nudge, wink, wink, get your coat,love, you've pulled' ?
Have a fabulous day everyone, knock Frenchy off her feet Bant

( Heard from Talent last night, I paraphrase but ' whine whine-y whine whine ' )

Is Cook the new Coffee?

nora did you reply?

chirps leave the next contact to him ( and hi!!)

bant are you going off of Aruba somewhat ? Have a great time with frenchgirl .. Maybe she'd like some beef Wellington ?

OWW did you not say that alpha was new to dating? Maybe he really means dinner? ( I totally agree with bant though)

I had some lovely messages back and forth with FoF .. Wee bit flirty but not too much and then he asked what kind of food I liked .. And he knew it was in advance ( as its not till 27th when I get back from my holiday ) but he wanted to get it sorted out and get somewhere awesome

Hi to everyone else .. Did I mention I'm going to Crete today ..???

Thanks Kirstyw and have a great holiday! I'll resist today, keep busy and come on here if I have itchy fingers ....

Have a fantastic time Kirsty ( FoF is sounding good, isn't he ? ).
Nah, not replied to him yet, probably will later on despite misgivings about my rescuer tendencies and the trouble they get me into.

OWW He might need alot of time to tidy up his place to an acceptable level for a lady?
The time for shopping thing is a ruse, with 24hr supermarkets it takes 15 mins max if your keen and know what you want.
Call his bluff and say " Don't worry I will bring something with me, 7.30 good for you?"
Good Luck

Would you lot go on a fourth date with a man who has not once bought you a drink ; at one point he even pushed his beer glass in my direction. I guess I'm old fashioned but I don't feel romanced!

Oh bugger. I might have sent some really drunken messages to Mr Lovely last night

I've sent him what I'd normally send of a morning but no responses. This is not entirely unusual but there's nearly always a text waiting when I wake up and there isn't today. I'm going to ignore now til he makes contact or he's going to think I'm deranged as well as a pisshead!

Mr RL (remember him?) seems to be getting interested again. I'm not. That's not to say that if I wasn't unavailable I wouldn't go there - I probably would! - just that I'm wanting to see where it goes with Mr Lovely. Still, its a pleasant bit of ego massaging. He knows Mr L and I are exclusive, he knows my views on fidelity so if he still wants to be friends and spend time together as friends then I'm not going to say no.

Superstar no to be honest, because that's just rude and I'd be doubtful that it wouldn't be accompanied by other weird personality traits. I do not think men should be splashing out on dates at all (am a little bit militant about getting my purse out), but if I spent three evenings with anyone (lover, friend or foe) I'd expect a bit of mutual round buying to be going on.

I always thought dinner was a known euphemism... until someone invited me for dinner on a second date. I accepted because the up-frontness was quite appealing in someone I was on the verge of writing off for being too shy. But it turned out just to be dinner thank god. He put a horrific amount of effort in and I realised that Coffee was very unappealing anyway. But he genuinely seemed clueless enough not to get the Dinner subtext.

superstar NO WAY!!