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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Off On A Journey Far & Wide, Full Of Support, With No Reasons To Hide.

999 replies

Mouseface · 23/06/2013 23:19

Hey, I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes on this Bus. :)

We're heading to sobriety, in various different ways, in our own different ways, some of us are there, some not quite yet.

We're a group of non judgemental, mothers, wives, partners, sisters, daughters, girlfriends, and of course all of the male equivalents that run alongside those 'tags', but most of all, we are, or we have been, just like YOU. :) Real people with real concerns about how much we are drinking all of the time.

Our relationships with alcohol are varied, and you'll find most of us are wanting to do something about it..... desperate to stop the cycle of drinking, stopping, drinking, stopping, drinking more, stopping for shorter periods of time and then the reverse, doing ever so well and then 'something' happens and you're back to square one, a place that sometimes gets a little crowded, one little square filled with lots of people who all want out.

Sound familiar?

You're never alone here. Ever.

Come and take a seat, post or lurk. We won't bite but we WILL look after you, SUPPORT you, if you want us to. :)

And for those want to know how we've ended up where we are today, about three years on from THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE

To our last thread JUST HERE

It will be lovely to meet you so why not take a seat and have a gossip about all things booze related but also, DCs, husbands, wives, in-laws, out-laws, and everything in between.

There's always a seat for YOU xxx

OP posts:
PervyMuskrat · 28/07/2013 10:04

Sorry to lower the tone but have just snorted tea at "vodka and come". Sounds delicious Grin

greeneyed · 28/07/2013 10:36

Morning babes and welcome bambam

Pink01 · 28/07/2013 10:49

Welcome BamBam, well done for posting. Welcome to the bus Smile

You have made the first step by saying you need to tackle your drinking. I have great sympathy about your dad, I also lost my dad to drink and I know how you feel about not wanting to go the same way.

From this horrible experience you will know that unfortunately you can't really influence someone else's drinking so I would say to concentrate on yourself and cutting down your own consumption. Hopefully your partner will then also cut down but this has to come from him. It takes a lot of energy and willpower at times to do this so begin with yourself and see what happens. I hope that doesn't sound too blunt.

Some of us in the bus want to stop altogether and others are just trying to control consumption. Keep posting and let us know how you get on. There is always support here Smile

Day 35 here for me. Still doing ok. Thanks again to everyone for their thoughts yesterday.

Will post again later

Pink X

Ps Lonnika, yes, we have done week one. Can't believe it. I've just worked out that if I can get to the end of August I will be over the magic 60, will be 67 days then.

Pink01 · 28/07/2013 10:50

Ps well done to Jango, Thisis and Edin. Great work babes. Apologies if I have forgotten anyone.

Pink01 · 28/07/2013 10:52

I did I forgot Green! Well done Green. I really like Edin's system, a great way of keeping track. If I could moderate I would use it but I'm not sure if I can. X

ThisIsMyTime · 28/07/2013 13:35

Hi ladies day 7 for me feel like swinging from the ceiling never made it to day 7 in a long time well done to bam bam for posting it does get easier over time pervy :) ha ha hello to everyone else green lon pink Guggenheim. Sorry if I have missed any one out x

ThisIsMyTime · 28/07/2013 13:37

Ps is it normal to crave fizzy pop when ppl are not drinking ?

ThisIsMyTime · 28/07/2013 13:37

And bread?

PervyMuskrat · 28/07/2013 13:51

Thisis I've just had two freshly cooked bread rolls with loads of butter and a pint of Coke Zero for lunch. Does that answer your question Wink ?

Ok, I'm off camping now for a couple of nights in potential thunderstorms with a potty training toddler. If I can get through this without drinking alcohol, I can get through anything. Wish me luck!

ThisIsMyTime · 28/07/2013 13:53

Omg so Am i I how strange we will get each other through it xx

ThisIsMyTime · 28/07/2013 13:55

Going camping I mean x

lonnika · 28/07/2013 15:27

Pervy I can see where u got your name from :). being sober has not improved my typing -
Good luck to you and this with the camping :).
Pink - you will easily do over the 60 days :)
See u later babes x L x

Edinbugger · 28/07/2013 19:57

Oh FFS. I hate myself. Just been to in - laws where planned to drink a glass or two max of wine and I'm sitting here stabbing at my keyboard absolutely pished. What the FUCK is wrong with me? My contact lenses have dehydrated and stuck to my eyeballs, I had pathetic secret top ups of both wine and whisky and I've just spent the last 15 minutes trying to change my MN password cos I'm so pissed I couldn't remember it.

It's the same pattern every fucking time. Lots of smug posts about how fab I'm feeling and how great it is not to drink then BAM - completely pished. I HATE it. Now I'm double fucked cos I've a work deadline for tomorrow morning and I'll have to sit here - barely able to type - until I've finished the job in the wee small hours.

Arse. Fuck. Wank.

Hope everyone else is doing better than me.

As you were.

guggenheim · 28/07/2013 20:15

Edin poor you! in laws are a bloody treat to sobriety Smile Drink lots and lots of water and get an early night.
Maybe print out your post and keep it for next time you see the Ills,might help you stay off the wine.

BamBam welcome. Well done for posting and for taking the alcohol situation seriously. Sounds like a very difficult situation and nothing is ever made better by drinking. Look after yourself and your own sobriety and I hope your dh is able to stop or to control his drinking too.Good luck.

Potty training and camping and staying sober? Bloody hell. Potty training has tested me to the max. Actually,ds has tested me to the limit many times. Enjoy the camping babes and I hope the sun shines.

Sunday has always been a big drinking day for me (well,so were friday and saturday tbh). Somehow the combination of a day off,nice food but followed by work the next day meant that I wanted to drink. I imagined that I was putting off Monday morning somehow,by drinking. Obviously I was delusional and Monday morning was crap due to being hungover or still a bit pissed.

If you haven't had that 1st drink by now then please don't. Really,really not worth the stress of a hangover.

guggenheim · 28/07/2013 20:16

treat ???? No,no they are a THREAT to sobriety.

I'm only on the lemonade,promise. ffs.

lonnika · 28/07/2013 21:06

LOL Guggenheim you clearly suffer from the same typing disease as me :)
Day 90 for me :). Day 90 -
Edin - you are doing great you have just had a blip that will make you stronger - :)
See you tomorrow babes :)

ThisIsMyTime · 28/07/2013 21:22

Edin I'm exactly the same first glass leads me down disaster path don't worry Hun tomorrow is a new day, well end of day 7 which is a milestone in its self for me away for a few days camping ( should be fun) hope every one has a great week this week will try to keep postin as I know temptation will be inevitable whilst I'm away but hay ho can only do my best. Edin try not to beat urself up too much we have all been there many times before love and hugs to every one night night xx

jango36 · 28/07/2013 22:16

Hi all ;)
day nine for me. Must say had to fight hard today... Its the weather, the weekend and sheer stress that makes me think oh go on just a couple.. I know it wouldnt be just a couple though would it?
What I want to be able to do is get to that stage. Question is how?
Is there a safe time to try? Should I go for another week af then try?
I just dont know. How I envy peeps who can do that.
guggs relate so much to your post about sun being a struggle.

pink go girl! you are doing so fab!

edin sending you hugs. God I have done what you have countless times. You know tomorrow is your new start and it is a blip that is all. Wish I could give you great advice but I need the answers too x

PERVY hi :) enjoy camping.. Ive been a few time and enjoyed it as long as no rain! never taken my little one tho lol

well I will say night night now and am thankful that I will wake with a clear head (well sort of)!
Hi to all other babes, love reading all of your posts xx

BamBam21 · 28/07/2013 22:33

Hi everyone, and thank you for all your lovely words of welcome. I am typing this with a cup of tea in hand, rather than a vodka and coke like last night, so it's a start!Smile To all of you who advised me to look after myself, and that DP has to want to help himself too, you are all absolutely right. We both have said that we want to knock this on the head, and I know I mean it, and I really hope he does too. We quit smoking together about 10wks ago, and I feel like this is the same, we just have to make that initial jump IYSWIM.

Anyway, I had a really small drink earlier (honestly, just a wee one!), and I will tell you why. I have been feeling a bit funny that last few days - lightheaded etc. Did a pg test this morning, and very faint BFP. Over the moon, and DP rushes out to get a digital test to confirm, and comes home with a 2-pack of Tesco digital ones. The test comes up with "Pregnant", but then I stupidly did the other one about 3 hours later and it was negative. Cue DP rushing out for some more tests, comes back with a 2-pack of Clearblue, not the digital ones. I did one, negative again. I am going slightly mental, and will do the other test in the morning! At the rate we are spending money on tests, we won't have any cash left for booze!Grin Sorry to inflict my crazed ravings on you all!Blush

ThisIsMyTime · 29/07/2013 06:51

Day 8 :) had strangest of dreams last night, dreamt I was having a drink with friends then woke up suddenly waiting for hangover as I thought it was real then realised I hadn't had a drinks never felt so made up in all my life what a strange feeling x

lonnika · 29/07/2013 07:35

Hi Thisismy time apparently that is common. When I was dieting I used to lays dream I had eaten a huge chocolate bar which is common too -!
Bambam - sounds like you will have a good reason to give up :)
Morning to the rest of you babes - got a busy day which is just the way I like it - see you all later :) L x

babyjane1 · 29/07/2013 08:18

Good morning lovely babes, feeling shite, had wine friday saturday and Sunday, we had visitors on Friday and that started me off. edin I feel so much for you and I totally understand, I'm always banging on about how fab I feel after any bout if sobriety and then BOOM one glass and I'm hooked. guggen your posts are brilliant, always very observant, your soooo right, I want wine on a Sunday to "shake up" sunday before Monday, it's ridiculous how my crazy mind can come up with all these justifications. I'm really really weary going through this weekly cycle, it's holding me back from living the life I want and takes up far too much headspace!!! I'm considering AA or antabuse to strengthen my resolve!!! Well done to all doing so well, keep going and inspiring stories about weight loss, great skin and swishy hair welcome here... All support greatly appreciated x x x x

greeneyed · 29/07/2013 08:43

baby you can do it, if you really WANT to. There is an exercise on the SMART website where you write the pros and cons of drinking. I found it useful as whilst there were some pros the cons far outweighed them and seeing it im black and white it is a no brainer that it is NOT worth it. I am maintaining my resolve by reminding myself daily about why I don't want to drink. I am reading about the health effects daily to keep it fresh in my mind.

You've proved to yourself you can do it when you have a really good reason to dcs, SS. Keep reminding yourself of your reasons x

Edinbugger · 29/07/2013 08:57

Bleurggggggggghhhhh. Morning all and thanks for your kind words. I'll join you in feeling shite this morning baby. Hangover not helped by the fact that I had to get up at 5am to finish the work project that I could have knocked off in half an hour last night if I'd been sober.

Anyhoo, today is a new day and I'm back on the bus (or will be after I've had a shower, I'd forgotten how horribly sweaty drinking makes me).

Bam Bam - in the MN rule book a positive is always a positive but a negative is not necessarily a negative. (Hides excitement at having a genuine 'babe' on the brave babes bus...)

babyjane1 · 29/07/2013 08:57

green your right ofcourse x x x