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Dating thread 58 everyone welcome

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Kirstywirsty · 02/07/2013 07:46

The Rules

  1. Develop a thick skin;
  2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  4. Trust your gut instinct;
  5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
  6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  7. If it's not fun, stop
  8. loo update is mandatory
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Flipper924 · 07/07/2013 14:40

Wine just Grin.

Hello everyone else.

48howdidthathappen · 07/07/2013 14:53

Oops indeed Wine Grin

Newstart13 · 07/07/2013 15:34

Brilliant wine!!

bigstrongmama · 07/07/2013 16:28

wine impressive

OWW adding another class of rejects: anyone with doctor in their username. Either the person IS a doctor and their profile requires propping up with their profession or the person IS NOT a doctor and is therefore misleading you

(in fact a carpet salesman still living with his wife who thought he liked the way it sounded... )

TheTitleSaysItAllReally · 07/07/2013 17:06

wine that is very impressive... Grin

Winefiend · 07/07/2013 20:16

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scrazy · 07/07/2013 20:48

Wine, these things happen. The best way to evaluate it is does it make you Grin or cringe. If it's the former then fine, happy memories, you've still got it.

I'm sat with a towel round me and nothing else on, think I've overdone the topping up my tan, Ouch, I'm sore.

scrazy · 07/07/2013 20:49

Oh and how do you deal with the missing talking to someone? I really am. We talked every day Sad. I know I've done the right thing to not see him anymore but.....

Winefiend · 07/07/2013 21:01

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scrazy · 07/07/2013 21:05

I'm on my own a bit too atm, so that isn't helping. But yes, I should change my routine.

Moanranger · 07/07/2013 21:07

Lubey know just how you feel - I was in that place emotionally about 6 weeks ago & thought I would have a nervous breakdown. It will either work or it won't but you have to give it a chance.
My current anxiety with Meet Up Guy is it too soon? I split with ex in Feb & met him in April. There was big article yesterday in Times ( though why should I believe anything funded by Mr R Murdoch? ) which stated "Thou Shalt Wait Two Years After Split Before Starting a Relationship". Probably not bad advice generally, but surely there are exceptions? I am constantly examining my emotions/ libido about my motivations, but, bottom line - he is a great guy, we share a sense of humour, great sexual compatibility, general lifestyle/values similar, so why wait two years?
Any thoughts on this gratefully received.

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scrazy · 07/07/2013 21:11

Oh wine, awkward Grin.

scrazy · 07/07/2013 21:12

Sorry Moan, meant to say, don't take much notice of what you read. Do you feel it with Meet up guy? If so then continue.

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Moanranger · 07/07/2013 21:45

Scrazy thanks for that - need reassurance - All is well.

scrazy · 07/07/2013 21:57

Saw something cheesy on facebook 'I'd rather have a life of 'Oh well's' than 'What if's'' something like that but it's a good motto.

AWarmFuzzyFuture · 07/07/2013 23:04

Too hot to sleep.

Night all x

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Kirstywirsty · 07/07/2013 23:19

wine go girl!!

I have gotten myself into a bit of a pickle .. As mr FriendofFriend has been on holiday and I have had about 3 texts from him in over a week I decided to go onto POF just for a bit of banter .. I've ended up with a coffee date for tomorrow night with a guy who seems nice but I am pretty sure I won't fancy him and also I feel bad about mr FriendofFriend .. As it is a RL going out sort of thing I think and although he hasn't been in touch much I know he likes me a lot through our mutual friend .. Once Mrniceguy started messaging me I didn't really know how to politely bow out and he is talking about meeting someone to go on holiday with etc .. I feel like a baaad person :(

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TheTitleSaysItAllReally · 07/07/2013 23:20

fuzzy hear hear. I'm roasting!

I also can't stop thinking about a certain man Blush It's very nice, don't get me wrong, but its almost as if having the chat and getting a positive response has given my emotions free rein Hmm So now, instead of just going with the flow, I'm almost more stressed and wound up than I was before! Hmm

I don't think I'll ever be satisfied!

I think having kids (and them needing to be in utter ignorance at the mo) could well be a very good thing. It's forcing me to keep it slow because I can't see as much of him as I'd like. Does that make sense?

scrazy · 07/07/2013 23:35

Title, yes it does make sense as the DC's and their needs come first and always will. Anyone else needs to fit in and not take up too much of your valuable time and emotions.

Kirsty, if it doesn't 'feel' right then don't do it. You are in control. It's difficult though as he might be really nice in RL, but instinct is telling you differently isn't it?

Roasting is the word, I've really burnt today, stupid me didn't put any sunscreen on and I've been in the garden in my bikini for a couple of days thinking that my tan from my hols will have given me protection. DOH! Supped a bottle of wine so hope it makes me sleep in this heat. I'm on hols from work tomorrow and am going out somewhere with DD.

scrazy · 07/07/2013 23:38

Also Kirsty, 3 text if someone is on holiday abroad is good contact Grin.

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Kirstywirsty · 08/07/2013 06:35

scrazy Mr FriendofFriend is in the UK!! Last I heard from him was Wed and before that was Saturday .. And he's not back till this Saturday

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scrazy · 08/07/2013 09:03

Kirsty, I think the contact level is about right for early days.

Slight hangover here, got a day off so heading to the seaside this afternoon. Had a booty call last night, as if, DD is living with me and it was late. Pity though as I really need to move on even if it is just a meaningless fling for starters. See if he tries to make an effort to actually arrange something, then I might go.