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Dating thread 58 everyone welcome

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Kirstywirsty · 02/07/2013 07:46

The Rules

  1. Develop a thick skin;
  2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  4. Trust your gut instinct;
  5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
  6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  7. If it's not fun, stop
  8. loo update is mandatory
OP posts:
Newstart13 · 15/07/2013 22:23

Yay oww re dinner

OhWesternWind · 15/07/2013 22:25

Oh bollicks now the silly man is faffing about getting ingredients in, might have to be next week so he can shop. Ffs Alpha!!! What am I going to do? Think I've flustered him a bit.

lurkinglorna · 15/07/2013 22:25

Well European one just texted to say he's landed and sort of to cancel, well not EXACTLY to cancel just to say he didn't really think it was cool for me to come over for 90 minutes with journey time etc?

i'm in an adventurous mode so wouldn't actually mind that? Confused but just texted back to tell him "cool and safe journey home", what else could one do?

Sad
spangledboots · 15/07/2013 22:26

lorna sorry to hear about tonight! Is he always so flaky?

lurkinglorna · 15/07/2013 22:27

OWW are we dating twins? i don't care about things being "perfect", i just want to catch up with someone i fancy!

Newstart13 · 15/07/2013 22:28

2 dilemmas

oww could you suggest a takeaway and mini master chef another time with more notice?

Sad lorna I totally get that, if I'm kid less and free it's cool with me to be spontaneous - in fact I revel in it.. He is probably being considerate and that's nice too, as he won't understand that actually it's cool for you to just go with it...

lurkinglorna · 15/07/2013 22:30

hmmm.... i've only known him a week but i'd say this wasn't really flakiness, just shit timing?

he texted me last wednesday to offer meeting on monday or tuesday, said he would be in touch en route to update me on the journey, had a few catching up texts over the weekend, the flight WAS actually delayed (i've been spying on it online) so i suppose its just the whole "well its getting close to both our bedtimes now" that's a bit Angry for me?

hostesswithleastest · 15/07/2013 22:32

Lorna German guy I met last week had that blase work-oriented style of communication. He ended up very nice. I think he was indeed very overworked and is generally a bit work obsessed though so if that's a red flag for you then who knows...

oh i so agree. Shaming someone for STDs is just Victorian. Or schoolkid stuff (probably why I was getting it from a VERY young person Blush god still can't believe I went there. I find men under 25 really, really self obsessed and just, well, immature basically. Sometimes I even think that under 30 is similar but for some reason I either get men in late teens/early20s after me, or people over 35. Not much in the middle. I guess in that age bracket they are looking for marriage material!!!

ooh oww a man to cook... that is fantastic

hostesswithleastest · 15/07/2013 22:33

also re european it may be that he's just knackered out from travelling and wants to be at his best for you?

lurkinglorna · 15/07/2013 22:34

hi Chirps , good name Smile

OhWesternWind · 15/07/2013 22:35

He's probably knackered with travelling Lorna and worried about being poor company. All sounds okay and not bullshit to me!

Have told him (nicely) it's up to him what we do Thursday. Bit fed up, didn't expect this!

lurkinglorna · 15/07/2013 22:37

thanks hostess and OWW and Newstart i shall not rage or judge....yet

spangledboots · 15/07/2013 22:37

Sorry - I got the impression that you'd been trying to arrange to meet up for a while! Hopefully he reschedules soon then :)

lurkinglorna · 15/07/2013 22:38

and spangled

lurkinglorna · 15/07/2013 22:39

my reply text has not gone through. are airports "dead zones" for phone contact sometimes? or is he hiding from my textsConfused

hostesswithleastest · 15/07/2013 22:40

it'll be all the baggage, bus/taxi hassles Lorna.

hostesswithleastest · 15/07/2013 22:41

he's got hands full right now I bet. Travelling is shite for communication.

lurkinglorna · 15/07/2013 22:44

thanks hostess, calming down now! a few years ago i'd have got really irate about this stuff and gone out of my way to meet someone else but now i am going to meditate and tidy up Smile

spangledboots · 15/07/2013 22:44

(and have a cheeky glass of vino :P)

hostesswithleastest · 15/07/2013 22:50

I reckon give him another go. Airports and travelling are so vile.

lurkinglorna · 15/07/2013 22:54

will be doing i think! Smile

last guy i dated "full time" was military, so i'm still having to "reset" my contact filters a bit and work out what's the norm for guys who aren't just randomly moved about and "out of comms" for days at a time?

spangledboots · 15/07/2013 22:56

I'm trying to readjust from getting over-excited about a guy who isn't even real so I completely get you!

lurkinglorna · 15/07/2013 22:56

cute outfit off, pyjamas on! Sad

you gotta be in it ti win it!

lurkinglorna · 15/07/2013 23:01

he's texted once to say "it was a shame about delays, would have been really nice to see you"

and then one to say "i am away on wednesday again, what are you doing thursday?"

SHALL I MAKE HIM SWEAT? Grin

hostesswithleastest · 15/07/2013 23:03

depends lorna do you get genuine nice guy vibes from him? If so I would say noooo be nice. maybe cos I'm feeling fragile myself tonight and projecting :D

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