Dating thread 58 everyone welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. loo update is mandatory

Juliette

is so true for me.

ps i don't look like charlotte york, which is fine.

Dutch lakes? Who knew...

I should travel more.

Ooh, Lorna, sounds lovely. Trying a different way of doing things is always good.

Moan, you've given me the warm fuzzies. That's just, well, just mmmmmm.

Sorry for my ridiculous wobbles at the moment. I assure you all that they are most out of character, and i'm working on restoring normal service as soon as possible. I'm feeling more positive again now.

My lip gloss colour, I have noticed, is called insouciance.

It's a gorgeous afternoon.

De de de de de de de de dedede dedede ... Lets hope it's not mission impossible wine

Hi all, just a quick update from me.

I've got a first date tonight with Aruba. Attractive, seems interesting and quirky from her OKC profile, but we've hardly messaged at all so I don't know much about her.

Haven't met up with Dr Lovely yet, she hasn't responded to my last mail. Haven't spoken to CheshireCat (although I did hear an interesting study which says attractive women generally are less confident than ordinary looking ones, which could explain why she's shy)

I exchanged a few emails with the married woman, making it clear I'm not going to meet her but if she wants to talk, I'm available. And she just messaged me to say 'he knows about you' - she told her husband she was chatting to some man she met, he'd seen my name on her phone, and I think he thinks she's having an EA, although we've never met. Which is a bit shit really.

Oh Bant that's a bit crap, what a rubbish situation to be stuck in now and all this 'He knows about you' stuff makes it sound much more than it is.

I could go with the attractive women being less confident theory, being both attractive and not amazingly self-confident myself but CC still sounds like a bit of a pain. Hope tonight goes well.

bant what did we all tell you?? Now stop contacting her tout de suite :-)

Bant, sounds like married woman wants her husband to think she is having an EA.

Carn't comment on attractive women being shy. I would imagine an attractive woman to be picky rather than anything else. What did my sexist friends say when we were younger. 'The plain girls never say no' . Which is just crap really but telling of how some men think.

good luck with Aruba Bant

Here's a helpful hint for online daters. If you like someone, wink at them twice, 'favourite' them and then wink once more, it is unlikely they haven't got the hint by now.

If, however, they were just busy and finally got round to mailing you after a week or so, general etiquette says that you should read their thoughtfully crafted email and write one in reply, especially if they've paid extra money so you can mail them for free. Continuing to wink at them repeatedly is just creepy.

And if you haven't paid for membership on the site, so you can't read emails, then exactly what the hell is the point of winking at them anyway?

Bant maybe there is a facility to 'buy' them an upgrade. Plenty of people fall for that.

Enjoy Aruba!

i wonder too bant

i think i know i'm OD "to date" and actually meet people without taking things too seriously obviously.

but i wonder if some people sign up just after the "attention boost" of collecting attention whilst knowing they have some practical reason why they can't date IRL?

like ones who ignore the "look to meet asap" guideline? had a couple of men who just wanted to play text tennis indefinitely, screened them out after about 3 weeks of contact - i'm not sending endless "how was your day" messages to a photograph on a screen!

i don't know what their "game" was but who knows? were they even who they said they were? i haven't encountered a lot of this kind, but i think there are enough people willing to maintain indefinite online contact to keep them going.

or maybe in your case, they are "pranksters" wasting time?

i mean if you're talking about match.com, someone can open an account in 5 minutes with no credit card details or identity check and a gmail account, upload some stolen photos of someone else and "voila" they can favourite and wink at everyone in the guise of a pretty woman! its like trolling on the internet, you get to have a nose at genuine people whilst getting the chance to shit stir a bit.

when i first started online dating (way before it became popular) i had one arrnaged meet which looking back was just a set up from some arsehole student types, but i was 18 and didn't know any better! stood in the same spot for hours!

...and "studentkid" or whatever their name was, never showed up! some people are mean!

Good luck, Bant, don't forget the loo update!

Wine, sorry, I had to go back to work before I saw your message, I hope you found somewhere nice. You're better off staying out of town for a decent beer garden - if you're near the main uni buildings then there are a couple of villages quite close that have lovely looking pubs. If you still need ideas, pm me!

Lorna I just saw the Charlotte clip. Spot on

I'm glad I did my sitting on the back of very fast motorbikes in my yoof, I'd be too scared at the speed now. Nothing wrong with a slow ride to a 'special place' though

Ha Juliette I wouldn't mind a slow ride with Alpha (or a fast one either) - one day maybe ...

Ahem...

..That is all

Whoop bant

Bant excellent. Spill then man!

Just coming back to say I decided after having a date to stay single because I am clearly not ready to date. Was nice 'meeting' you all briefly :)

Good luck!!

Whoop seconded Bant

Whoo hoo hoo Bant!! Unfair to say "That is all" - full details required urgently.

farewell and good luck SAR all the best

Suck - what happened? Please don't feel you have to go, hang around on the sofa if you'd like to.