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Dating thread 58 everyone welcome

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Kirstywirsty · 02/07/2013 07:46

The Rules

  1. Develop a thick skin;
  2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  4. Trust your gut instinct;
  5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
  6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  7. If it's not fun, stop
  8. loo update is mandatory
OP posts:
OhWesternWind · 12/07/2013 19:21

This is turning out to be a week for new vehicles Juliette - drove Alpha's car last night, never driven a car bigger than a 1.3 so that was fun and made me realise just how weird it actually is that in seventeen years Titto never ever let me drive his car, then the quads, and the motorbike aargh.

Fed up with being timid and not doing stuff, sod that.

JulietteMontague · 12/07/2013 22:00

OWW yay for new vehicles! just be careful with the quad bikes, I used to rent them out and they do tip easily

OhWesternWind · 12/07/2013 22:22

Don't know if boats count as vehicles Juliette but are you off on your sailing trip soon?

Alpha is sounding very keen on giving me a massage. He thinks my thighs might get sore Grin. Too damn right they will, if that's what it takes ...

lurkinglorna · 12/07/2013 22:25

OWW Grin he might have to kiss your sore bits better!

bigstrongmama · 12/07/2013 22:36

Yikes! I have a date... No clue at all...

lurkinglorna · 12/07/2013 22:38

is it your 1st one, bigstrongmama?Smile

OhWesternWind · 12/07/2013 22:39

Is this the same one Mama or a new one? Tell all ...

scrazy · 12/07/2013 23:28

Quiet on here recently, does that mean that most people are loved up and if so, wasn't it the whole point of a dating thread Grin.

Nowt happening with me, completely off men atm. Strange things happening with LT and it all points to him realising his mistakes. Cannot say as too identifying but I'm OK and looking forwards to new men horizons.

bigstrongmama · 12/07/2013 23:33

It's that same man. He's lovely. I like him a bit too much for someone I've never met. And I've drunk too much wine.

OhWesternWind · 13/07/2013 00:05

Oh help, please, what do I do?? Just had text off LM, well 99% sure it's him as I deleted his number. Oh blimey.

OhWesternWind · 13/07/2013 00:06

Haven't replied.

lurkinglorna · 13/07/2013 00:08

You can leave replying for now, OWW, it will still be there in the morning! What's it say?

OhWesternWind · 13/07/2013 00:11

He says hi, hopes I'm okay, and that he's been thinking of me a lot lately. Then there's another text that says sorry, no need to reply.

Feel very agitated by this Sad

OhWesternWind · 13/07/2013 00:13

That's so weird, his number has a lot of 7s in and a supplier phoned me at work today on a similar number and I though it was him, and now here he is.

Find myself in tears for some reason.

lurkinglorna · 13/07/2013 00:14

big hugs OWW (sorry I'm not 100% clear on the history with LM.

But its perfectly ok to feel agitated now, only natural, you can ride this out and think of suitable reply - if any- when you are feeling calmer)

OhWesternWind · 13/07/2013 00:18

Oh it's a long story Laura and I know he's no good for me at all, broke up three or four months ago now. Heard nothing from him since and now here he is again.

JulietteMontague · 13/07/2013 00:31

OWW emergency hard stare until Kin is available with the Crash Carp. Do NOT reply. Nothing. He is bad news, you know this. How dare he suddenly decide to drop by, but then they always do. He is so sorry, you didn't deserve it, he had problems, you deserve the best yada, yada. Put the phone away for tonight and then tomorrow maybe read back a previous thread, any will do, to remind yourself why you dumped his arse.

OhWesternWind · 13/07/2013 00:37

I know he is a sad sorry arse Juliette and no good at all and I can't say what I feel about this without sounding pathetic so I won't. I'm not going to reply though even though I kind of want to.

I thought he was going to be the one that didn't pop up again but here he is. Probably by himself on a Friday night and got a bit maudlin, it happens.

48howdidthathappen · 13/07/2013 07:30

Fucking hell OWW What a weasel! 'sorry, no need to reply' That says it all. Its still all about him. Pathetic!!!

porridgecarver · 13/07/2013 08:21

3rd date tonight but he has his kids all weekend and mine aren't here so I am going over for a drink after his are asleep!! I think I really like him but hadn't really actually planned to meet anyone this soon so its all a bit of a surprise.

KinNora · 13/07/2013 08:21

Dear OWW this is what they do, they have some kind of instinct for when good things are happening in your life, they sense their opportunity and stab in they come with a reminder.
They do this because they know you are a good person, they feel all sorry for themselves, sitting in the dark, who's been there in the past to hold their hand and whisper soothing words ? He is presuming on your kindness.

Remember the pain and uncertainty and insecurity of loving him and ignore the self-involved fucker. x

(Hello everyone, have a lovely weekend, I'm a grumpy old bag at the moment so I'm keeping out of the way for a little while but I'm very pleased for all of you who are having a good time and will someone please tell Frenchgirl to stop being so bloody obtuse and marry Bant )

porridgecarver · 13/07/2013 08:25

My XH was emotionally abusive which has made me very unsure about reading signs and trust etc so can't work out how into me he is even though he seems equally keen. How do I work out if he is just thinking with his Blush , I am very new to this dating game, pre XH I was s student so dating didn't really occur!!

48howdidthathappen · 13/07/2013 08:41

Porridge Its a 3rd date. Hold your fire Smile Its takes time to get to know someone. Give yourself time.

48howdidthathappen · 13/07/2013 08:43

Waves to Kin and Ike if you are out there Smile

KinNora · 13/07/2013 08:47
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