Dating thread 58 everyone welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. loo update is mandatory

OWW I was looking for the special edition elderflower Pimms today and bloody Waitrose didn't have any, I mean what is the point of being exiled down south if you can't get access to poncey southern drinks ? Sheesh. The elderflower liqueur is St Germain - mmmmm.

I think I've gone native.

They have it in our scuzzy northern Tesco Nora - hope it'll be reduced soon as it didn't seem to be very popular. All the normal Pimms had gone so I had to get something called Jeeves which is actually acceptable and very cheap need to find StG tomorrow - that can be my Sunday challenge.

Forgot to mention he had a cover for his phone and camera. Pink and black.

Under the affluence of incohol ( not Pimms) I'm pretty well fed up with OD.

What a bleeding irony that DD has just 'accepted' and wants me to 'get out there' dating, I want to chuck it all in?

I know, I could only find one bottle of the normal stuff today, I think there must have been a Wimbledon related stampede for it. Pah, again.

Wisey that's because OD is 96.4% absolute bobbins, sit on the sofa for a bit.

OWW I didn't read your post until just now when I came on to say that the conversation has been had! Everything is ok, we're on the same page

So now I feel safe to have a congratulatory whoop whoop! It feels most bizarre - I only signed up to match in May, yet here I am feeling mighty positive about my one and only date so far. Its not what I expected at all, but I'm not complaining. I hope it continues well, but I'm going to try my best to stand a little bit back.

Its going to be hard though. I like him an awful lot. Today was great - lunch, drinks, canalside walk. Lots ofchat but lots of companiable silences too, which wereawkward at all, just peaceful and chilled.

Happy, happy days

Which WEREN'T awkward at all...

Oh, and I have a bottle of pimms here

Whoop title

Hi all didn't get to loo and then he drove me home and as I was so late went straight out with friends!!
A good afternoon I think he seemed a real nice guy, really polite, honest ( some ' out there' questions) but we chatted for ages in pub then had coffee . When he dropped me off he didn't mention repeat but said he had a good afternoon. I thought oh well that's it . then later got text - had a great time lets meet again soon. Was with girlfriends so we spent 20 mins constructing reply which was casual yet interested in equal measures.
Oh god not sure if 2nd date is worse as I was a bit meh about it . (: he's away this week on business so will have to wait till he's back . Not sure how I feel. We had fun I just think I'm sooooo out if practice!!!! And possibly avoiding any emotional attachment at this stage. A friend asked do you fancy him??? Not sure she asked does he repulse you ? Definitely not. But not sure where in the middle I am .
Over thinking again ???

Online dating is 96.4% bobbins.

Over it can take a while with some people to know either way whether they fancy someone, with others it's immediate. I am in the latter, although with Lab I was (ie, I was intrigued by him) until I kissed him. What type do you think you are?

Title you are one of the OD lottery winners! I am thrilled for you. Send me some of your good luck.

Wisey WFF budges up on sofa making room for Wisey.

OWW Alpha sounds lovely, fingers crossed for you.

Morning Twinny and Newstart

Apologies can only do current page mention, as rushing to go out this morning.

I hope all is well and continues to be well.

X

fuzzy perhaps now is the time to be entering the national lottery then?! Basically I asked if he was still online and looking? Because I really like him and I'm not looking. That I want to see where this goes. So I'd rather know if he was because I dont want to get hurt finding out later. I told him I wouldn't feel comfortable arranging other dates and that I didn't want to. I also told him I wasnt planning our retirement together or anything, just in case he thkhght I was looking at wedding venues or anhthjng daft...!!

So I'm happy and positive and actually looking forward to things

My mother came home Tuesday. It has not been easy. Spent nearly all day there yesterday. Mum was in a a state, took me hours to get her calm. I am dreading being back at work next week and not on hand to help. I was feeling pretty crap last night.

Which brings me to Mr R&R and his Mother. A potential deal breaker for me. He spent wednesday night at his parents, also went over friday afternoon as she wanted something doing in the garden that couldn't wait until saturday, he had already planned to go for the weekend.

He knew I was upset, but no way could he even offer to come over and see me as his Mother would of gone ballistic and not spoken to him for weeks. He has told me this is how their relationship has alway been. I didn't expect him to come, its more the fact that he couldn't. Am I being unreasonable about this?

Sorry for the me, me post.

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Title how lovely to hear that it's all going so well for you, I think someone said yesterday that as well as obviously being fantastic for you, it gives the rest of us hope that good things do happen.

48 I'm sorry to hear that about your mum, what's her care package like ?

As for R&R, that kind of business is always hard (one of the myriad issues I had with exh was his failure to deal with his overbearing harpy of a mother ) - you have such a great relationship with him, have you told him how that made you feel ?

Brilliant stuff Title, really chuffed for you. Sounds perfect, it really does.

Wisey we're just holding out for the other 3.6%. You've probably got your stats spot on!

WFF have a great day out.

Raen could be worth a second date to see if he's a grower. It can happen!

All is well here, drinking coffee in the sun and contemplating tackling the jungle masquerading as my back garden. Life is good.

48 sorry to hear about your mum. Is her partner at home with her? Must be really hard.

The R&R stuff - could it seem worse because you're feeling low and stressed about your mum? It's not great, but I'd say for me it wouldn't be enough to finish such a wonderful relationship over. Hugs to you love, hard times.

Kin Mums care package is not great. Our chosen private care company couldn't commence with the level of care we require for a few more weeks yet. But the hospital were pushing mum out wether we were ready or not. At the moment we have waking night care, and 4 visits per day. The care company are shite though. Honestly its a fucking nightmare.

I have spoken to Mr R&R before, it is difficult because his mother is in her 80s now. It makes me go into 'fuck you, who needs ya' mode. It doesn't help that he is the youngest and only boy. He has said he feels bad for all the crap that has happened over the years, even though none of it has been his fault. Honestly. Grow a fucking pair!

Crossed post OWW Yes her partner is there, but he is not the sort to phone care company and get them back as I had to yesterday. Surrounded by fucking men without any balls!

Gotta get over mums now.

Yay title!

Really hard with parents 48, sorry it's so hard ypur mym. my ex in laws were v v clingy and intrusive so get that one. The were inclusive too, the 'love' was over whelming at times, anyway as soon as we split my father in law won't even look my way!! Love, ha!!

Hope mr r&r realises how to prioritise his life.. Might take him a while to see its necessary but he has always sounded level headed and fair...

Raenbow sounds worth a 2nd date but don't pin hopes? Or maybe arrange a phone call?

Sorry for all those I've missed, I did like you getting out your lap top oww!

You guys have some great things to say

Still speaking to TW - he seems very keen, need to get. Sitter sorted for wed or thurs..

Sounding really good New. I like keen - but not too keen. Gawd I'm a fussy mare. Alpha is keen though and is secure enough to show it which I really like - none of this second-guessing, mixed messages or does he/doesn't he stuff which I found so difficult with LM. Do you think you'll be able to get a sitter okay?

48 so sorry to hear your Mum's care needs so much vigilance. Must be hard for you and them.

With R&R the difficult parents thing can be overwhelming and eventually just lays there like a weight. He's probably taking the line of least resistance because its easier, she's not going to change now and 4 weeks is a long time for the guilt ridden to bear when a parent is 80.

Suggest saying you understand with a side order of extra spelling it out for being a bit crap, then leave him to it.

Hope your Mum settles soon x

Mum is good Rocket up care companys ass did the trick, for now.

To be fair Mr R&R did check with me before confirming arrangements, he just doesn't seem to get that the situation with my mum is a roller coaster ride. To make matters worse no reception where his parents live so not heard a dickey bird.

I know its difficult for him the way his mother is, will go with your advice Juliette

Never bloody easy is it.

Thanks all.

Wine excellent, you're getting good results already